But what I want to say is that some other people who have reached a relatively high level of piano, chess, calligraphy and painting will also have low self-esteem, and even self-inflicted inferiority, is not uncommon.
A friend said to me, once to go to a high-grade entertainment venues, the girls are beautiful, everyone will be musical instruments, everyone will dance, won the Grand Prize of not a few, but in that occasion to wear so little to please that disgusting fat men earn that kind of money, but also earn a limited amount of money.
I think their parents, training them to be able to play musical instruments and have talent, how much money and effort spent, but the result is just like that.
My friend and I sighed.
You say it's the fault of the people who emphasize moral education over talent?
It's not all that bad, but it's not all that bad. The key is that learning the piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, or any talent, should not be learned for the sake of pleasing others, learning for vanity and fame, learning for the sake of "not inferiority" for "better than others" and so on, and learning by comparison.
No matter what skills you want to master, you should be inwardly pleasing to yourself, for your own heart; outwardly exploring, for the development of a better world.
People who always have low self-esteem will have low self-esteem even if they are very good.
A person who wants to be confident can only come from themselves, and can not be obtained from others.
In fact, low self-esteem is a very common emotion. People in the life of the moment may have a sense of inferiority, such as congenital, physical defects, the status of the family, to go to the community after the conflict of interest between people, and so on, can make people have incomplete, not ambitious, worse than other people's emotions.
Even the best of us have had low self-esteem. Especially in front of their loved ones. For example, Eileen Chang wrote, like a person, will be humble to the dust, and then blossom.
In terms of self-confidence, I have to admire Phoenix. She said she is much prettier than Fan Bingbing.
Piano, chess, calligraphy and painting are just one's elegant hobbies. If you just take these as a means of survival, you might even starve to death. Van Gogh is an example. So there's nothing to be ashamed of if you don't know how to play the piano, chess, calligraphy and painting.
If you can play piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, it's certainly better to enrich your life and make it more meaningful. If you don't know how to do it, you don't have to feel inferior. Inferiority complex is a kind of psychological barrier, even if you know how to do it, there are still some things that you don't know how to do in your eyes, and you still feel inferior. Everyone can't be perfect, do what you are interested in, do it to the extreme. Others will envy you, this can not completely cure your inferiority complex, but at least you can still be good half of the degree! In fact, everyone has more or less a small side of the inferiority complex, but only have their own strong side will make their inferiority complex shrink a lot. Personal opinion, I hope to help you!
There is a piece of banter like this:
Because nowadays men love face, women love tickets.
Nowadays, girls do not know how to play the piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, laundry and cooking are too tired
Love first look at the ticket and then look at the face, pay a little bit of charge ......
The money strengthens the heroes courage, the modern no matter whether it is a man and a woman as long as there is a ticket, there is a face, maybe there is no inferiority complex.
The lack of cultural education and education, economic conditions, so that many people lost in the starting line, and the cultivation of a person's qinqi and calligraphy and painting skills, the same need for cultural education and economic support as well as family education and training.
Because of the different birth families, the different growing environment, the different family education and training will make, some people will not be zither, chess, calligraphy and painting will be inferior, but some people will not be inferior. Because some people feel that they can do anything, except that they can't do this, that they can't do that.
There is no need to feel inferior if you don't know how to play. As long as there are healthy hobbies, you can be very happy. Now the network game attracted a lot of low head of the eyeballs of the people, the popularity of the square dance called a lot of silver-haired people of the mother, the fashionable runners, swimmers, singers, fishing friends, ball friends, cut friends, orchid friends, technology friends, car friends, travelers, donkeys friends? These hobbies have greatly enriched people's lives. People cheerfully participate in activities, enjoyable exchange of feelings, which has a little trace of inferiority complex? People have their own strengths, and also have their own hobbies, love of life of hundreds of millions of people so also achieved this great world. The music, chess, calligraphy and painting are only part of the traditional culture in this big world. Simple life is full of joy and happiness, overflowing with a strong sense of beauty and hobbies, no knowledge of calligraphy and painting root carving friends can craft award-winning works, there is no talent for the qin and chess in the field of farmers will appreciate the pots and pans temporary combination of percussion, tree branches and grass stems anywhere layout of the mud chess? In fact, everyone has their own "qin, chess, calligraphy, painting, poetry, wine and tea".
I don't know what to say. I love painting, I loved it when I was a student, but in those days very few people learned it, and I wanted to learn it, but my parents said it was good enough for you to go to school, but I also wanted to learn to paint, and I was speechless, and I couldn't make sense of it, and I often imagined that I would be alone in the sky and the earth, in a fantastic environment.
I am 40 years old this year, but I am still looking forward to the day when I can pick up a brush and realize my lifelong dream
I hope that all of us can, in our busy schedules, listen to the music of the day, and enjoy the music of the day, and then we will be able to enjoy the music of the day.
Although the piano, chess, calligraphy and painting are marvelous, versatility is worth being proud of. But life has its own good, to say that the inferiority complex is not necessary. As long as you are open-minded and ask for advice, there are many places where you can further your education. The only way to be successful is to have a successful career.
The piano, chess, calligraphy and painting can be, but do not ask for precision. As the saying goes, this person is good at all kinds of music, chess, calligraphy and painting, is to say that a person is versatile, but the reality is that there are indeed many such people in society, but not all. These four kinds, reflecting a person's preferences as well as versatility, an attitude towards life? No matter what class of people can go to master, but will not mean that the person to be inferior and humble, you can also have other aspects of talent and technology, the world is very big, to learn and master too many things, as long as you like a certain kind of thing, to study and research, analyze and summarize. As long as you take it seriously, you can become an elite in any area!
Before I answer the question, I generally like to think about why the questioner raised this question. Could it be that the questioner has an inferiority complex because he doesn't know how to play the piano?
But as a psychologist, I have to say that it is rare to find people with low self-esteem because they don't know how to play the piano. Unless there is a special case where everyone around you knows how to play chess and calligraphy and you don't know how to play it, then you feel inferior to others and feel low self-esteem.
The so-called low self-esteem is the feeling that some parts of oneself are not as good as others, and these parts are not as good as others, but also most people are good, only they are not good. If most people are bad, then it doesn't matter that they are bad.
Qin, chess, calligraphy and painting belong to a class of human skills in the cultural and traditional skills, do not belong to the people usually should have, especially qin, chess, calligraphy and painting belong to the amateur interests and hobbies, even if you do not know such skills, but also is not something inferior, so generally will not be inferior to this.
If, as mentioned above, people around you know how to do it and you don't, then you need to look at it rationally. Because everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, you can't be the same as everyone else, you can just play to your strengths. If the environment requires that you will also, then try to learn, learn as much as you can; if it is not a special requirement, just go with the flow, do not have to force.
It seems that Yao Ming, the basketball player, doesn't know how to play chess, piano, calligraphy and painting.
It seems like Faye Wong doesn't know how to play the game.
In the development theory of a team, there is a short board theory, a bucket of water can fill how much water, by the shortest piece of wood in the bucket to determine. The effectiveness of a team may be affected by the weakest person on the team.
However, in the theory of personal development, it is to build on one's strengths and to develop one's strengths into strengths. Yao Ming has developed basketball well, and Faye Wong has developed singing well, which can become a unique landscape.
Each of us is unique, find your own strengths, favorite strengths that you are good at, and develop it well. The world is more colorful when everyone is different.
In Japan, there is a national treasure of cleaners, even as a cleaner, the most mundane work, but also to live into their own respect and admiration of the people.
Of course, a person who can play chess, piano, calligraphy and painting, and later develop into their own career or as a way to enhance their charm, cultivation or for themselves for the world is a wonderful thing.
Everyone is unique, so develop that unique self.
Everyone is unique.