? Thirty years old, the age of standing. In our traditional Chinese ideology, 30 years old without children have become a guilty person, not to mention 30 years old not in love and not married, such a person is estimated to parents every day to be anxious to death, can not sleep at night, can not sleep, sleep and food for their parents is not exaggerated.
Although I'm about to enter the ranks of 30-year-old Mao, but I want to say, 30-year-old not in love not married people have their own hearts, I think most of this group of people, if there is a preferred object, who do not want to be inseparable, who are not willing to be alone.
? The first: this kind of person heart generally live in a person. " once the sea is difficult to water, in addition to the witch mountain is not a cloud". After seeing you other people in my eyes have no color, to anyone can not bring up the desire to get close to. When we were together, we had sworn an oath of allegiance, but due to personal reasons, did not cherish, or due to external objective factors ultimately failed to go to the church of marriage, but you will always live in my heart. Today you have married someone else, but you are the white rose in my heart forever.
? The second type: can not find with their own "suitable", rather than the lack of. Personal work, life ability than to strengthen, have their own business and do a good job, just like a strong woman's appearance, all the trouble in life can handle themselves, also tried to match, but looking for, has not been a feeling of heartbeat, not a person who can conquer the heart of the people who live in my heart, so no one is suitable for there is a kind of singleness, would rather have nothing than to avoid.
? The third kind: "fear of love", "fear of marriage". Growing up with parents who fought all day and eventually divorced, following their grandparents to grow up, not feeling father's love and mother's love, no longing and yearning for the other half, unwilling to fall in love, and even more unwilling to get married.
? Fourth: family reasons, no love and marriage capital. A relative of mine, a car accident in junior high school, his father died, leaving behind a paralyzed mother and him, as well as a young sister, in order to take care of the family, he did not finish junior high school, go to work to earn money, but also for his sister to study, cook for his mother. Now in his 30s, his sister is in college and his mother still needs care. I asked him when he was going to consider himself. He smiled and said he would wait until his sister was working. It was so heartbreaking to hear.
The fifth kind: there is a love object, but the same sex. Some girls have found their girlfriends, boys have found their boyfriends, but under the pressure of public opinion in China now, gay marriage and gay love is still not accepted by the public, and the love of the double hair is also hidden from both parents at home.
The sixth type: non-marriage. There are two kinds of situation, there is only love not marriage, there is neither love nor marriage. This is really due to the differences in personal world view of life, but also in recent years by the influence of Western thought, in order to pursue a freer life, in order to better enjoy the process of love, the emergence of a number of non-marriageist.
In summary, in addition to the non-marriage, I think most people still want to find their other half as a life and soul mate, but forced by the outside world public opinion and their own pressure, and now more and more people choose to live alone, do not fall in love and not married. But we can never say that these people are abnormal, we can only say that there is not yet a good opportunity for them to find their other half.
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