Because his mother didn't expect it to be so cold, she didn't bring him long-sleeved clothes. The child kept crying and finally made her lose patience. "Why are you so delicate? Can't men insist? " The situation now is that there are no clothes. What's the use of crying? "
Speaking of the mistake of eventually becoming a child, it is obviously because the mother did not consider the local weather and itinerary before leaving, which made the child fall into the fear of being frozen in front of him.
Because parents never have long-term worries, children always have near worries.
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Before the age of 3, you thought that the children were watched 24 hours a day, and work and rest were not that important. Want to play and eat, sleep irregularly, eat irregularly.
Now that I'm in kindergarten, everything is in chaos. Children can't wake up when they should get up early, and can't sleep when they should take a nap. The teacher has a headache and the child is hard. Your initial patience will eventually turn into resentment: why other children can adapt quickly, but your children are disobedient and uncooperative.
I never thought about it, because you didn't train your children to adapt to the work and rest in kindergarten earlier. You think if you put him in, he will adapt himself automatically. Of course, he will get used to it eventually, but if you had thought more, the child wouldn't have to work so hard.
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When you were 2 years old, you took your child out and found that he was very uncooperative, which always embarrassed you and made your behavior completely inappropriate. You think it's better to leave him at home and take him out when he is sensible. After all, his family can tolerate everything.
From then on, friends and relatives will get together and travel, and you are not going to take care of the children.
One day you think he is old enough, but taking him out still disappoints you. Either children are afraid of strangers or public places.
Because you never thought that a good education is not natural when you grow up to a certain age. The so-called decent words and deeds are practiced over and over again in different social occasions and with people of all shapes and sizes.
If you don't give him a chance to exercise before, he will learn how to be decent himself in the future.
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When children are young, you believe in happy education and swear to give them the most free and stress-free three years, so you don't even guide the most basic parent-child reading. Children don't like picture books. It doesn't matter, just wait until they are older.
When I am old, I still don't like picture books and study, and friends get together. Other children are full of three-character classics and tell stories in one go.
Your children will only learn to shout "monster transformation" in cartoons, and their grades will always be at the bottom. You think your child failed to earn back your face and ordered him to start reading, only to find that he still didn't buy it. He doesn't like books, so he can't sit still for a minute.
You can only hate the iron and say, who let people meet a good boy who is naturally eager to learn? Because you have never thought about how important it is for children's future life and study to lay a good foundation for parent-child reading.
There are no children born to love books, but there are almost no children who still don't like stories under the patient guidance of their parents. The only possibility is that you gave up training too early and too soon.
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Children in other countries have their own ideas when they are in high school, such as what major to study in the future and which direction to choose for employment. It's boring for your children to think about this and that, and they don't like it. Going to college, one day being a monk, one day being confused.
Why do you envy other people's children for having such ideas and life plans?
It never occurred to me that you never showed the richness of the world to your child before he was stereotyped, so that he could look forward to his life.
It's not that I help him after he sets a goal and help him get closer to his dream. The only thing you have to do is to become famous automatically when he grows up.
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My son has reached marriageable age and has a good personality. There has never been a suitable object. You always say, don't worry. Marriage depends on fate, you have to touch it slowly, and it is not sweet to twist the melon.
In a blink of an eye, the blind date changed from being suitable for marriage to being old, and the whole family began to worry.
Just at the beginning of the year, the old Li family next door married your son of the same age. Her son and her family are not as good as yours. Why is the daughter-in-law not bad?
Looking at my son, I have to sigh. Why is your son so disappointing that he can't even find a partner?
There is also a son who is not good at words. Lao Li hangs out with the square dance aunts every day.
What are you doing? Bring some snacks and mobilize people around you to introduce your son every day. Many people have introduced me, and I really met one who is suitable in all aspects.
Because you have never thought about how popular girls' resources are today when the ratio of men to women is seriously out of balance, just wait for the legendary fate, and maybe you really need to wait.
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Some people may say, isn't this excessive intervention? Isn't this interfering with children's lives? Every day, children are called for independence, and parents are also for their children. On the contrary, children are even less independent and more abrasive. I gave birth to him, raised him and sent him to school. Do I even have to help him get a wife alive?
Of course, you don't have to help this, just saying that instead of blaming the child at last, it is better to help him make plans early. Seriously, stop arguing. If a person doesn't think about distant things, he will find sadness close at hand.
Why are other people's children so simple and carefree, but their own children stumble every step and are always troubled by trivial matters?
We always like to say, who let others set up stalls is a good boy, and they set up stalls is a risk-averse?
But, honey, there are no natural good children in the world. Raising a child never goes with the flow, but you plan ahead and make the child feel that everything just goes with the flow.
Behind this, the most difficult thing for parents is to shape their character over the years and guide them at critical moments.
It's not difficult to live and raise, but that's the difficulty. We should be responsible for living independently all our lives. You can't interfere in her life, but you should help her step by step.
We usually take CC to read picture books, build blocks, take her to travel around, take her into various groups and participate in various activities just for fun?
Yes, but not all.
In addition to making her feel happy, we also hope that in the future, she will love learning by loving picture books, cultivate her concentration by playing games, broaden her horizons by traveling, and let her learn manners by integrating into the crowd.
In my opinion, parents have the obligation to participate in guidance when they can intervene.
Many stages of life need guidance. In childhood, their horizons were not as broad as ours. If not cultivated, children may not have special skills.
What we can do is to send the children as far away as possible. However, parents' horizons are always limited. When a child has his own pattern and vision, it is his own business to choose which road and how far he can go.
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