Nowadays it seems that more and more people are confused between work and marriage, because often there is a conflict between work and family, and they can't take care of both well, especially after having children, such problems become more and more obvious. In fact, I think the two themselves are not in great conflict, the key lies in how you look at this problem and whether you can correctly deal with the relationship between the two.
Some families choose to let their mothers quit their jobs after giving birth to a child and stay at home as a full-time housewife to take care of the adults and the children, but such a way of dealing with the situation will bring a lot of problems. It is because many women often accept such an arrangement out of desperation, or she may not be willing to give up her job and stay at home, waiting to become a yellow-faced woman. But she has to make sacrifices for the sake of her children and the family. In this case, if your husband understands you, it's okay, but there are always some men who enjoy their wives' efforts and sacrifices for them, but at the same time complain that their wives can't earn money for the family, and sometimes they don't say it on their mouths, but they show it in their behaviors. They think that they are the biggest contributors in the family, so they can do whatever they want, go out early and come home late, yell at their wives and children, and worse still, commit domestic violence or even cheat on their wives. Such consequences are of course the last thing we want to see.
Others will choose to give their children to their grandparents, and both husband and wife will go out to work. But in this case, the child will lack parental care and love, and over time, will be alienated from their parents, which is not a good thing for both parents and children. Parents must not miss any important moment in their children's growth, or they will regret it for the rest of their lives. The lack of parental emotion can easily leave a shadow in the child's young mind, and some children may even suffer from mental illness. For children, mental health is as important as physical health, and only by giving them complete love can they have a healthy and happy childhood. Some grandparents have too deep traditional concepts, in the education of the child is problematic, some of the child overly spoiled, the child has to respond, which is definitely not a good thing for the child, the child's growth harmful.
I think for young couples after 90s, they should choose to have children when they can afford to. Nowadays, it is not easy to raise a child to adulthood, and material is the most basic requirement. So for couples who don't have the ability to make sure that they can give their children a happy home, they should first struggle for a few years, and then welcome the baby together after all the convenient conditions have been allowed, which is not only responsible for the children, but also responsible for themselves.