In the world of relationships
it's all about mutual affection and care, not all about boys having to take care of girls, but girls just enjoying the benefits of being pampered and caring about what boys think. Feelings need to interact in order to maintain a smooth, and then continue to heat up, the boys will also have trouble, there will be tired.
Boys always let the girl tears, which shows that in this relationship, the girl's emotional input more, things in turn, girls take care of the boys, while the boys appear to care nothing, to say that the boys a little self-blame feelings are not possible, after all, it is their own girlfriends, just he is not very much care, and also not very much care just.
In this relationship you have to understand the position you are in, together with the simple, to maintain a heat is more difficult, I know you have a lot of heart, a lot of grievances, I do not know when to start, a very happy love become daily tears, and the other party does not care about it, this situation you have to do their own choices:
1, think about the previous you wonderful! time, want to find the previous feeling, when you cry in front of your boyfriend, he flowed out of a deep apology, while coaxing you, while holding you, that this boy can still continue to relationship, can go back to the past.
2, when you cry in front of your boyfriend, he just face perfunctory, the action is not very close, this moment he may be blaming himself, and then the sky is high, or I do what I do, just when you cry to give you proper comfort, which also shows that you gradually in his heart is no longer important to the real loss of time do not know the hard way.
3, when you cry in front of your boyfriend, he behaved impatiently, reluctantly, and even bad language, then you can completely let go, this time you have no place in his position, love, love is not to bend over backwards, not groveling, to the point that this moment of self-blame are not boys have no need to hold on to the unrelenting.
Thanks for inviting me to answer this question, I'm a love analyzing class, focusing on solving the psychological, emotional conflicts.
First, there is a saying that tears are a woman's weapon. On the one hand, women can fully reveal their soft and tender side through crying, so that men have a strong desire to protect.
Generally speaking, the establishment of deep feelings with the laugh and cry have inseparable links, if a woman for you to shed tears, or she can be in front of you have no qualms about tears, it can only show that your intimate relationship has developed to a certain level of deep stage. So, the woman's tears, but also love and emotional proof oh.
Secondly, girls cry because of what? Generally two motives: one is to express the need, and the other is to express emotions. Sometimes it is a combination of the two.
If a girl often cries, it is often to express needs and often express emotions. Then you have to think about it, what are her needs and emotions? If she has a simple need that has not been met, and she is in tears all day long, then shouldn't the guy blame himself, I think he should. If she cries a lot because she expresses her emotions and wants to be understood, there is also the problem of why the boy doesn't coax him? If he sees her crying, can he bear to see her cry? If not, it will also blame himself.
Third, there is also a situation where the girl really tears as a "weapon" to engage in some emotional manipulation and emotional kidnapping, this situation, perhaps should not blindly blame themselves.
You see, you make me angry, let me cry! How you should have, but you just didn't do it, did you! Even though my needs are unreasonable and I want the moon in the sky, whether you can pick it for me or not, you're making me cry now, and that's what you're doing wrong. You didn't pick the moon, fine, but you made me cry, so you always know what you should do next!
Thank you heavenly little secretary.
Back to business. When a girl often cries in front of a guy, will the guy blame himself? The answer is yes. Not only will he blame himself, but he will also feel heartbroken and anxious.
The girl cried, the boy will blame me where to do bad? Where did you hurt you? I am incompetent. I am incompetent. Even the girlfriend can not coax. The boys are very difficult to make.
If the reason for crying is some small things, you can still coax, if it is some small things, you can still buy, the boy's guilt will not be great. Because he can fix it.
If it is something that men can not do, can not finish things. That will take the life of the boy. You want him to be an official, you want him to buy a house, a luxury car, you want the heavenly monthly family, boys can't do it then. They'll be miserable. They'll feel aggrieved. They will feel bad for the rest of their lives. Because did not let you, his girlfriend to live a happy life.
A part of the boys will think about how to leave you.
At first, they will, but after much crying, they will be more upset than remorseful.
Because I am such a crybaby girl. Usually and my husband a little bit of unpleasant, very easy to tears, I know myself is not much, but just want to cry, as if the tears fall down to take away the bad emotions, and every time you can not cry, as if the memory of the past all the unhappy, and then can not stop crying.
When we first started talking about friends, my husband was very nervous when I cried, and then ran over to apologize and coax me, and then after we got married, there were a few times when he didn't coax me, but complained in a low voice next to him, and it wasn't that big of a deal, you just love to cry, and I cried even more after listening to him, and then he started to coax me because he found that I'm a person who eats softly but refuses to do hard things.
In fact, I hate myself in the relationship of the two faults, one is love to cry, the other is good at the cold war, but it is difficult to change. And I'm actually a very reasonable person, but as soon as I get angry with my husband, I don't want to say anything. I am outside, suffer a lot of grievances will not shed tears, but in front of my husband is very love to cry, change can not be changed.
But as a girl, I really don't like to move on the crying girl, so sometimes I'm quite annoyed with myself, if often cry, boys will really annoyed. But I'm the kind of person who cries fast and gets well fast, and my husband is used to it. Sometimes jokingly he would call me a crybaby, he said that crying may be a way for me to vent my emotions, just like a man who is tired and does not want to talk is the same.
So, it's best for girls not to cry too often, and it's good to meet a guy who understands what you're doing, but if you meet a man who hates women who cry, he'll surely annoy you to death.
If you are very much in love, there is a sense of self-blame, if you are faint love, inevitably Mo regarded. A woman loves you, only face you ha vent, cause you to care, cause you to sympathize, if you have the same feeling, sympathy generates love, to achieve her purpose.
Girls often cry in front of their boyfriends, boys will have a sense of self-blame?
I think the first few times there may still be self-blame, after all, a little bit just started to fall in love, a sudden attack between the girlfriend cried, they are not accustomed to, do not adapt, a little panicked. And then constantly looking for reasons, which place they do wrong to cause their girlfriends to cry.
Crying is mainly aggrieved, the heart suffocated, and then the tears fell involuntarily. Girls are very self-confident, a little less than ideal, it is easy to feel aggrieved, and then tears.
If a boy realizes that he has done something wrong, then he will pay special attention. Try not to say or do the wrong thing and make the other person sad and cry. If it is not their own doing wrong, just a kind of emotional catharsis of the female side, the man will have to look at it, to not spoil their girlfriends.
If they are very favorite girlfriend, a reasonable girlfriend, is a lively and lovely, do not give themselves to create pressure girlfriend. The man will find ways to be careful with his words, and if his girlfriend cries, he will also go to comfort. If it does not belong to the previous kind of girl, then do not spoil it. Who does not have a little temper?
Just you women have a temper, uncomfortable, unhappy to cry? As if the man bullied her. I'm not sure if you're a good person, but I'm a good person, and I'm a good person. Once or twice can tolerate, more, the heart has been numb. It will not be old and spoiled. Talked about on the talk, talk not to break up, love should be happy, can not bear high pressure every day.
So I think the latter will not have a sense of self-blame. He will feel that the girl is unreasonable, or because of crying too many times to seem tears are not worth it.
If you meet a hard-hearted boyfriend like the latter, break up.
I think girls cry in front of boys, boys will certainly blame themselves.
Girls cry for a reason, maybe the boy made her angry, so she will cry ah, the boy should not gloat, should be good to comfort her ah.
Take my own experience.
When I met my girlfriend, I was often angry with her, but every time she cried, I was actually very hard, and I would have coaxed her.
I remember once, I went to the game hall with her to play games, there is a dancing machine game seems, I went to play with her. Then I put in the coins and started to play. Then I played a song from beginning to end. Then I saw that she seemed to be unhappy, and tears started to come out of her eyes. I realized then that I was focused on playing by myself and didn't care about her feelings. She was crying like a baby, wah wah wah. But it felt so hard inside. I shouldn't have done that to her. Playing games is all about the process of playing together. And I just so completely ignored her, feel very sorry for her, very self-blame.
Another time, I have not seen her for a long time, it is not easy to go on vacation, go to see her, take her out to play, and then I said her bad all the way, the result is that she also cried, and every time to cause her to cry, are particularly regrettable. In fact, we can think about it, a girl is willing to be with you, to accompany you through life, why do you want to make her angry, girls are used to pain, not to be used to quarrel scolding.
Sincerely hope that all couples. All treat their girlfriends well, do not provoke her tears oh.
Honestly, the boys will feel anxious when the girl cries, "this aunt and what's wrong", but generally do not have a sense of self-blame. Often, they think it has nothing to do with them.
Here's why:
Often, when you're crying your heart out, guys don't know why you're crying. "Why are you crying? Just now was fine?" Boys will be confused. Boys and girls don't have the same emotional sensibility. Most of the time, boys are less sensitive to emotions and girls are emotional creatures.
Boys are characterized by the fact that I will help you solve your problems; girls want to vent their emotions first, and then come to talk about things. Boys see girls crying, most of the time will ask: "What's wrong with you?" If the girl is slow to talk, young boys will feel that they can not help much, either silently accompany you, or silently play the game.
This situation is very common. The girl cried a lot and told the boys the reason, the boys will sometimes think "so small thing, as far as, thought it was something big". What do you think, "the other party does not love her", "love games do not accompany her", "can not sweet talk", "refuses to give her money "I don't know what to say. To some guys, these are incredible reasons to cry.
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If I were a guy, I wouldn't feel self-conscious because I wouldn't get a girl who cries a lot as a girlfriend. I think that girls who cry a lot are very unlucky. Also, girls who cry all the time will look bitter as they get older. If a guy has such a girlfriend, his own aura will be affected over time.
If I were a guy, I wouldn't choose a girl who is too cheerful, colorful, flamboyant, or laughs too much as a girlfriend. Of course, a girl who is full of joy would be much better than a girl who is often sad. But again, finding such a girlfriend would be too ostentatious.
If I were a guy, I would prefer, like myself, a girl whose heart is always full of joy, goodwill, emotionally stable, and who can be optimistic in the face of occasional unhappiness.