When mom is a little crooked, parenting is very positive! (Wen | crooked mom)
This has grown into an adult, but after having their own children, I have a more profound experience of this sentence, but also accompanied by a deep guilt of the parents.
90 colleagues Xiaoliu, from the beginning of the pregnancy, because her pregnancy reaction is relatively large, the mother from the hometown rushed over to begin to take care of her. The first time I saw this, I was able to get my hands on the car, and then I was able to get my hands on the car, and then I was able to get my hands on the car.
Xiaoliu watched his mother cooking and taking care of the kids every day, serving the family, which was really very hard. Finally, the child to the age of 3 can go to kindergarten, Xiaoliu is planning to let his mother back to their hometown to take a good rest for a period of time, but things have changed again.
Small Liu's mother fell at home , resulting in the lumbar spine part of the bone injury dislocation, hospitalized 20 more days, did surgery, but still can not sit for a long time or stand, moving to feel the pain
These are the first time in the history of the world that the world has been in a state of emergency, but the world is not the only one.
These are the first time I've seen this.
Later, when Xiao Liu talked to us about this, he said with tears in his eyes, "The most regrettable thing in my life is that I let my mom help me with my child! Now that my mom is like this, I can't do anything to make up for it! "
Everyone listening to the words of Xiaoliu are y touched, caused by the **** Ming. A colleague said: his mom is also a member of the army of grandmothers with children. After her retirement, mom could have lived a life of square dancing, playing poker, and chatting with her old sisters, but in order to take care of herself and her children, every day is a busy day, waiting for the young to wait for the old, but also often be lectured, not fall into the good.
According to relevant statistics, China now has 2000 million accompanying elderly people to the city in their old age, and the vast majority of them have to go to the city. The vast majority of these people are there to take care of their children, and most of them are grandmothers, and the number of grandmothers taking care of their children in the city is about 3 times as many as the number of grandmothers . So in most small urban families, grandmothers have become the absolute mainstay of child-rearing.
The reason why grandmothers bring up children has become a common phenomenon is also determined by the prevailing family relationship nowadays. After the child is born, the main responsibility of bringing up the child will fall on the mother, and as a grandma, on the one hand, heartache of their own daughters, want to share some ; on the other hand, as a daughter's replacement to take care of the child, you can liberate the daughter to go out and earn money, so that the small family more income, but also to avoid their own daughters in the future to be looked down upon . strong> . At the same time, the mother-daughter relationship and even the mother-son-in-law relationship will be more harmonious compared to the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship, avoiding the occurrence of many family conflicts.
But the consequence of this is that these grandmothers have suffered, some of them have given up their retirement life, some of them have come to a strange city from their hometowns, and some of them have to take care of their children as well as their families, which is really very hard.
Grandmothers are also getting older every day, they are sometimes a little uncomfortable, but also in the teeth , and so the daughter in law, on the one hand, to sympathize with the grandma's not easy, on the one hand, but also as much as possible to take care of the old man's life and emotions, do not just think about their own and the children, and ignored the feelings of the elderly.
Take the initiative to take on the responsibility of being a parent
The young parents should not leave their children alone because of the old man's help. After all, parents are the first guardians of their children, so they must take the initiative to take responsibility for their children.
When you get home from work, take the initiative to let the old man rest and take care of the children and do the housework yourself, so that the old man can have time to rest, otherwise the old man's body really can't take it. On weekends, young parents take the initiative to bring more children, on the one hand, to give the elderly rest and relaxation time, on the one hand, is also to give the child more companionship and love. In this way, the elderly can be easier, the child's growth is also more favorable.
Take care of the old man's mood
As the saying goes, there is a treasure in the family. Family members should take more care of the elderly, from life, little by little small things care. Take the elderly out for a walk on weekends, buy them things they need in life, take them out for a meal, such care will make the elderly feel warm.
Living together, the family should also be sympathetic to the old man's work and rest time, to respect their habits, but also more communication with them, so that the old man mood happy, such mood will also be infected with the child. At the same time, the parents themselves are the children's role model, so that the filial piety can be passed on.
Conclusion of the crooked mom:
Grandma has become the main force in the city to bring up the children, but as a young parent, don't take the grandma's help for granted, you should be grateful for it, thankful for their selfless efforts.
In life, we also need to care more about the grandma, their own more to take care of some of the tasks of the child, do some more chores, so that the elderly have to adjust the recuperation time, so that the cozy family atmosphere is conducive to the growth of the child and the family's well-being.
Today's topic: do you think grandma with children should be?