Why does happiness also leave tears?
1, you think you completely forget, the actual it has always been y hidden in the bottom of your heart ......
2, life's greatest happiness, is to find that they love people happen to also love themselves.
3, accustomed to the pain of the wound, whether it has lost consciousness, accustomed to break up of us, whether it has gone far
4, life is like a dance, teach you the initial steps of the dance, but may not be able to accompany you to the scene.
5. I'm like a grief organizer, constantly accepting all kinds of injuries from you.
6, if you can, please happy, if not, at least I should leave, at least let me leave.
7, the original long-lasting, just misunderstanding a often
8, do not love love, never get worse. So, we flirt, we ambiguous, but never love each other.
9, waiting. Maybe not easy; hurt. But easily.
10, embrace is the most detached posture, because you can never see each other's expression.
11, if you can choose, I will still let you appear in my life, if you can choose, you still will not choose to return to my world.
12, looking at the sky, the rain is so salty, whether there are tears in the inside
13, you know the happiness of the Ferris wheel? Sitting at the top, looking up, I reached out and thought I touched happiness, but the other side of the Ferris wheel did not you. When the Ferris wheel collapsed, happiness also died with the wind
14, I like and accustomed to the change of things to maintain a distance, so that will know what is the most will not be abandoned by the time of the guidelines. For example, love a person, full of variables, I then step back, quietly watching, until you see the sincere feelings.
15, forever such a word, as if never appeared.
16, said from the end of the world ~ what is the end of the world? Turn around, turn your back to you, this moment is the end of the world ......
17, the day of the wedding, you must come to do my best man, because we promised to walk into the marriage hall together ......
18, remember does not mean that it is eternity, forgetting the It's not the same as it didn't happen
19, people always feel happy when they are close to happiness, but they are at a loss when happiness is in progress ......
20, love is like two people pulling a monkey's band, and the one who is in pain is always the one who is after the release of the hand ......
21, sometimes, crying is no tears ......
22, and then the deepest love to withstand the bland years ......
23, some people say that the parallel line is the most terrible, but I think the most terrible is the intersecting line- -Obviously they have intersected, but always in the future at some point away from each other, and the further away ......
24, the sky is in love with the earth, but is too far away from the earth. So, whenever the sky wants the earth, it will rain ......
25, I turned the whole world upside down, just to correct your reflection ......
26, a relationship can give you how much pain, have given you brought much happiness ......
27, know that it will rain on the day should bring an umbrella, know that there will be no results on the please do not start
28, disappointment, and sometimes a kind of happiness, because there is an expectation so will be disappointed. Because there is love, there will be expectations, so even if the disappointment, but also a kind of happiness, although this kind of happiness is a little bit painful
29, memory is a form of meeting, forgetting is a form of freedom
30, why happy will leave tears, irrigated my wilderness, full of roses, I'm not tired, I don't sleep, I don't rest, I don't close my eyes, I don't want to waste, every second, in which, there is a world of you!
31, I looked at the meteor across the sky, so beautiful, beautiful just that moment, but still gorgeous dazzling people.
32, I just shine with the stars and the night with the lonely children
33, whenever I look at the sky I do not like to talk again, whenever I talk, but I do not dare to look at the sky again shallow and deep and can represent what? It's just a matter of forgetting earlier and forgetting later.
34, meet, either hate late, is hate early.
Why would someone pretend to be happy, pretend to be happy people happy
I can not believe he would betray me! I trusted him so much, I told him so many things, and I thought for a while that we could go on like this - until the day I saw his underwear on her balcony
Betrayal between lovers happens almost every day, but the people who experience it are always surprised. It's always hard to believe that the people we trust the most are the ones who hurt us the most. However, Jennifer Freyd and Dr. Pamela Birrell, professors of psychology at the University of Oregon, who have studied betrayal trauma for many years, might tell you that you're thinking the opposite - that because you trusted him, he was in a position to betray you.
Someone once mentioned an important concept: when you choose to commit to a relationship, you also take the risk of being hurt. In other words, people who can listen to you can also crash you.
After self-disclosure (which means that a person speaks his or her heart to others, and enjoys his or her inner feelings and information with others), the other person starts to be willing to share his or her secrets, and so the two people get closer - in other words, part of intimacy is to carry each other's secrets, and bear each other's hurt. Generally speaking, people who are less secure have more secrets, but if they are willing to share them with others, it means they trust the relationship - although trust doesn't always lead to happiness.
Instead, I get you, comforting betrayal
I couldn't work for almost the whole day when his fuck buddy messaged me. I don't know how she knew my cell phone, all I know is that my heart was hurting. So I called him and he said he was just playing around with her and then said so much about how he really loved me and all that. After a lot of tossing and turning, I actually chose to believe him! I was angry, angry at myself, I couldn't understand why I was so stupid. Isn't it obvious that he has a mistress and I've been kept in the dark, so why did I believe him?
Jennifer and Pamela will tell you that it's not that you're stupid, it's that you can't leave him. They discover that many people can't face up to the betrayal of close loved ones because those people are important to them. A stark truth is untouchable not because you don't see it, but because it takes a lot of courage for you to recognize it -- and even more, after you do, you may lose even more.
According to the investment model of Caryl Rusbult, a professor of social and organizational psychology at the Free University of Amsterdam in the Netherlands, the more we invest in a relationship, the harder it will be to leave it - even if you're not happy in it.
You can't see because you want to maintain the status quo
When you know that the relationship is important to you, and it's clear that any resistance or confrontation is likely to put an end to the relationship, you'll choose not to see. Replacing seeing with not seeing, and avoiding with resolving, is a phenomenon Jennifer and Pamela call betrayal blindness.
At that point, you may start to think about the cost of choosing to leave: will my friends laugh at me? What about the kids? Will he get back at me?
There are many psychological studies of blindness, the most famous being change blindness. A typical experiment is as follows: a researcher asked a passerby for directions, and in the middle of the conversation, a mover moved a gate between them, interrupting their conversation, and the researcher took the opportunity to replace the person who asked for directions, but 50% of the people didn't realize that the person who asked for directions had changed. That is, these passersby put most of their attention into thinking about the map and ignored who the wayfinder was.
Betrayal blindness involves more of a motivational component than change blindness. You ignore, forget, and have no recollection of his cheating because you know that if you admit to it, you're going to have to take more negative risks: a fight, a breakup, or a divorce. These consequences are just too much for you to bear, so your brain helps you forget about it all together. In other words, the relationship is just too important to you, so your turning a blind eye usually serves only one thing: maintaining the status quo. He continues to ask you how your day was after work, talk about kids and parenting, catch up on what's going on at the company school, and ignore each other's precarious feelings. No confrontation, no separation is the classic betrayal-blindness mentality.
The security of self-deception
Some people obviously have a good memory to exaggerate, but whenever we talk about his marriage, and then between the memory of divorce, we can not talk about this? The words, "I don't know," "I forgot," and "it's all in the past," just spring up. One can't help but wonder: does he really not remember?
In the face of betrayal, we turn a blind eye and selectively forget
Perhaps, at a conscious level this person really did forget. In their book Betrayal: The Untouchable Truth, Jennifer and Pamela cite a number of studies that coincidentally point to a stable phenomenon: people who have experienced domestic violence, sexual assault, betrayal, and mistreatment develop more dissociative tendencies as they grow up, and in many cognitive experiments, they forget many of the messages related to negativity, trauma, and emotion -
In this way, we forget when we are not in the presence of others, and when we are not in the presence of others. In this way, they gain some of the security of self-deception in an insecure environment.
The researchers hypothesized that these highly dissociated individuals may have had their selective attention impaired by long-term isolation from memories of betrayal, and were unable to focus on one thing at a time, but still retained a good degree of distraction (pided attention) -- which allowed them to remember the color of the sheets when they were caught in bed, but not what happened.
When you really understand how bad a past they faced, how betrayed his loved ones and loved ones were, it becomes clear that a person chooses a sick lifestyle because they are incapable of making other choices. Those traumas have ravaged them to the point of energy depletion, and it's hard enough to live well enough to get to where they are today. A senior counselor once said.
Adaptation is a great ability, and some people who have been able to turn a blind eye to oppression and betrayal, and dismiss abuse and victimization, are not happy. Jennifer and Pamela point out that the only way to truly face those past embarrassments is through the journey of being informed, expressing, and speaking out, through the security of companionship and stability. Maybe you'll think that's an official way to end the book, but coming out and facing it is never a slogan or an action, it's a process.
We are always living in various repetitions, contradictions and cycles: we say we will lose weight and then give up halfway, we say we won't shed tears for him anymore but then repeat the sadness, we say we will go to bed early but then dilly-dally late into the night, and even if we are aware of the shortcomings, it is still very difficult to face them, very difficult to change them - not to mention those who will betrayal outside of the consciousness?
Why do orchids die?Orchid seedlings appear scorched tip, yellow leaves, yellow foot shell, rotten heart, rotten roots, rotten reeds, and finally the whole plant died, which caused great economic losses to the investors of Guolan boutique, and the orchidists have different opinions, and the main reasons are analyzed after investigation:
First, the fertilizer effect is too heavy. Guolan cultivation plant material should be thin and not fat, do not worry about not enough fertility when configuring and adding too much fertilizer-heavy plant material, found that the cultivation soil is over-fertilized, it should be replaced in time or technically processed. During the management of orchids, if the plant material can grow normally, there is no need to apply extra fertilizers, when it is necessary to apply fertilizers to apply organic fertilizers, the organic fertilizers should be rotted to use, and should not be used to fertilize orchids directly with unrotted grasses, bone meal, oil, etc. Orchid nutrients are usually a kind of fertilizers, and it is necessary to prevent fertilizers from being applied excessively and it is necessary to prevent fertilizers from being applied excessively, and it is necessary to avoid excessive concentration of organic fertilizers and fertilizers, and it is necessary to be diligent in fertilizers application.
Second, overdose. Any medicine has side effects, just like a healthy person who eats medicine every day, no disease will eat out of trouble. Commonly used drugs for orchid management can be divided into sterilizing drugs, insecticides and hormone drugs according to different purposes, and the frequent use of different drugs or overdose of drugs may produce drug damage. Prevention is the first step, and the healthy growth of orchids can be avoided without medication, and the appropriate amount of medication should be used only when there are pests and diseases that really need medication. When the temperature rises and the humidity decreases, it is necessary to prevent the concentration of medicine and fertilizer applied in normal amount from increasing naturally and hurting the seedlings.
Third, the temperature is too high. Guolan needs to grow in the suitable temperature and temperature difference environment, the suitable temperature for the growth of Guolan is 15 to 30 degrees Celsius, and the suitable temperature difference between day and night is 5-15 degrees Celsius. When the temperature of potting soil is higher than 35 degrees Celsius, and the temperature difference between day and night is very small, or the UV lamp is irradiated for a long time, the plant conduit which conveys nutrients to the growth of orchid is very easy to be damaged by mechanical damage, and the viruses and bacteria in the environment multiply very fast, and the Guolan is easy to be infected with viruses and bacteria and the seedlings die. The orchid will be easily infected by virus bacteria and die.
Fourth, excessive humidity. It is better to grow in a dry environment rather than a wet one, so don't water too often or pour water in the hot season with high temperature and high humidity to prevent water damage to the roots, rotting and seedling death.
Fifthly, the air permeability is not enough. Orchid pots and orchid room need to be breathable, cultivation of plant material should be coarse rather than fine, orchid room avoid depression, pay attention to ventilation, do not let the kitchen, factory fumes into the orchid room, harmful gases breeding viruses and bacteria, easy to make the orchid disease.
Sixth, it is too single. The national orchid is a clump of plants, like group living, generally can not be divided too hard and single plant, too single weak, old or sick seedlings, poor disease resistance. Disease-free and robust seedlings should be introduced, and diseased seedlings should be sterilized, isolated and managed in time, and only put into the orchid room after normal growth to prevent cross-infection. The ability to adapt to the natural environment is relatively weak in group cultivation and greenhouse seedlings, so we should take good care of them, and we should not be in a hurry to make them successful and help them grow.
A word: National Orchid is fertilized to death, medicated to death, heated to death, impregnated to death, smothered to death, divided to death, and also loved to death.
Then the airplane is heavier than air! And why does it fly?The son asked his mom, "Mom, why does a bird fly?" Mom replied, "Because it has wings!" The son asked again: "Then why does the balloon fly if it has no wings?" Mom: "Because it is lighter than air!" The son continues, "Then the airplane is heavier than air! Why does it fly?" Mom.
The young man came home from work and found his new wife fretting. I'm really useless, she said, I just ironed that suit for you, and burned a big hole in the butt of the pants. It doesn't matter, her husband said reassuringly, that suit I have an extra pair of pants. Yes, the wife cheered up and said, fortunately, I used those pants to patch up the burnt hole.
The mom got on the air-conditioned bus and put in a dollar. The driver said, "Two dollars." The driver said, "Yes, it's cool". The driver said: "air-conditioned car two dollars!" . Auntie replies, "Air-conditioned cars are cool". The driver says again, "Vote two dollars"! Auntie laughed and said: "Not only your head is cool, but your whole body is cool", and then walked towards the back. The driver said: "I told you to vote for two dollars". Auntie said: "I think the back of the less people cooler" driver speechless, a car laughed down! If you don't communicate properly, all your efforts will be wasted. Keep smiling and you won't get old. Smile
Because of the quarrel back to his mother's home ~ cut ~ ~ ~ in order not to want to be found abnormal parents, every meal to eat a lot of propped up to the point of not being able to, Dad also smacked me to eat less, it is estimated that I am the first almost divorced can eat fat people
A year ago, the school square to donate blood. 200 CC to send a pair of manicure utensils, 400 CC to send a watch. A neighboring class a MM heard feel very happy, ran over to ask the nurse: "1000CC send what?" The nurse calmly said: "Send a coffin ......"
Restaurant dinner, met a sister, brother is very enthusiastic, a moment a shout waiter: go, this plate flying crab to the table my old sister added. Go, this plate of basil shrimp to that table my old sister added. Go, this plate of conch, this plate of shrimp crawlers, this plate of lobster, this plate. Sister finally embarrassed, red-faced over and I said: brother, we are the Northeast let's stop, TMD buffet you pretend what calves, can not eat the fine you for me to pay ah!
With the second colleague to visit an Indian customer, the office is very hot, the customer only wore a short-sleeved shirt, revealing the arm thick body hair, the second colleague asked me: brother, you say he should bathe with body wash or shampoo ah?
Today to go to the tattoo, the small kind of pattern I simply do not care, to tattoo a full back! To that master and I said: "girl, I have to tell you, tattoo is very painful, and easy to tattoo hard to get rid of, think twice." I simply did not hesitate to lie down to that, the master looked at me is determined, but also directly open the whole, a little long time between the daze I fell asleep, woke up after my heart and a hesitation: "Master, I do not tattoo!" Master a big mouth called to my face: "I gave you two hours of rubbing the mud, you tell me that you do not tattoo? The first thing you need to do is get down on your knees.
Brother married when I was in college, we have a custom, that is, the night before the wedding, the groom to find a man and he slept with him in the new bed, commonly known as the "pressure of the bed". I was rightfully selected, after waking up early the next morning, I fled like back to school, did not participate in the wedding. After all, I was already twenty-two years old, the new comforter through this thing really have to make me ashamed to stay at home, I am also dignified!
University accommodation, at 2:30 in the morning received a text message, open a look: I just want to blind you! I just wanted to blind you. I was so excited to see you, and I was so excited to see you, and I was so excited to see you, and I was so excited to see you, and I was so excited to see you, and I was so excited to see you, and I was so excited to see you, and I was so excited to see you, and I was so excited to see you, and I was so excited to see you, and I was so excited to see you. I don't know how to answer well, then niece said: mom this is my father? Didn't you say he's dead