Since ancient times, our country's parents will be for their children to work all their lives, from the birth of the child will be all, they can eat and wear moderation, but can not suffer the child. Every stage of a child's life is a hurdle for parents. When they are young, they worry that their children's academic performance is not good enough for them to get into a good school; when their children grow up and become adults, they fall into the anxiety of whether or not their children will be able to have a good job; and when their children have a successful job and their families are stabilized, they start to worry about their children's next generation.
We should put ourselves first in our life, and with the ability to love ourselves, we can better love others. But in reality, it's hard for both parents to live just for themselves at retirement age. From a legal point of view, parents helping their children with their children is a kind of affectionate mutual aid, not a necessary obligation. In other words, parents are just extending their love for their children to their grandchildren, and there is nothing wrong with them not doing this kind of behavior.
The old man's love of children is mostly blind love, and even unilaterally became the umbrella of children. Such protection makes the already bratty children even more uncontrollable and intolerable to their parents. They want their children to be understanding, not just hiding under the shelter of the elderly, and this kind of upbringing is not good for growth and development.
Moreover, many old people like to make their own decisions and prepare a lot of prescriptions or snacks for their children, while modern parents will control their children's snacking habits for the sake of their children's health, and the old people's constant pampering will disrupt their nurturing programs and provoke family conflicts.
Most importantly, accompanying children is time-consuming, and choosing to help take care of them means sacrificing their own time. They can't spend more time with their friends and their daily life can only revolve around their children, which is cruel to the elderly. Today, many of the post-90s have moved into parenthood, and the years of the post-80s becoming grandparents are not far off.
It goes without saying that young people nowadays, because of their generally high level of education, have developed a high sense of independence and know better that they are separate individuals from their children and parents.
Thus, they have expressed their hope that their parents can lead their own retirement life.
When parents are already tired, raising children does not necessarily prevent old age, and the latter's upbringing problems must be a double pain in body and mind. 90-year-olds believe that raising children is what they should do, and there is no need for their parents to experience the hard work twice.