It's about reading and reading, and about the importance and experience of the educational process for children!
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There are two more poorly ignorant tragedies in the continuation of this tragic story about learning, reading and living:
Simply, capriciously, children are obsessed with "presidential" novels, want to work and so on. simply and capriciously blaming the child's obsession with "presidential" novels and his desire to work as a "budding princess" on the "novels".
Reading and learning are natural in today's society.
It's normal for any of us to follow the truth of a book, or even to admire certain qualities of its characters. It is also the ultimate purpose of reading!
So it's not the fault of reading, much less the book!
If you have a disease, you have a disease - obsessing over stories in your child's book as a disease.
I wonder if the child's parents have consulted in detail beforehand how many teachers, doctors, parents with the same experience.
The child's behavior as a "disease", as an irredeemable "sickness", hastily take the child to see a doctor, which may not solve the child's psychological cognitive disorders, and may polarize the child's psychological shadow. Especially after the medical treatment is not obvious effect, the people around may "look the other way", the child as "incorrigible" people! This will completely ruin the child's future!
This is the real tragedy.
The child's learning and growing process, without all kinds of problems, is not called "bear child"!
The newborn calf is not afraid of tigers, if the child because of curiosity and courage, and become a tiger's plate of food, this is not the child's fault, this our parents, society, education, the fault and responsibility!
Learning ≠ simply learning textbook knowledge!
Man this beginning, nature is good! The nature is similar, the habit is far away!
This "Xi" is not his "textbook" knowledge "Xi"! It is the study of cultivation and self-improvement! This is not something that can be accomplished with a small "textbook"!
The child in the story, should be in the family and school, in addition to textbooks and teachers and parents "required classics", basically did not read "their favorite books" of the poor! The "reading" bugs!
It is also the parents and society's educational purpose is shifted, only mandatory learning the importance of textbook knowledge and the learning process, ignoring the growth of the child's education, ignoring the child's growth process of the psychological and cognitive problems that lead to the child does not have the age of the perceptual ability, not the age of the ability to judge.
From the story, we can also see that the parents did not find and correct their children's tendency to read "presidential novels" in time, nor did they guide them. This is the same as most parents, who realize that as long as they get good grades in "textbook learning," they will be able to cure all of their children's "growth problems!
And similar problems, there are addicted to the game, the campus, outside the school students personal injury and so on, the reason, the most fundamental or parents and the community neglected to the child's ideological education and guidance!
So, it's us parents who equate education and learning with "textbook" knowledge, creating a new generation of "nerds", which is the main reason for the tragedy.
But the importance of the child's growth and education, not to completely eliminate the child's this kind of problem, but can be effective, timely correction, which is the essence of education, but also to the child really education into the talent, which is the education of the hardship and charm!
The meaning of a book is revealed when it is read a hundred times!
The prerequisite for reading a book a hundred times is: like it!
It is impossible to read a book a hundred times if you don't like it, and even if you are forced to read it a hundred times, it is impossible to reach the height and realm of "the meaning of the book reveals itself"!
Why emphasize the "reading" of the meaning of self-expression alone! Please see now two of our children's growth process, the most scientific "reading" process:
The first: young children's bedtime stories and books.
Children love stories, and they will pester their parents to tell them "a hundred times"! But in reality, there are probably very few parents who can be bothered!
In fact, any story, any book, can achieve the purpose of the child's education! Just "read it a hundred times"! Don't deny or distrust your child's "ability to learn"! This is the beauty of learning, this is the beauty of reading!
The bedtime story is actually the child's first exposure to learning and the charm of learning!
This reading process is so precious against our test-based education, and our parents' backward educational philosophy!
Parents must pay attention to it, must pay attention to it! Neglecting this process of education and guidance, the child in the learning process in the future, "the emergence of the story of the child into the devil" is inevitable!
In the bedtime story, there is also "Prince Charming", there is also "Snow White", why the child did not like the story of the child as "addicted" it!
After "a hundred times", the child "perceives" more good and evil than the "dream of the princess"!
In the "beginning of man", the child has obvious "perception" and "emotional power"! But later in the process of learning and growing, this "perception" and "emotion" is distorted and disciplined!
Two: the child's favorite books!
In between children's lives, there will be books they like, denying whether we adults approve or deny them.
This is not something that parents and teachers can accomplish guiding by recommending classic books.
I'm a high school teacher, and basically every class of students has a favorite "pop book"! These books are often listed as "banned" by "parents" and "teachers"!
In fact, this approach is too barbaric, too simple and too rough! It is simply not acceptable to children, and will not help! On the contrary, it may stimulate the child's curiosity to pursue such books even more!
Most of our teachers and parents "like" to force their children to recommend "so-called classics", which may be mostly "far away" from our lives. The children are not able to perceive the breath of life, so they don't like it much!
The only way to scientifically induce a child to read is to discover the child's hobbies and interests during the child's reading process, and then slowly guide them! Reading is a lifelong thing, can not be rushed, a short period of time to force the child can only be the child "forced" to the "president of the novel" this kind of novel above to go!
For example, as mentioned earlier, "high school students like popular books", if the child has liked and began to read, can only wait for its reading or in the process of reading guide, directly prohibit the reading of the child and can not appreciate its distance from their own real favorite books, like, the pursuit of cultivation, and so on, naturally, will not be selective, or stop reading. The child will not be able to appreciate the distance between the book and his or her real favorite, favorite, pursuit of cultivation and so on.
Third: the requirements of the reading ability of the college entrance examination and the public examination of the logical and analytical ability of the scientific guidance.
In all exams, there will be reading, and all will test the child's reading ability.
Our general approach is to talk about reading, scientifically speaking, is reading something that can be spoken! Can reading skills and appreciation be taught?
Take the simplest example: for a certain TV series, after watching it, everyone's experience and feeling cannot be the same!
The parents: a certain woman of all kinds of work, work is not dedicated and so on!
Children: cute as hell!
This is the generation gap! But it doesn't mean that there's a biased understanding of what the drama is ultimately promoting!
The test, in fact, is quite scientific! The orientation is also correct!
It's just that we've been too blind in our approach and too eager in our execution! Practicing and pursuing reading for the sake of reading!
For example, the simplest segmentation, the understanding of the meaning of the paragraph, the experience of the main idea of the article and so on! This is the most basic reading ability, but we tend to practice the process of "standardization", "uniformity"! It is necessary to reach a certain standard "answer"!
In fact, in a few paragraphs, as long as they can be separated according to their own understanding, basically completed the overall understanding! The fact that it doesn't match the "standard answer" doesn't affect the understanding of the final article! This is also the main reason why there are no low-level reading skills tests like "paragraphing" on the comprehensive exams nowadays!
And the multiple choice questions, they are "chosen", not "counted"!
This is a major misconception in our current high school and middle school learning and development process!
The college entrance examination and higher level examination, set up "comprehensive subject", is to test the students' comprehensive reading ability, that is, we now say "big reading" and "life reading! This is what we now call "Big Reading" and "Reading for Life"! The emphasis is not on the ability to comprehend and accumulate knowledge, but on the ability to accumulate reading!
What is particularly obvious is the "logical analysis ability" in the "public examination"! It is not a "divine ability" as we understand it, or a "divine help" if you master it!
The so-called "logical analysis ability" is actually the "depth" of reading ability! It is the continuation and extension of our middle school and high school reading ability! Is the problem described on the basis of the generalization of comprehensive understanding, judgment ability to test! There is no solid segmentation, comprehensive understanding of the passage and the ability to express the article, it is impossible to complete the "logical analysis skills" exercise or practice "logical analysis skills"!
More scientific, higher level of "logical analysis skills", there should be no very correct answer, only possibilities and tendencies!
That is to say, the conventional process of understanding and solving a problem is not likely to result in an answer at all!
So, parents and teachers, should be in the learning process, the scientific orientation of the child's reading habits, guide the child "read a hundred times" their favorite books! This is the most scientific, the most essential learning and reading ability exercise process! Leaving this essence, excessive pursuit of textbooks and topics, it is impossible to complete the exercise of reading ability and achieve the standard!
Additionally, this kind of isolated, even isolated learning and reading can only lead to the child's "mind" obviously lagging behind the age gap, which is also an important reason for the tragedy in the story!
In short, the "tragedy in the story" in the process of children's education is not a problem of the children's "value orientation", it is a problem of our parents' and teachers' inexperience in education and their failure to pay attention to the children's problems; it is a problem of the backwardness of our educational concepts and the emergence of a value orientation. It is the backwardness of our concept of education and the deviation of our value orientation!
Caused the child in the "learning process did not learn the knowledge, not to mention the ability to learn", on the contrary, become "waste"!
In fact, all the children in the process of growing up, there will be such a deviation, but the performance is not "obvious", the responsibility "unshirkable" in the parents, I hope that we when the parents continue to learn, update their own concepts, and continue to accumulate The problem is that once it happens, once it shows up, it's a "disaster" and can't be undone!