It is natural for a wife to persuade her husband to give up smoking, but she cares about his health out of kindness. But sometimes some wives are too eager to make their husbands feel that "you don't accept me". For example, sometimes the husband has realized that he should quit smoking, but in the face of his wife's solemn, serious and commanding tone, he will instinctively resist and deliberately continue smoking.
Gentle comfort is more effective. In fact, bad communication can be completely transformed into good communication. The key is that the wife should not equate "husband doesn't quit smoking" with "husband doesn't love me". When "the wife advised her husband to quit smoking, but he didn't listen at all", 32% of the wives thought that "the method may be wrong" and 17% thought that "he doesn't love me". Research shows that smoking addiction, alcohol addiction and internet addiction are all manifestations of addiction.
A wife must first accept her husband and express her willingness to spend time together to solve problems, so her husband's psychological resistance will be much smaller. A wife should express her concern for her husband's health euphemistically, instead of complaining rudely, "Can you quit smoking? If you smoke again, I will choke to death! " In addition, wives usually expect their husbands to change quickly, but quitting smoking takes a long time of psychological preparation. Many people smoke for years and can't change it instantly. So don't expect your husband to smoke two packs of cigarettes yesterday and none today.
A pleasant atmosphere is conducive to quitting smoking. Experts also pointed out that sometimes husbands can't quit smoking not because of their dependence on cigarettes, but because of mental factors, so wives should give psychological guidance. Ankie Lau, a professor of psychology at Beijing Normal University, said that people who are nervous and anxious are more likely to become addicted to smoking, while people who are happy and relaxed seldom pay attention to smoking.
Therefore, the wife should relieve her husband's mental stress and do something meaningful with him to divert his attention. You might as well sign an interesting agreement with your husband when he is under pressure, or make a list and set phased goals, so as to finally achieve the goal of smoking less or even quitting smoking. During the period, she was constantly rewarded, which made her husband not only change his behavior, but also gradually accepted the fact that he smoked less and quit smoking psychologically. Let the children "go into battle" together to further arouse the husband's sense of responsibility for the family.