There is a question on 知乎上提出这样的一个问题：从城市回到农村，你最大落差是什么？ My answer is as follows: the biggest difference is the difference between your own home and the living conditions of the people around you.
A comparison of the living conditions of my family and the people around me
Most of the neighbors in the neighborhood who didn't go to school in my generation got married, bought a house in a prefecture-level city, had children, bought a car, and my mother took care of my children's schooling and daily life, and my father kept the farm at home, and occasionally went to the city to live for a few days, and then drove back to my home to live for a while. The first thing you need to do is to get the money back from your family and get the money back from your parents.
My family, my parents worked hard for me to study at the university, graduated from the provincial capital to work, half dead, wages are not high, the price of housing is ridiculously high, and not willing to return to the prefecture-level city, it is not easy to save up a little money, scavenging family members to pay the down payment, but the monthly payment is so that I can't eat, not dare to fall in love, can't afford to buy clothes, eat and save, drink and save, and even save on the phone bill, can't honor their parents, can't get married to a wife and buy a car to give them to hold their grandchildren.
Sometimes when I go home for a holiday, I see my neighbor's car parked in front of the house, my aunt wearing new clothes, holding my grandchildren and giggling, and the whole family is happy, so I feel like I'm not doing anything wrong.
I've been working hard for more than a decade, and after graduation, I've been working hard and saving up, so that my parents and family can have a better life sooner. But things are not what they seem, college students have long been worthless, the provincial city housing prices are ridiculously high, return to the prefecture-level city, and those who did not go to school with what difference between the neighbors, and how to reflect the value of my years of hard work to study? Do so many years of other people's parents in the mouth of a good child now how others look at you, a variety of major events than others late for many years, how will be willing to return to the starting point of others. In the provincial capital, God knows how hard I have lived. There is no quality of life to speak of, just survive.
Our generation of college students from the countryside, and those city graduates can not be compared to those who did not study in the countryside can not be compared to, perhaps we are the times created a sad, all stages are so desperate, but turned his head, but found that everything is in vain.
Second, the state of life in their own homes
I come from the countryside, in 17 years to buy a second-tier city a 89 small house, down payment of 470,000, monthly payments of nearly 6k, I am in the city of the city's general wage is low, they can get 6k or so. The down payment is half for myself and half for my family. I now have a debt of 40,000 +.
The reason for buying a house is very simple, for fear that in the future more and more can not afford to buy, in addition to the age of marriage, want to find a similar daughter-in-law, no house is equal to the dream.
The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new car, and then you'll be able to get your hands on a new car.
Before I bought the house, my 50-year-old mom was dancing with the neighbors in her hometown every day, and my dad liked to surf the Internet and play chess with his buddies when he was free. The two looked at the home of a three-acre, waiting for me to find a daughter-in-law to give them a big fat boy.
After the purchase of the house, mom got up at five o'clock every morning, before dawn, and others to go to the base of the Academy of Agricultural Sciences to work in the farmland, and at night to return home almost dark, tired to go home and eat after washing on the sleep. Dad every day and the village electrician to go out of the village to walk the power lines, the night to the home to the mom to cook.
Before I bought the house, I had more than 100,000 deposits on my card, which I ate, wore, used, and spent, although I was in moderation, but I was never in pain. After buying a house, I day three meals not more than 20 yuan never bought a dress, even the cell phone bill is able to use the company's fixed-line never use their own cell phones. I had planned two domestic trips a year, but only went once, or took the green train to go. Don't ask me how much difference between high-speed rail and slow train tickets, two hundred is also money. Last year's eleven climbing Mount Tai only cost four hundred and sixty-eight dollars five.
Now trying to make money to pay off the debt, sometimes think of themselves very unfilial, would have been the age of mom and dad should hold the grandchildren enjoy, but had to start working again. A family of three every month time are spent on the work, for just a room, I do not know whether it is worth it. But I don't know what I'm doing wrong, is it possible to live in this city and rent all the time? Is finding a stupid black bitter really what you want? Is it to see others buy a house to earn money their own indifferent?
Before the price rise to buy the same house 20% down payment only need about 200,000, monthly payments of more than three thousand. And I bought in 17 years with 30% down but nearly half a million dollars, monthly payments of nearly six thousand. I don't know how this kind of monstrous and foot stomping and blood spitting thing still exists now, and why the rumor mill has driven us just one family to this. But I know the city house may change the fate of future generations, now the city has a house you are not all fathers step by step?
I do not know 16 years of rising prices, behind the need for how many families like mine to get up early, sweat and bleed to fill, to balance. But I know a part of the people have taken the money to sell the house began to drink red wine in the villa looking at beautiful women, the garage parked in the Rolls-Royce just bought, but also thinking about when to immigrate to the problem.
To say that we working class from the city back to the rural areas of the biggest gap, is in the deep experience of their own family life is not easy, compared to the surrounding family living conditions of the difference between it. These are y stimulate their own heart, so that they dare not turn back, can not relax. This may be the meaning of one's own to work hard.