High work pressure and no time to take care of children is the current situation faced by many young people in modern society. At this time, if the elderly at home can help take care of the children, it will relieve a lot of the burden on the young people, but in the process, some unpleasant things often happen.
Just like a few days ago, my colleague Xiao Li just had a conflict with his child's grandmother, and the child's grandmother also went back to her hometown in anger. The reason is that the child's grandmother is unwilling to let the child use diapers, believing that diapers will affect the child's health. Xiao Li and her mother-in-law have different opinions, which leads to the outbreak of conflicts.
Xiao Li’s situation is not unique. It is not easy for the elderly to help young people take care of their children. There are also various problems in this process, which also leads to more and more elderly people not being able to take care of their children. I am willing to help young people raise their children again. The elderly are less and less interested in helping young people take care of their children, for no other reason than these 5 reasons
1. Poor physical condition
Bringing up children is not an easy job, especially Children under 1 year old often require day and night care. If the elderly are not in very good physical condition and suffer from some chronic diseases, they will naturally be unable to take care of their children. Maybe the old man has a heart to take care of a baby, but his physical condition cannot support him to complete the high-intensity work of taking care of a baby.
2. Differences in child-rearing concepts
Due to different generations of life and different education received, the old people’s concepts of raising children are often very different from those of young people. Some old people have superstitions. Thoughts, some old people believe in some native methods.
Most modern young people adhere to the concept of scientific parenting, and conflicts will inevitably arise when faced with the traditional methods of the elderly. If both parties refuse to give in, the conflict can turn into a heated argument.
3. The elderly have their own hobbies
Some elderly people have a rich life, or they like to travel or square dance. Their lives are occupied by their own hobbies, and they naturally have no energy to take care of their children.
At this time, if the young people ask the elderly to help take care of the children, but the elderly do not want to sacrifice their own time, both parties will often face an embarrassing situation.
4. Afraid of placing a burden on their children
Some elderly people are not in good health themselves. Although they can help take care of their children, they are worried that they will fall ill due to overwork and that they will have to pay for their children. Children add unnecessary burdens. Out of consideration for their children, they may not help young people take care of their children.
5. Children don’t know how to be grateful
There is also such a kind of old people who work hard to help their children with their children, but cannot get any gratitude from them, and they are often criticized for trivial matters. blame.
In such a family, the children take the elderly's efforts for granted and often ignore the elderly's feelings. They would rather spend a lot of money to treat friends to dinner than buy a piece of clothing for the elderly. As time goes by, the old people's hearts are broken, and they are no longer willing to help their children with their children.
What young people need to know is that the elderly are not obligated to help them take care of their children. The elderly help take care of their children out of a sense of responsibility and out of love in their hearts. In fact, in many cases, disputes between both parties can be avoided.
If the elderly help take care of the children at home, you might as well give the elderly more care and communicate more, so that three generations can live peacefully under one roof.