You can never walk your own path well by following in someone else's footsteps

Let's imagine for a moment that each person's life is abstracted as a road, and that in the same space and time, your road is bordered by the roads of other people's lives. These paths are arranged in order from both sides, according to their closeness to you. This diagram explains why the closer the person is to you, the more influence he has on your life. Because he is closest to you, he is most likely to guide your life; and you are most likely to see his path and thus be influenced by it.

And as you become more and more concerned with what others say about you, or as you become more and more focused on the path of others, you lose yourself and don't know how to step forward.

I had an experience like this when I first entered graduate school life.

I didn't know what I was going to do every day, I didn't have a plan, and I didn't have a goal, so I got into the habit of watching others. I'd watch my housemates get busy, and I'd get even more hexed myself. I try to study what my housemates are busy with in an attempt to find my life purpose in their busyness. The truth is that this is futile. I was wasting my time and adding more panic to myself.

I even felt like a puppet of other people's thoughts. No matter what I do, I will be the first to consider what others think of me, so I can't read a book or write something in someone's place, and I'm even more afraid of communication, afraid of saying things that others don't agree with.

Until one day, I realized that I had become inferior, weak, and lost the ability to introspect in the process of focusing on others. I realized then how I could notice my own feet when I was always looking at others. Everyone is walking their own path, who has the heart to pay attention to you to change you?

When we were young, we hated it when our parents said, "Look at that whoever's child, how how ......" At that time, we had just built up a sense of individuality, and could only focus on ourselves, so we hated to reject this sentence from the bottom of our hearts and boasted of being a maverick. As we grow older, our cognitive abilities increase. As we grow older, our cognitive ability and thinking continues to open up, focusing on more and more things, but also slowly forget themselves.

The road of life, even if there are countless intersections with others, is to rely on oneself to walk. In the journey, try to connect the heart and footsteps, feel yourself in every fork in the road, every section of the uphill efforts and every section of the downhill loss. Take back the eyes drifting down on others, firm up your own steps, and get out of a road that belongs to you.