How to maintain a positive state in the face of living alone or being alone.
The key to being alone, but not lonely, is to have the "ability to be alone"
This ability means that you can still be comfortable with yourself when you are not doing anything. According to psychiatrist Winnicott, the ability to be alone is one of the most important signs of emotional maturity.
How do you gain the ability to be alone and not feel lonely because you live alone?
1. Learn to get used to being "alone"
aNo longer "afraid" of being alone
Only if you don't fear it will you be able to not turn down the opportunity to "practice" being alone later. "practicing" being alone. You can try to learn more about the benefits that having the ability to be alone may bring to you.
b Gradually acquire an ability to be alone through constant practice
such as meditation, taking a walk by yourself, or doing nothing alone in a café.
cFind a presence to "soothe" yourself
This presence can be a partner in a stable intimate relationship, or one that you have "created" for yourself through your imagination. By creating a (imaginary) "safe place" that you can go to at any time, you allow yourself to be "responded to" and "satisfied" when you need to be soothed, comforted, and accompanied. ".
2. Learn to reduce your loneliness
aDon't overuse your social life to distract yourself
If you do too much for too many people in order to reduce the loneliness that comes from living alone, and thus increase your connection with others, you'll end up exhausting yourself. This is a very important part of the process, but it is also a very important part of the process, and it is a very important part of the process.
Thus, loners should plan their social life wisely, and leave enough personal space and time for themselves to take a break from work and socializing.
b. Make good use of social networks
Psychologists have suggested that social networks, when used well, can also drastically reduce people's sense of loneliness and depressive state of mind. But the premise is that we need to use the network as a platform for establishing connections, expressing ourselves authentically, and interacting with others sincerely and kindly. Due to the problems of "living alone" and geographic distance, it is sometimes difficult to find like-minded friends, but relying on the convenience of the network, many people find it easy to find a soulmate.