Life can't guarantee that everyone has enough time and energy, so don't waste it on feelings with no future, pay more attention to family, career and friends. When we have more resources and energy, we may meet someone who really suits us, instead of blindly clinging to someone and eventually hurting ourselves.
"Are you spoony?" is not only an emotional view, but also an attitude towards life. Blindly pursuing love and feelings will make people ignore their own heart and spirit. Love is not the whole of life. We need to pay attention to our whole life and learn to be strong and independent. Only in this way can we meet a better future and future life.