When we grow old, we should not just see the age of the climb, but more positive to understand the maturity of the mind, before I do not know the significance of human life, the older the older but more understand that people have to learn to put down, and to understand the trade-offs, not just say, but to really implement the actual life.
1
Counting on my fingers, I know Zhang has been almost 10 years, the earliest acquaintance is working in the same company, after the sporadic also did not interrupt the contact, the New Year's holidays never forget to send each other blessings.
If she hadn't said she was going to be five soon, I really wouldn't have realized that she was a post-70s woman, let alone one who was about to enter her 50s.
Sister Zhang's character is a big type of grin, never like to calculate, almost with her people have been with her feel that her character is very good, generally will become friends with her; she also loves to laugh, belong to the kind of? She also loves to laugh, belonging to the type of? She also loves to laugh, belonging to the type of "hear it before you see it", even if you haven't seen her figure next to you, you can hear her laughter.
On one occasion, I happened to run into Ms. Zhang while attending a conference, and the two of them met for lunch.
Mentioning the age issue, I was a bit curious, and I couldn't help but ask her what the biggest feeling inside is when a woman is about to run five.
She pondered a little, and said seriously, is to feel how they are going to be old all of a sudden, and has always felt that they are still young ah! The words just finished, followed by the iconic ? Haha? Laughter.
Possibly, in Zhang's heart, she has never thought about the proposition of growing old, because she has always maintained a very good state of mind.
In fact, a different mindset determines a different outlook and naturally affects the state of life.
(1)
Misconception: Anyway, we are almost five, everything will be on the line
More often than not, too many people will have a kind of cognitive error of age, think that the older you should be on the line, make do with it, there is no need to be as young as the time when the heart of the hope of having a run, anyway, now it is already like this, pretty much like this.
This? The concept of the moment, so that run five women to produce a false sense of destiny, to age more and more will be completely blocked in the happiness outside.
This wrong concept directly caused the five women prematurely decoupled from the present, not to chase the dream of the previous year, and not too concerned about their own personal gains and losses, in short, a passive mindset, all the time to let themselves live and not happy, happy.
Zhang has never looked at the topic of the upcoming five, she has her own hobbies and interests, to arrange their own time to the full, and always think that they will become better and better is the goal, although the family also has a heavy burden, her mentality is to do their best, each age has its own worries, no matter who can not escape, as well as to face up to the worries, embrace the positive concept of life! It's the right way to go.
Running five women to abandon the concept of age to make do, but also know that age is not an obstacle to a person to continue the pursuit of happiness stumbling block, no matter any time a woman can live with a sprightly and beautiful, with a high-quality attitude towards life is the standard that we should chase.
Age, is on behalf of our read through a thousand sails more understand what the pursuit of life; age, is on behalf of our taste of life after no impatience, know how to make themselves more and more good is the right thing.
(2)
Misconceptions: The older you get, the more you accommodate others, thinking that this is the truth of life
Zhang told me that she knows some of her sisters who are similar in age to her, and many of them feel that they are older, so they don't need to think about themselves, and they start to accommodate others, thinking that this is the real truth of life.
Sister Zhang can not figure out, everyone has a young time, everyone has a day of old, why just 50 years of age feel that life should be like this, should not have the main idea, should be accommodated others?
Zhang thinks the manifestation of accommodation is that this age should wear some old-fashioned clothes, should go to the square dance all day, should not have their own hobbies at home to wait for the whole family.
In fact, this is all a wrong concept.
The older you are, the proof is not old, but the maturity of thought, more should know that people are not easy to live, everywhere to accommodate the views of others, views, views, the more they live and not happy, should follow their own heart, to do what they like, if you always take the eyes of others to constrain their own behavior, you will find that they can do too little, the most important thing is that you will be more and more unhappy. .
There are too many people who are older, just because of the inner unhappiness let the whole person gradually began to depression, the loss is not worth it.
(3)
Misconceptions: Everyone has their own problems, and they always think they are unfortunate
Sister Zhang's mentality is very good, although there are some problems in the family, such as the relationship with the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, but she understands that under the sun, everyone has their own problems, and there is no one who doesn't have any problems, don't always think you are unfortunate.
There are a lot of women who, once they get older, first learn to complain that they married the wrong person, the wrong family, and regret their choices, often playing themselves as a victim. The victim? The role of the victim, that their life is unfortunate.
In fact, it is not that they are unfortunate, but which family will have a variety of problems, through so many years of experience, should be more to think that the past on the past it, people have to look forward, can not always live in the past. Understand this reasoning, will be more cherish the present moment, so that the self to live in style and spontaneity.
This one is especially important, too many women are trapped in the family, did not realize and let themselves depressed.
3
In fact, everyone will be from young to old, no one can escape, the only difference is that the mindset determines that everyone has a different quality of life.
Some people are young in body, but old in mind; some people seem to be older in appearance, but young in mind.
The different mentality will trigger the concept is also different, what kind of concept will have what kind of performance, and the specific performance will make us become what kind of person.
It's all a series of chain reactions.
Running five after 70 women, should abandon the inherent misconceptions, in the impetuous, busy, changing now, let yourself become a happy person, a pursuit of people, a person to make their own hope.
The older you get, the more you should know that the value of living is to make yourself happy before you take care of the people around you, not to be satisfied with everything, everything does not matter. The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good time and that you're happy.
Live well, treat yourself well and treat others well.