To judge whether a woman has cultivation, you don't need to see what she does, just listen to what she says.
When some people open their mouths, they are either aggressive, lying, or nagging and complaining.
Such a person, think of what to say, how to feel comfortable how to say, never consider other people's feelings, the character must not be good to the point.
On the contrary, those who have a good character, you will find that they never say these three words.
A quick word
When a woman is angry, she is most likely to say a word.
Maybe it's a mouthful, maybe it's a figure of speech.
But the words from the mouth, the water can't be retrieved, whether you are intentional or unintentional, will cause harm to the people around.
Because of the gas words, often are some hard to accept the vicious words and phrases, and these are like a knife.
Directly into the heart, the most ruthless and most painful.
Remember the 17-year-old boy who jumped off a bridge and killed himself last year?
He had a confrontation with a classmate at school that day, so his mother was called to the school.
On the way home, the mother was angry and kept reprimanding, what "every day will add to the chaos", "learning is not good, fighting is great", "rice bucket". ...... What is unpleasant to scold what.
As a result, the boy could not bear, violently pull open the rear door, straight to the side of the bridge, a leap down.
The mother followed behind also failed to stop, can only see the boy fell, kneeling on the ground and cried.
As the saying goes, "A good word is a good word, and a bad word is a bad word."
Because of a moment of anger and mouth, scolded the child, scolded the husband, scolded the parents ...... relationship the more close, then scolded the more ruthless, the heart is also cold the more heavy!
Even if you pull out the "knife" in the future, it is difficult to erase all the scars in the heart.
So smart women know that impulsiveness is the devil, anger can not solve the problem, say some angry words will only make the situation more and more intense, destroyed the character and no image.
Negative energy full of grievances
I believe that everyone around more or less there will be such a woman:
They do not live a good time, will only complain about the husband is not up to date;
Usually when the work is not going well, will only complain about the boss is a bastard;
See others have a good time, will only complain that the world is unfair;
The world is not fair,
The world is not fair,
The world is not fair,
The world is not fair,
The world is not fair. p> ......
Although they are not bad, but full of negative energy will subconsciously affect and even hurt others, it is not an exaggeration to say that every word of complaint is like a cloud under the sun, and immediately can make people's mood from sunny to cloudy.
There was a netizen who said that his mom, is such a woman full of grievances.
"I go out and miss my mom, but always the phone can not play five minutes to let people want to hang up, home can not live three days can not help but want to leave.
Because she was complaining all day long about how bad the neighbors were, envying the children of relatives more successful and filial piety, regretting that their life was sad and wasted, and complaining that a pair of children is a debt of sin.
For so many years, she never changed, the only thing I can do is to do my best to avoid letting myself be influenced by her subtle influence."
Eileen Chang said, "Tang Minghuang love Yang Guifei what? Not beauty, but hilarity. Not every woman can make the day fun."
Often, the lower the level of the woman, the more will bring their own negative energy.
They never look for reasons on their own, often produce negative emotions, negative life, complaining about doing this and doing that, like a tumor, infesting the people around them.
Life is not easy, no one would like to get along with such a "plague".
Everyone wants to live in an environment full of sunshine, vitality and positive energy.
So don't be a complaining woman, it's wise to change yourself, change your life, and improve your level.
Unsubstantiated gossip
Some people have lamented: "God gave women a beautiful appearance, but did not give them a tongue to match."
This describes women who gossip behind their backs.
Such people, no matter when and where, like to talk about other people's gossip, catch the wind, add oil and vinegar, so as to add a little fun to their own boredom.
Once I read this story on the Internet:
My neighbor Mei Lin and her husband divorced, this can be together with the square dance Li sister to "tired" bad.
Originally, it was a private matter, but Li said that Mei Lin and her husband divorced because her husband had someone else outside.
So, a moment of rumors, a variety of versions in the community began to spread ......
Later, people know, Mei Lin and her husband, there is no little three, just personality incompatibility, the two discussed after the peaceful breakup of it.
A lot of misunderstandings and malice in this world often originate from the mouth of an idle person.
As the saying goes, three people make a tiger, people's words can be feared.
The usual casual gossip, it is likely to become a kind of unwarranted negative reputation, thus ruining the life of others.
There is a saying that goes something like this: "The human tongue is both the best thing and the worst thing. The lower the level of the person, the more they like to move others right and wrong."
Most of the women who are trying to tell right from wrong and turn black and white every day are ungenerous people who have no bottom line and no morals.
And the real good character of the woman, will be careful with their words, which is a kind of respect for others, is a kind of constraint on their own.
Silence is golden, shut up blessed.
Those who complained about the words, mean words, gossip words, high IQ woman, never say.
From now on, I hope you can also not say, be a really kind and humble intelligent woman.