How to chat with women five-step technique
How to chat with women five-step technique, life, the boys because they do not know how to chat with their favorite girls, resulting in their own impression in the minds of the girls is very bad. And boys want and girls in the chat have a very pleasant atmosphere, then boys need to know some chat skills. Here is how I share with you and women chat five-step technique, I hope to help you!
How to chat with women five-step technique 11, the girl at work
Boys: What are doing?
Girl: now at work it
Usually there will be boys like this, sure it is very hard, then you first busy, do not get in your way!
Chatting, in the final analysis, is to be able to drive the girl's mood swings, so that she will not forget you, always looking for you to chat. In fact, these are the books I read online before a girl - love heart manipulation, seriously practiced some of the methods taught in the book chasing girls, especially the heart of the chat talk really too practical. Now I can't remember how many girls out, and the relationship with the current girlfriend is also very good, has been hesitant to get married so early, after all, still want to wave for two years, all understand. If there are single brothers can look down to learn, online e-books, directly to find there.
2, the girl is listening to the lesson
Boys: What are doing?
Girl: now in school lessons it
Usually the boys will say: then you listen to the lesson, do not say.
(Being seriously listening to the time to look at the phone back to your message, that she is not averse to chatting with you, but there are a lot of boys do not quite understand)
3, the girls stayed up late to work overtime
Boys: What are you doing?
Girls: still in the company it
Usually the boys will say, then you go home, pay attention to safety, back home remember to send me a text message to tell me about it
4, the girl at home on Sundays
Boys: what are doing it?
Girl: play at home
Usually boys will say: a person at home? Did you have lunch?
5. When girls are resting at home
Boys: What are you doing?
Girls: resting at home
Usually the boys will say: I where where, come and play ah
6, girls at home when brushing the drama
Boys: what are doing?
Girl: I'm at home watching what what
Usually boys will say: recently quite hot ah, good?
How to chat with women five-step technique 2
Where there are norms and standards, are industrial products, and the "pursuit" is an art, so this question is destined to have no correct answer.
Long-term attention to my know, I have long stopped positioning themselves as pua or bubble study.
We all more or less can feel: pua's many skills and mentality adjustment is to "not to things like" at the expense of "not to their own sadness", reduce their mood swings, and in the success of their own essential problems have been I'm not going to be able to do that, but I'm going to be able to do it.
When I say that the average person can have love, I'm making sure that you have "love" and not just an imaginary partner that you've piled up with tricks.
A lot of guys fall in love at first sight, but it's just a beautiful misunderstanding.
And believe that love at first sight 'boys, often directly into the pursuit of the state, and then blindly pay, with the increase in payment will be more and more sure that "love at first sight" correctness, into a dead cycle.
All of the pua will tell you to hide your need in the early stages, and you'll have a hard time hiding it, and even more so when you're not careful.
There was a time when it was surprising that we had to think twice about the first thing we said to a girl, that we had to go through the trouble of trying to please an uncertain variable.
I would tell you to never confirm that you like a girl without knowing her, and to give her an assessment review period from the inside out.
Go too far and don't forget the beginning, love is a matter of two people, and the pursuit should not be a self-importance or conspiracy theory.
We say "girls are not pursued, is attracted to", very right, very reasonable, it is worth understanding in detail, benign specific progressive relationship in the end how:
Friends - mutual attraction
Applicable skills: appropriate compliments, push-pull flirting, discovering and building **** the same interests.
1, appropriate praise
The so-called appropriate praise to comply with the following characteristics:
① Specific:
Typical mistake is to praise the girl is very beautiful, especially for those who are really very beautiful girls.
The typical right is to specifically compliment a girl on a point in her features so as to get her attention.
② Distinction:
That is, define her as the winner of a race, such as Li Bingbing does not look as good as her in the same dress.
③ Rarity:
Proper things come in moderation, and when praise is too easy to get it loses its original meaning.
④ Hidden:
More of her hidden value points, such as "loving, kind, independent, brave", while trying to avoid the obvious value of the praise, such as "white, rich, beautiful "
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⑤ Dual-core hidden:
Sentences like "You've ......, I'm still ......"
Put two subjects inside a compliment, the first praising her and the second mocking your own longboard.
To expand on this, sometimes girls will message slow, a big reason is that we send out that sentence of information is too little too hard to pick up, so we have to go in the topic transition paragraph to try to bury the message.
2, push and pull to flirt
① do not dare to push: Since the relationship is still a friend, do not be afraid of her will be angry, even if the play is bad, but also just a sentence of "I'm sorry, the joke is over," on the deal.
② which can not be pushed: Some of the taboo topics a launch is dead, she will not give you back to pull time.
If you push "she is short", the result is that people are really short, push her "flat-chested", the result is that people are really flat-chested, in her opinion, this is not a push, but to make fun of.
Then push her "snob", push her "profit-oriented", push her "low emotional intelligence", in her view this is not push, but demeaned, is insulting, is the The first thing you need to do is to get rid of it.
In short, shortcomings can't be pushed, sensitive moral points can't be pushed, and social attraction can't be pushed.
③How to pull:
Friendships, pulling can't be too close, just pulling a little bit closer than before launching.
3, found and established *** with interest
① niche: that is, high and low. The square dancers listening to the most dazzling national wind together, and will not identify with each other;
You and she together to listen to a dusty niche singer, will instantly become each other's only, at least, in listening to the song, yes.
② Establishment: It's a process of swapping interests, and you give her the best possible selection of gems that are easily accessible to her.
She gave you you have to understand the whole picture, choose part of the development of **** the same interest.
③ Consistency: You say you like you are really like, avoid homework is not ready to go to say "wow, good coincidence, I like ......", simple a few words to reveal the cloven foot will be completely pulled black.
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Step 2: Mutual attraction
Ideal state: *** Sexual identity
Applicable skills: *** Ming, defects rationalization, implicit value of the demonstration, advantageous area **** enjoy.
1, the depth of the topic *** Ming
① Which topics are depth: romantic views, relationship history, world view, values, growing pains ......
② Focus: Focus on her and guide her to tell her story.
③ ****Mingling:
Simple sentence "Me too ......"
Medium sentence "I think ...... you?"
Advanced "It's the first time I've met a ...... like you, they're all ......"
④ Impact:
Brainwash her by instilling your own ideas and thoughts.
2, defects rationalization
①: If the girls do not like the material, then what is the point of my struggle?
②: It's not that you're bad-tempered, it's that the group's emotional intelligence is too low.
③: It's not that you are capricious, it's that they are too impatient.
④: It's not your fault, it's all theirs.
3. Hidden value display
① Which are the hidden values:
Strong action, commitment, love, intelligence, seriousness, living from the ground up, and positive attitude towards life.
② show the way:
By way of small things or state of life to let her own summary of the discovery, do not say directly to her, "I'm a loving and responsible man.
③ Misconceptions:
Wrongly show the obvious values, such as "high salary, car keys on the table in the most obvious place".
Strengths can't be hidden, and deliberately displaying them is forcing her to convince herself that she didn't choose to accept you because of them, and usually they can't convince themselves.
4. Advantageous area **** enjoy
Everyone has their own flashpoints, such as design, reading, emotional intelligence IQ, photographic skills and so on.
By giving a high degree of recognition to her corresponding aesthetics, understanding, and opinion, so she has an inflated point of value with us that she doesn't have with others.
Step 3: Double Choice
Ideal: Personality Attraction
Applicable Techniques: Scenario Portrayal, Ambiguous Invitation, Demonstrating Vulnerability-
The Vulnerability Explosion. -Ambush outbursts.
1. Scene depiction
True scene depiction is to bring both parties into the scene, or to leave a place for her to bring herself into the role.
One of the most efficient ways to paint a very rosy picture of your relationship is through scene painting.
For example, when a student was questioned by a girl if he was being a bit chauvinistic, the answer I gave him was scene portrayal:
"I think a good relationship should allow both people to be better versions of themselves, so that both people are comfortable, rather than restricting each other and being a hindrance to each other.
It's like a quiet afternoon when two people sit across from each other and drink coffee, talking a lot or not saying a word. I wonder if you can understand me?"
Topping it off was the last query thrown in, which forced her to make the carryover and become the person who sat across from me and had coffee together that afternoon.
2. Vague invitations
Vague invitations don't get a clear rejection, but they do get ignored and deflected, and that response is also an invitation failure.
In the double-selection stage, any failure of interaction is giving the relationship weight loss, in order to avoid the occurrence of minus points, we have to choose in the girl's performance is good to go to the fuzzy invitation, if she catches the fuzzy invitation, directly into a clear invitation to determine the time and place.
3, show vulnerability - ambush outbreak
"Tell you something, I've never told outsiders ...... "
It does not matter whether it is true or false, it does not matter how big or small, as long as the display of this vulnerable side can play the following three roles, then you must say:
①: to give her the only speciality
②: buried long-term ambush
③: provoked the motherhood
ambush the point of this point of the most interesting, to share one of my most
I will tell her a secret: I am very afraid of the cold, far more than normal fear of cold, every winter do not dare to go out.
The biggest significance of this ambush is that I will be in a winter snowy night:
①: ask her to come out
②: braving the snow to give her something
③: in the cold wind, take off his clothes to her cloak
Vampires bravely face the sunshine for the sake of their loved ones, this is a girl in the eyes of the more romantic things.
Step 4: Ambiguity
Ideal state: Turbulence
Applicable skills: long push and pull, verbal teasing, physical contact.
1, the long line of push and pull
Relationships for a long time can not transition from ambiguous to lovers?
It's likely that she's used to the relationship status and feels that it's fine as it is without the need to finalize the relationship.
Then this time to let her know, we, too, is not stable, we will suddenly disappear for a day or two, because she made a little flip, will be cold war will fight.
Let her know that there is a better deal, but only after the relationship is established.
2, language teasing
ambiguous state boldly say love words, the opposite side if gladly accepted, we can properly lower the frame, share a few ideas:
①: she has the only special
②: in ...... time Suddenly think of her
③: take her as a girlfriend to say some flirty things
④: depict the future, the picture has her
3, physical contact
① progressive: get an inch and then go to the foot, from the touch of the pulling hand, to hugging, to kissing, to the ......
② Reasonable: Let her believe that you are not simply to think about holding the hand to hold her hand, just a reason she will spontaneously to believe, such as like crossing the street so bad reason.
③ Transfer: When physical contact, transfer her attention through language, let her believe that you really are not deliberate, and did not care very much about the physical contact thing.
④Release: By letting go of your hand after crossing the street, the other person will bring better feedback at the next contact because of the inevitable sense of loss.
Step 5: Determine the relationship
Ideal state: Sweet
Applicable skills: None
It seems the most important confession, in fact, is the most unskilled step, the thing that we have done. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
After walking through the five steps, we can obviously find that the more to the back of the more simple, which is also in line with our core theory:
① the more irreplaceable you are, the more power and fault tolerance you have.
② There shouldn't be a fixed routine, and every sentence and every move should be responded to in the context of the specific context and relationship you're choosing.
③ She can only summarize through our speech and demeanor to judge whether we like her or not, and only through these to judge whether we are worth her like.
④ Don't move yourself before you move her.
⑤ The so-called love too deep is just a bargaining chip to pull her in.
⑥The fight is only interesting when it is evenly matched.