Mother-in-law determines half of the happiness in a marriage

Best friend called to complain, because her in-laws are old, the body is not good, so her mother to help her with the baby. But the family sister-in-law quit, her sister-in-law's family has two children to take, her mother left her sister-in-law to give her living expenses, not to mention the recent divorce with her brother, worrying about her mother's body all kinds of problems are out of the eye to help her with the baby. The girlfriends finally said, is really not assured of people with children, or really want to let her mother go back, and not stick to her brother a bunch of shit. My girlfriend and I called when the mother-in-law is teaching Miguo recognize black and white cards, since the birth of Miguo mother-in-law took early retirement to manage her granddaughter, retired before the mother-in-law is a kindergarten teacher, with Miguo fully reflects the superiority of her profession. When Miguel was one month old, my mother-in-law noticed that she loved to look at the black and white pictures on the closet, so I thought of buying her black and white cards. Every day, my mother-in-law teaches Miguel to recognize the cards, teases her, lets her listen to different sounds, and touches all kinds of things. Exercise the sense of sight, hearing and touch. These are the Montessori education concepts that I have read in books before, and I only know these theoretically, but "the paper is not as shallow as it seems, and you have to put it into practice", my mother-in-law may not have heard of Montessori, but her experience in early childhood education for many years, and the patience, care, and insight that she has exercised is something that I can't learn from reading books, but I always react slowly. On the contrary, my reaction is always a beat slower. My mother-in-law is a practitioner of the theory, and better grasps the rhythm of my baby's growth. This is Miguel's good fortune, but also my happiness.

I always thought that my mother-in-law's role in my marriage was very important, because my husband was very busy with his career, and he had a lot of socializing to do, and he would come home very early. The most common thing to do at home is to deal with your mother-in-law, eat, drink and manage the children, these ordinary trivialities are the ordinary people can not get around the daily life. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a good mother-in-law, and I think my mother-in-law is a great example of that.

The first mother-in-law does not interfere with our small family life. Most of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts are because of unclear boundaries, should not care about, should not care about the meddling. The mother-in-law is particularly clear, we do our own thing, she at most give a suggestion. After the husband is off work is our three people time, in-laws shopping night market, square dancing, exercise, their own entertainment life is also tasty.

The second mother-in-law insists on keeping up with the times and is good at accepting new things. I'm busy with the phone to brush the circle of friends to see the paragraph, mother-in-law in Baidu parenting knowledge, constantly changing the old concepts, but also the scientific concepts pushed to us, everything do not understand to ask Duo Niang, cooking is also on the Internet to see a variety of new styles. Those who can always give you a surprise, will make life every day is vivid and vibrant, so people how not to love?

The third mother-in-law is hardworking and has a good character. Hardworking is the label of the previous generation, inside and outside the mother-in-law is always clean and fresh. The mother-in-law has something to say, so it will not be a small contradiction accumulated into a big lump, pots and pans stumble, said openly, in fact, are not a thing. She has a cheerful personality, and she has her own way of teasing the baby. I feel most comfortable with my mother-in-law at home, and even my mom is not as good as she is.

My husband and I chatted that a female colleague resigned from the company because the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was not well handled after the birth of the baby, and her mother-in-law went back to the house, and she was too busy to take care of the baby by herself, and then she resigned after one month after her maternity leave was over. So, the family and the family is not happy, the family is not and will always have to pay some price.

Previously, my niece and I chatted about marriage, I said to marry not only look at the man to look at his mother, do not think that you will only live with this man, the vast majority of cases you are living with a family, and the woman is the backbone of a family, the mother-in-law decided to marry half of the happiness. She met a boy on a blind date before, and got along fine, but after meeting the other's mom a few times, the wind changed. The boy has been working for several years, the payroll card or his mother to take, after a period of time his mother said in a roundabout way after knowing my niece, her son's monthly spending soared, spending money can not be so generous, the future use of money in a lot of places. Pulled my niece "talk", the original words are, her son is her lifeblood ... son from childhood is particularly filial to her ... the future performance is good she to help bring up the baby, not good, next door to whoever's daughter-in-law is not filial piety, the family does not want to, so that the two divorced, the baby do not want. The baby don't want. A few contacts "small talk", listening to my niece spine cold. Not to mention the economic lifeline in her mother's hand writing, this is still a single-parent family, is expected to always be a threesome, some of this mother and son of filial piety model, a daughter-in-law is like a favor, see a face of eight has not been a skimming on the words of the performance of the bad to hit the mandarin ducks, niece think about it, all this era of the tragedy of JiaoZhongQingLiuLanZhi, she also do not want to repeat, and so stop.

Feelings are used to maintain, not used to make, can carry a moment of lightning and thunder, can not carry a world of trouble for no reason. A good mother-in-law will always maintain the feelings of the young couple, rather than in the middle of the wear and tear of the two love points. After falling into the water first save mom or first save wife, smart people never ask. Because the feelings are impervious to say, say through also no feelings.

After giving birth to his daughter Miguel, his husband turned into a spoiled brat, and everything he wanted to buy for his baby, staring at how long is not enough to see. The mother-in-law spoke out in time, to be good to the baby even better to his wife, nothing to send his wife a gift. See, there is such a good mother-in-law, happiness is called just around the corner.