Unlike reality TV programs where the camera is often fixed on the main character's exaggerated expressions and movements, documentary programs focus on stating the facts and showing different people's different lives under the real camera.
There are no flashy scenes or pretentious behavior, only simple editing and straightforward style. The world is full of different flavors, and everyone can find his or her own figure on the screen.
The story of Xiao He and Xiao Liu is told in one of the columns.
The two are already in their middle age and have different family situations, but the same is that they are part of the common labor class.
Xiao He does not have a job and usually works as a part-time worker, but he is the only laborer in the family.
Her husband has been sick for years, and her monthly income is only 700 yuan. Her in-laws are bedridden and suffer from Alzheimer's.
They are the only people in the family who have a job.
On weekdays, in addition to taking care of the sick or the elderly at her employer's home, Xiao He takes care of her family at her own home. Cooking, washing, scrubbing...her daily life is almost always spent in caring for people and serving them.
But no matter how busy and tired she is during the day, every night, Xiao He goes to square dance for two hours.
Seeing this, I wondered if the daytime was not tiring enough to have the time and energy to dance.
Later, when I saw Xiao He told the reporter that it was because of the hard work and triviality during the day that she chose to come to dance, I suddenly realized that it was because of the hard work and triviality during the day that she chose to come to dance. I suddenly realized that it was because the two hours at night were the only time in the day that she really belonged to herself.
The two hours of dancing let her leave her worries and fatigue behind for a while. She was no longer needed by anyone, no longer pestered by trivialities, and was incredibly relaxed and free.
Xiao Liu is a cab driver. The first time I saw this was when I was a student at the University of California, Berkeley, and the second time I was a student at the University of California, Berkeley.
From midnight to the early hours of the morning, he is accompanied by the quiet night, the late return of the people and the colorful lights. In his spare time, his biggest hobby is singing, making up his own songs and recording an album.
When he meets a chatty passenger, he will give away a copy of his album. He even went to participate in the industry's singing competition, won a good place.
Whenever he came back from a shift and settled his parents down, he put on his headphones and sang to himself to the beat of the music.
At that moment, he felt infinite joy and ease in his own music world. The hard work and heavy burden beyond the headphones were temporarily isolated. A rare good time is due because of a moment of joy and freedom gained.
This is as Zahiram Dodo wrote in Mumble, "There must be something to love in life. It is not necessary that we should be able to make a profession of what we love, but there must be one thing which is a sufficient reason for us to give our time and energy to all other persons, things, and things, which is the heart of all our endeavors, and which is the channel for the whole stream of our life. Without it, we would be living aimlessly, in bits and pieces."
I remember a time when someone expressed his confusion to a writer seeking a solution.
His problem is the same that most of us face, that is, work takes up most of the time in life and there is no fun in life.
The writer replied to him something along the lines of, "It's true that the work we do to make ends meet but don't enjoy enough takes up most of our time, but it's only "most" of our time, not "all" of our time. But that's only "most" time, not "all" time, and we still have time at our disposal.
That is to say, we still have our own time. This time is often the source of our impressions and experiences of our own lives.
This can be seen in two ways.
One is to give your free time to what you love and get a moment of pleasure. For example, Xiao He's square dance and Xiao Liu's self-penned song. The family's trivialities and the wear and tear of caring for the elderly and infirm over the years can cause a person to lose their sense of brightness, and life gradually becomes heavier and slower, making it difficult to carry the load.
The existence of one's own time is a kind of external isolation and internal awakening. Like an indispensable lubricant for an old machine, it eases friction and resistance.
Even if it is only a short stay, a moment of existence, seemingly insignificant but a small gas station, so that people have to stop and rest. In the face of the trivial and heavy tomorrow will still come face to face, grow some courage to face and the power to deal with.
In Haruki Murakami's Norwegian Wood, Watanabe traveled to the hospital to see Midori's sick father.
Watanabe offers to let Midori go out for a while, to eat something or even stay somewhere for a while, in short, to leave the hospital room. He can watch over her father for a while.
Looking back on the episode now, Watanabe's intention was the same. Although he couldn't replace Midori's responsibility and hard work in taking care of her father, he was able to put himself in her shoes and empathize with her.
That's why he wanted her to have even a moment's rest, to get out of the hospital room that smells of medicine and disease, to take a breath of fresh air, and to relax for a while, from her body to her mind.
On the other hand, the spare time is given to boring content.
As we get older, we feel that time flies and we don't have enough of it. In fact, a lot of people spend their discretionary time purely on boredom and thrill-seeking, and thus are unable to have a deep experience.
An hour of browsing the news and shopping is as short as ten minutes, while work time, which requires concentration and energy, is always longer.
The work time feels boring, the leisure time feels boring, all the content and time of life seems to be out of place. The first thing I'd like to say is that I don't know what to do with my life, but I do know what to do with my life.
I don't see any fatigue in the expression of Xiao He dancing, and I don't see any hard work in Xiao Liu's voice when he comes out late and returns early. Because in those moments, they are themselves.
No longer a daughter-in-law, wife, nanny and aunt, no longer a husband, son, driver and employee. They are just themselves, doing what they love, wanting to treat themselves with joy and pleasure, wanting to enjoy the best state of existence as an independently existing individual, that is, away from disease and injury, with health and freedom.
Whether it's the pursuit of career success or the blossoming of love, it's all about the feedback you get from connecting with the outside world to increase your self-recognition and clarify your orientation, and it's all about seeking out a definitive, solid, and multifaceted identity and label.
And then, with these identities and labels, to be able to obtain a comfortable way of being.
This constitutes an equilibrium in which the explicit self perceives, participates in, and constructs the world outside itself.
Thus, "who I am" is a great prerequisite. If you know who you are, you will not be like a duckweed in a lake, with no foundation, no strength and no direction.
Just like in "The Memory Master", Huang Bo played Jiang Feng, after the original brain memory was replaced by other people's, the original calm life appeared in a series of confusion.
He doesn't know who he is, so he can't establish normal relationships with the outside world, and the original sense of order is gone
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But it is only when those so-called "identities" and "labels" are removed that the importance of self-knowledge and orientation is emphasized.
In one episode of Stranger Things, the topic of the debate was "is it a tyranny to be in constant contact?", and Jiang Sida concluded by saying, "One of the main reasons we have to be in constant contact with the outside world is because it's hard for us to be in constant contact with ourselves! "
We keep in touch with the outside world, seeking a sense of presence and certainty, relieving tension and anxiety in the midst of the back-and-forth of people and overwhelming information, but it is increasingly difficult for us to enjoy our time alone and face our true state and needs head-on.
Zhang Jiawei writes in Representing and Being Represented, "Although things are unpredictable and you may be so busy that you don't have time to take your time to mull over the process, you still have the opportunity to choose between rapid boredom and long fun."
So, while we have the choice of body, mind, and time all at the same time, don't let that time where you can get a moment's sense of freedom slip away or fill up with boredom.
Let the loneliness and pleasure, the loneliness and abundance, the calmness and the passion that we feel in the midst of it, flow through us, and one by one, we can restore the truest colors of our lives, and form a solid core of conscious awareness of our own selves and a steady judgment, and train the ability to not be attached to external evaluations and labels, but to know clearly from the beginning to the end, "Who am I? "The ability to be able to know clearly who I am from the beginning to the end will help you not to be self-righteous when you are on the way up, and not to be presumptuous when you are at a low point.
Any desire to mine meaning from others is doomed to failure.
Those moments of freedom are a precious gift in the journey of life, and it is worth gathering enthusiasm to heal the dull pain, restore strength, and calm the mind so that you can have the courage to continue to face the more difficult things in life.