If you want to judge whether a woman is cultivated, you don't need to look at what she has done, just listen to what she has said.
When some people start talking, they are either aggressive, full of lies or nagging.
Such a person, no matter what he thinks and how comfortable he is, never considers the feelings of others, and his personality is certainly not much better.
On the contrary, it is those women with high emotional intelligence and good personality. You will find that they never say these three words.
Frank and angry words at the moment
Women are most likely to say angry words when they are angry.
Maybe it is casual, maybe it is a kind of enjoyment.
But if you say it from your mouth, the water under the bridge, whether you intentionally or unintentionally, will do harm to people around you.
Because angry words are often some unacceptable vicious words, and these are like knives.
Straight into the hearts of the people, the most ruthless and painful.
Remember that boy 17 who committed suicide by jumping off a bridge last year?
On the same day, he had a conflict with his classmates at school, so his mother was called to school.
On the way home, my mother kept scolding me because she was angry, such as "it makes trouble every day", "I don't study well, fighting is terrible" and "useless"
As a result, because the boy couldn't bear it, he suddenly opened the back door and jumped straight under the bridge.
Mother couldn't stop him from following, but watched the boy fall down and sit on his knee crying.
As the saying goes, "a good word warms three winters, and a bad word hurts people in June."
Because of a moment of anger, I didn't say anything. I scold my children, my husband, my parents ... The closer I get, the harder I scold, and the colder my heart becomes!
Even if you pull out the "knife" in the future, it is difficult to erase all the scars left in your heart.
Therefore, smart women know that impulse is the devil, and anger can't solve the problem. Saying some angry words will only make the situation worse, ruin your character and lose your image.
Complaints full of negative energy
I believe that there will be such a woman around you more or less:
When their lives are not satisfactory, they will only complain that their husbands are not motivated;
When the work is not smooth at ordinary times, I only blame the boss for being an asshole;
Seeing that others are doing well, you will only complain that the world is unfair;
……
Although they are not bad, their negative energy will exert a subtle influence and even hurt others. It is no exaggeration to say that every complaint is like a dark cloud in the sun, which can immediately turn people's mood from sunny to cloudy.
A netizen once said that her mother is such a woman full of grievances.
"I miss my mother very much when I am away from home, but I always want to hang up if I can't make a phone call for five minutes. I can't go home for three days and I can't help but want to leave.
Because she will only complain about how bad her neighbors are, envy the children of relatives how promising and filial, regret the sorrow and waste of her life, and complain that a pair of children owe doomed love.
She has never changed in all these years. The only thing I can do is to try to avoid being influenced by her imperceptibly. "
Zhang Ailing said, "What does Tang Minghuang love Yang Guifei? Not beautiful, but lively. Not every woman can have fun. "
In many cases, the lower the level of women, the more negative energy they bring.
They never find reasons for themselves, often have negative emotions, are negative about life, complain about doing this and that, and attack people around them just like cancer.
Life is not easy, and no one wants to get along with such a "plague god".
Everyone wants to live in an environment full of sunshine, vitality and positive energy.
So don't be a complaining woman. It is a wise choice to change yourself, change your life and improve your level.
Unfair gossip
Someone once said with emotion, "God gave women a beautiful appearance, but didn't give them a matching tongue."
It describes a woman who gossips behind her back.
Such people, no matter when and where, like to gossip about others, catch shadows, embellish, and add a little fun to their boring life.
I once read such a story on the Internet:
Neighbor Meilin divorced her husband, which made Sister Li, who danced square dance together, very tired.
It's someone else's business. As a result, Sister Li told everyone that Merlin divorced her husband because he had someone else outside.
As a result, rumors spread everywhere, and various versions began to spread wildly in the community. ...
Later, it was known that there was no mistress between Mei Lin and her husband, they just had different personalities. After consultation, they parted peacefully.
Many misunderstandings and malice in this world often come from idle people.
As the saying goes, three men hit a tiger, and one person's words are awesome.
A casual gossip at ordinary times is likely to become an unwarranted negative reputation, thus ruining other people's lives.
There is a saying: "human tongue is both the best thing and the worst thing." The lower the level, the more people like to gossip about others. "
Women who gossip about black and white every day are mostly unkind people. They have no bottom line and no morality.
And a woman with a really good character will be cautious in her words and deeds, which is a kind of respect for others and a constraint on herself.
Silence is golden, silence is bliss.
Those women who are angry, sarcastic, gossiping and have high emotional intelligence never say anything.
From now on, I hope you will stop talking and be a really kind and humble smart woman.