The laws of nature are cruel. Flowers bloom and fall, and people are born and die. These are all things that people must go through. Although they are sad, they are helpless.
Especially in the later years, people have changed from young people who used to be full of vigor to old people who are faltering. The difference between elegance and elegance is not great, and many old people can't adapt to it for a while. As San Mao said, "I haven't had time to be young seriously. When I understand, I can only choose to grow old seriously. " Since you can't change the fact that you are getting old, it is better to accept it frankly and make arrangements for your old age.
There is an 83-year-old grandfather Zhou in our village. Although his back is bent and he leans on crutches every day, his children are fine. Uncle Zhou always has a smile on his face, as if he were so happy every day. Every old man wants to be happy in his later years, instead of crying every day. To this end, I interviewed this old man who is over eighty years old. How did he manage to be so happy in his later years?
Uncle Zhou said meaningfully: "The life in his later years has long been doomed, depending on how the old man manages when he is young and whether he has a clear head."
It turns out that these four "sober" people are generally happy in their later years, without exception.
Uncle Zhou said that in their time, many people still had traditional ideas, and the marriage of their children was ordered by their parents. According to the matchmaker, most traditional parents think that they are the head of the family, and parents have the final decision on family affairs, regardless of their children's opinions. But many times, children are not satisfied with the marriage arranged by their parents. Maybe their children have a sweetheart, but their parents beat them. Finally, out of respect for parents, the child was not accused of "unfilial", but was forced to agree to a marriage he didn't like.
But after a few years, the old people will find that the marriages arranged by the old people themselves are often unhappy in the end. They quarrel once every three days or once every five days, and some of them get divorced if they can't endure it. Imagine that children have a hard life because of their parents' arranged marriage. Will they resent their parents for ruining their happiness?
Some old people are sober, and their children's feelings are left to them. It is young people who want to spend their lives in marriage. Old people play an advisory role. The real decision is still given to their children. It is not because the old people's own preferences determine the future happiness of their children. To say the least, the partner chosen by children will not resent themselves if they are unhappy in the future. Of course, parents still have the responsibility to let their children identify good partners, and suggestions and concerns cannot be less.
Most old people depend on their children for their old age. Only after giving birth can someone provide for the elderly. It's best to have a son. If you don't have a son, a daughter can do it.
Many children have no pressure when they are young, patting their chests to ensure that they will provide for the elderly in the future. Because the elderly are relatives, they believe in their children's "sweet words" and think about relying on their children to support the elderly after retirement. But when people are old, they know that when they are in good health, their children are filial and when they are in poor health, their true colors will be exposed.
Some old people are sober. For example, Uncle Zhou promised that his children would support him in the future. Uncle Zhou's idea is: "What children say and do is the best, but I have to be prepared for emergencies." Uncle Zhou saved a little private money when he was young, and the real estate license in the town has always been in his own name. Uncle Zhou said that unless he left, he would not transfer the house directly to the children. After all, many things are uncertain. Better be prepared.
As the saying goes, eggs can't be packed in one basket. Some old people regard their children's pension as the only option. If their children are in financial difficulties, the elderly will be caught off guard, while smart old people will regard their children's pension as a substitute. Whenever they have a reserve fund and a house to live in, it is safest to rely on themselves. This kind of cognition is particularly clear, and naturally it is easier to get happiness.
Old people spend a lot of time after retirement, and relatives and friends are walking slowly. Invite new friends to get together every day, and all kinds of banquets increase. Some old people go to places they are familiar with or unfamiliar with. Anyway, they are idle at home, so it's good to go out and make more friends. This kind of old man doesn't really want to eat and drink, mainly because he feels that there are many people in his heart. What the elderly fear most is loneliness. When there are many people, you can drive away the loneliness in your heart.
But we also know that in addition to food, we can't help drinking at the dinner table. Sometimes we don't want to drink it ourselves, but someone makes a toast. When people get old, they are not as strong as before. If they drink more, it will be bad for their health. If they attend more social parties, their health is likely to be unbearable. The happy life of the elderly in their later years depends entirely on their healthy bodies. If they are not healthy, what about happiness?
Uncle Zhou is sober. He doesn't need many confidants. Two or three is enough. There is no need to make new friends at meaningless dinners, which will ruin his health and waste time. Uncle Zhou likes to go fishing with friends and go to the park with his wife in his spare time.
Uncle Zhou can put off those meals that are not worth wasting time, and he can't refuse. He is also very self-disciplined on the wine table. No matter how others persuade him to drink, he never drinks too much. He can't ignore his health because of his so-called face.
Sober old people don't force themselves to do things they don't like for people they don't know. To put it bluntly, some people are not familiar with it. Why do you want to give him face and ruin his health? Not worth it.
Some old people are "old but not old", and their lives have passed more than half. Faced with the temptation of the world of flowers and flowers, they still have no self-discipline and wonder whether there is a "second spring" to find themselves, but many people who have this idea have a bitter ending. Even if you are cheated, you dare not say it. After all, this is a shameful thing. This is obviously a simple scam. The old man got in by himself and was laughed at when he said it.
Uncle Zhou told the story of his classmate Lao Zhang, who always had a wife. Once in a square dance, Lao Zhang met a big sister, who was very beautiful and eight years younger than Lao Zhang. The elder sister often asks Lao Zhang about dancing, but Lao Zhang who comes and goes can't resist the temptation. Since the two began to fall in love, the elder sister's personality has also changed. She usually asks Lao Zhang to buy clothes for her and often borrows money from Lao Zhang. Lao Zhang's pension is basically spent on this big sister.
Lao Zhang realized that this woman was only after his money, not because of his charm at all, but he regretted it too late. Finally, Lao Zhang borrowed money from Uncle Zhou, saying that he would give the elder sister100000, so that the woman would leave, or he would tell his wife that Lao Zhang was really having a hard time!
Uncle Zhou said, "When people are old, they still think they are young and energetic. At this age, they only care about money. My classmate Lao Zhang gave me great educational significance. "
The sober old man knows very well that the only person in the world who can always accompany him is his wife, and it is impossible to meet anyone who can accompany him through his old age.
When I was young, I weighed a few kilograms, but when I was old, I became a lighthouse. Old people should think about the reasons. When you are old, don't be happy if you are pursued. People are attracted by your pension, and it has nothing to do with charm. Old people should be awake.