Looking back on my way home from work, it seems like I've always been pretty happy and joyful, because I've always been able to enjoy myself.
So I'm going to share how I've been able to "goof off" all the time now.
1. Use the "what if ...... it would be better ...... now" moment.
I heard an impressive little story: "Friends to find me complained that: now the pressure is too much, the baby is difficult to manage, things are difficult to do, money is difficult to earn. You see I have long gray hair, but also more and more.
I listened, and then gently said: Imagine, if you are now serious hair loss, and is almost gone. Then feel your hair again right now, and isn't it nice to have gray hair. You can dye it any color you like.
She immediately laughed at that. "
I think this kind of mindfulness is particularly great! So I've been borrowing it to use, and it's worked a hundred times, and I'm in a better mood immediately.
2, with a low level of small success to coax themselves happy
I am really pentatonic, in addition to listening to the song, completely ignorant of music. But I have my waifu to inculcate.
So after a thousand choices, I bought an ethereal drum. Each note is attached to the tongue of the drum, and the sheet music has which I take the drumstick to hit which. I first find my own familiar songs, simple songs to knock, every time I can complete a complete knock a song, and then to be able to perform to the baby, but also provoked her - you can do it?
Of course, she didn't show any weakness, and every time she knocked faster and better than I did, she was able to get out of the hole, and she was willing to take the bait, and this kind of small thing, as long as I can pull down my face, it's always unfavorable.
Of course, a year down the line, I'm much more flexible, but also more or less a little rhythm, the child also developed a new hobby, not to repeat the mistakes like me in the music of no confidence.
There are other hobbies that I have learned by hooking my kids up, and I've benefited a lot from them.
3. I don't want to think about it so much first, just do it
I remember many times when I was suddenly caught up in a training session, and suddenly asked to be the first to share my insights in a meeting ...... Every time I would hear the order I would be very nervous, my feet would be weak, my hands would sweat, and I would feel terrible.
Then think about it, anyway, and then tangled on, with the "first don't think so much, first do it again," the stupidity, do a lot of stupid things, but also did a lot of the original do not dare to think not dare to do things.
In fact, every time the silly bold finish, I will repeatedly self-criticism, think I speak too bad, right? Is the dress good? Is the hair messy? ...... But the people who were listening that day said that it was rewarding, that I spoke well. I've been thinking since then that it's actually my own distractions that are too much. Slowly understand, you care only you care, in fact, others may not care so much about those points you care.
4. The small fortune of the nearby
I live in this area with a lot of snack stores and clothing stores, optical stores, clinics, and kitchen supplies stores and consignment stores.
There are also two large supermarkets and two food markets of varying sizes within a 700-meter radius, as well as morning and night markets when the city police are not out.
There is an elementary school and a secondary school right next to each other, so the bookstore and stationery store are close by.
With all these stores, I can get everything I need. I really like the fact that I don't have to go out of my way to do my shopping, but I can do it right in the neighborhood. Also, there are delicious cake stores and quite unique restaurants in the neighborhood.
I especially like the convenience of being able to buy a workbook in a few minutes without interfering with my child's homework.
5. Short escape and solitude
Every morning after sending the baby to the unit to work between the forty-minute interval, I chose from the beautiful scenery of the South Lake morning exercise: radio gymnastics, eight brocade, aerobics, square dance, women's dance ...... Anyway, there is a cell phone this big platform, randomly find something, followed by twisting followed by Hi! The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on the phone and get it to work.
At the beginning, sometimes you will learn to sing and practice Tai Chi or Jiamusi Gymnastics with the grandpa and the grandma, you really don't like the slow pace, and you don't like a big circle of people, and then you still feel that a person is more refreshing to toss, and then you will start to find a quiet corner on the single practice, and you will be oblivious to the people who pass by, and you will be able to enjoy yourself.
Sometimes, such as the baby on the tutorial class, I will be in the surrounding neighborhoods, street corners around the circle, a little bit of exploration, but also try to walk to the village has never been, through the hidden door, look at the clean and tidy yard, lush small vegetable garden, feel the crossing to the paradise ......
For example, every day after dinner
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5. Copying books
Sometimes I can spare some block of time to do something different from books, not simply reading, but copying books.
Choose a favorite pen and notebook, choose a favorite book, every day to copy a page or copy a paragraph - completely immersed in pen and paper, is very sure of the happiness of the moment.
A side benefit is that you get a clear sense of your emotions from the copying, settling your mind, and a method of self-observation.
I'm just so silly and happy to be alive, I'm pretty happy and good every day, I don't think I'll ever be depressed in this life, I'm always going to be a happy little kid.