As a mother with a fourth-grade boy and a kindergarten boy, I suddenly found myself living in another country, because I am the big-hearted mother who never accompanies her children to do their homework.
I thought he had a fight last night because he asked me to change my homework. However, my son grew up savagely on his own, and he accidentally grew up to be someone else's child.
I am not a school bully, but I get three good students (four-leaf clover boy) almost every year. I am an excellent student in the eyes of my teacher and an interesting person who can read in the eyes of my classmates.
Do children with good grades have to accompany their homework in every detail? It can be seen from the examples of several schoolmasters around us that it is not necessarily true.
Sister-in-law's son went to kindergarten in rural Fujian when he was a child. Because of doing business in Zhejiang, I was admitted to a primary school in the suburbs of Hangzhou. Because of his good grades, he was admitted to the junior high school in the city on his own, and the senior high school entrance examination was sent to Hangzhou (he accidentally became an alumnus with Lu Xun).
Later, Xueba weighed it again and again, gave up the college entrance examination and chose to go to Japan to enter the university. After studying hard, I was admitted to Meiji University in Tokyo, Japan last year. It is also a century-old famous school in Japan, and it is said that it ranks second only to the University of Tokyo.
A few days ago, I shared the good news that he got many scholarships in the "Love Home" WeChat group at home. On the way to study, DeUEX, a child who had no one to accompany her in her homework since childhood, went abroad and broke a different path as a student.
There is also a younger brother at home, who is currently in the fifth grade of primary school. Every year, he is a three-good student with good academic performance, good habits and high standards of homework quality. He is a model highly recommended by the teacher.
Both brothers are qualified teachers.
So, here's the problem. Everyone must want to know, who are Xueba's parents?
Unexpectedly, elder sister and brother-in-law are both primary school students, and elder sister only read the fifth book in primary school. Because there are many younger brothers and sisters at home, my uncle spends half his time studying and half his time herding cattle to take care of his younger brothers and sisters before stumbling through the ninth book.
Is this gap too big?
You may become a schoolmaster just because your parents didn't go to school? Of course not! I've thought it over. Xueba's father contributed a lot to becoming a Xueba without making up lessons and accompanying homework.
Although dajiefu has a low academic background, he is willing to learn and study, such as flowing water. After leaving the society, I made a living by raising pigs, studied hairdressing, worked as a chef and made leather shoes.
Later, we started a company and worked together. He is in charge of managing the technical part. Because drawing needs CAD software, my brother-in-law, who has never touched a computer, simply found a designer friend to help him download a software, and he learned the software after two nights.
Through my own research, I have brought out several apprentices of college students in a few years.
Xueba Ma has no education but a good attitude. She lives a simple and pure life, loves her work and worships her husband. Due to the limitation of educational level, she never worries about her son's study. She is a mahjong fan and often plays mahjong at home.
When the eldest son was in junior high school, he asked his friends to play mahjong in a crowded rental house. As soon as the son opened the door, he shouted, I have an exam tomorrow, so stop playing!
Xueba' s mother' s conscience was shocked and she washed her hands from then on. Change to square dance and keep fit.
When Xueba was young, his brother-in-law took more time. Every day after work, he often doodles with his children, plays chess with them and plays with them. Never socialize and rarely go out of the house.
Xueba's father likes to accompany his children from the bottom of his heart and is very patient when he accompanies them. There is a scene that impressed me deeply. Holding his son with a smile, he taught them to read Tang poetry rhythmically while walking: It's a spring morning, and I wake up easily, surrounded by birds singing …
Xueba's father set an example. Tell your children that you have suffered from illiteracy, and tell them affectionately the importance of learning. Only learning can change fate.
He didn't teach his children homework, but he taught them to respect and fear learning.
Compared with the strict supervision of homework, Xueba's father's "I can't help you with your study, but I am willing to support you unconditionally" is even more touching to children. Both his sons are proud of having such a father.
As the mother of a fake schoolmaster, I have never been a supervisor in children's study. Big brother loved reading books since he was a child. Since he was two years old, he has been reading with him every night before going to bed. When he was in primary school, he didn't go home until after six o'clock every day because of his busy work. Children like watching TV and always finish their homework as soon as school is over.
As soon as he saw his parents, he said two words: dad (mom) signed it! I'm going down to play.
Even now, there are more homework in grade four. But he always finished more than half of his homework at school before going to school, and he will finish it soon after coming back.
Of course, on another level, I am the obedient mother. As long as I finish my homework, I will show him TV, play in the recreation area of the community, and even go to see a movie before 9 o'clock.
The eldest son is very studious and has a wide range of interests. Painting, singing, dancing, Go, football, basketball, I don't want to give up every hobby after learning. I have been obsessed with it this semester and asked me to send him to learn to play the guitar.
Of course, he will also ask me not to give him an interest class on Saturday and Sunday and give him crazy play. I followed them one by one.
My son didn't accompany his homework, and his grades were not bad. I summarized the following points:
1, teach children to respect teachers and pay attention to teaching, and cultivate children's reading habits from an early age.
Doing homework is the first priority. If you do your homework well, you can do what you like.
Tell him that learning is his own business, and has nothing to do with his parents.
4. Affirm the sense of honor. Separate a wall at home, write a letter to XX Honor Wall and post a commendation certificate.
5, often make up stories to tell him that his mother and the teacher often communicate, and the teacher has high expectations for him.
6, lead by example, in front of children, do not play mobile phones, do not watch TV. Let children often see their parents reading books, which is beautiful.
In fact, there are still many places to pay attention to, but parenting comes first. Children are the best imitators. They won't do what you say, but they will learn like you. Most of us are ordinary parents all our lives, and we should also allow our children to grow into ordinary people.
I firmly believe that although the starting point is different, my own appearance is the future appearance of my children.
Not accompanying homework is only the beginning of cultivating children's self-discipline. Children, doing homework is very tiring, but mom can't bear to part with you. But mom will work hard with you, love learning, be the one who loves learning, grow into a person who makes a little progress every day, come on, work hard and become the person you want to be with.