Introduction:
Michelangelo said, " Doing good to a good man will make him better, and doing good to an evil man will make him more evil."
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Don't be too kind, in real life, people always say don't be too honest, honest people are always being used and hurt.
Honest and kind people, others encounter difficulties, always very sympathetic, as much as possible to help him, but was accepted by some people at ease, and even jealousy of others, hatred of others, the viciousness of the human heart, will let the good people, be hurt, the refusal to refuse, do not be too soft.
It is said that people see people's hearts, with the passage of time, some people will eventually see each other, in the end should not sympathize? The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new one, and you'll be able to do it.
53-year-old Huang Xiaoli retired, there is more free time, she likes to play cards, every day to do housework free, go downstairs to the chess room to play cards.
There are a few poker sisters slowly familiar with, often play together, sometimes go to the square dance, sometimes meet together shopping.
There is a woman two years younger than her Wang, and her husband divorced, son and work in the field, a person is very lonely, is a laid-off workers, pension is not much, so she learned that Ms. Huang pension a month of more than 5,000, and envy and jealousy, and every day in front of her to pour the bitter, the pension is not enough to spend, and would like to buy a beautiful dress have no money.
But like to play, like travel, every time you go out to play, have to pull on Ms. Huang to go together, Ms. Huang good to talk, as long as she is about her to go together, but, no matter how much money in the car, or the money for dinner never bought a single, and always said: "I'm a little bit nervous this month, and you'll pay you back next month, how much money you remember a number."
Kindly Ms. Huang, always said, "It's okay, there is money and then return."
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The two were so good that they often went to Ms. Huang's house to play, and sometimes stayed at home to eat, and she had no problem with it, and they became good girlfriends.
They talk about everything, good as a person, she told her many private secrets also told her girlfriend Ms. Wang, she once had a daughter, is her favorite, is the most intelligent, the most beautiful, but at the age of 10 years old died due to illness, is the pain of her life, a lifetime of sadness, the two good time, she put her own this secret can not help but tell Ms. Wang.
Ms. Wang also accompanied her to drop a few tears, comforted her, she took her as a close friend, has not said this with other outsiders.
Ms. Huang's husband is still at work, Ms. Wang is particularly envious of her husband, especially to take care of Ms. Huang, in the home to do housework, grocery shopping and cooking is also very insider.
While praising Ms. Huang's husband's cooking, generally said Ms. Huang really happy, she said in passing that her family's faucet has been leaking, do not know who to look for repairs, but also do not have the tools, Ms. Huang let her husband to take the tools to go to her home to help her change the faucet.
However, her home is always out of order, either the bathroom is faulty, or where the line is aging, not electrified, hope to go check.
Ms. Huang took her as a good girlfriend, a good sister, sometimes they do not have the time to let their husbands go by themselves, I did not expect her husband to go to her home, always let him do this and do that, and teasing him with words.
Ms. Huang's husband reminded Ms. Huang, this woman has a problem, the future less and her dealings, Ms. Huang is also particularly angry, went to question her, and she made light of it, she said: they are really too lonely, so that she did not take it seriously.
She never agreed, advised her not to do so, away from her husband, who knew she immediately turned the other cheek, said she had no right to care about her like others, blurted out, "I just like your husband, how?" Ms. Wang under the anger and and she tangled together, the two broke.
However, Ms. Wang went around spreading rumors, telling people her privacy, adding fuel to the fire, but also said that her daughter's death is retribution, deserved.
Ms. Wong is simply mad, really want to tear her apart, the two turned against each other, and at this point she woke up in a dream, this woman is too bad.
Particularly regret their privacy and secrets to tell her, thankful that her husband is a decent man, if her husband is a little position is not firm, then she was seduced to go, their marriage will also face a crisis, really good intentions are not rewarded for their kindness, not only did not let the woman also become kind, but let her get an inch, and almost destroyed her and her husband's marriage.
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In the past, she sympathized with Ms. Wang, who was divorced, not easy to bring up a child alone, with a low retirement salary and poor health, willing to suffer, letting her take advantage of her, thinking that she could help her, and the same in exchange for kindness.
I didn't realize that this woman is a particularly insidious person, purposeful and Ms. Huang good, not only rubbing food and drink, but also want to seduce her husband.
Some people do not deserve sympathy, she cried to you poor, to borrow money from you, to tell you, you once and for all soft heart, once and for all sympathy, if there is a time to no longer pay attention to her, no longer pay attention to her, he thought that you do not have sympathy, indifference.
There is hatred in the heart, especially jealous of other people's good, other people's happiness, she is especially sad, trying to find ways to destroy.
This kind of person is no vision, narrow-minded, short-sighted, can not see others better than him, some people are just lazy people, but also incompetent people, but also as honorable.
They are not living well, do not want to improve, but want to take advantage of others, take advantage of others, but the more you sympathize with him, she instead of intensifying, rely on others, others should be treated with sincerity, he sincerely treat others, impossible, sympathy for others, help others, but also to look at the people, not who are worthy of sympathy.
Summary:
Mileage said: The more good people the more they do not realize that other people's bad intentions.
Mark Twain said: " Kindness, a universal language, can make the blind feel and the deaf hear"
But kindness, only to the good, can not be kind to the wicked, you never understand. How bad is the heart of the wicked, kindness and gentleness should be to the right people, should not be kind to all people, in short, the heart of defense is not to be, the heart of harm is not to be, the complexity of the world also allows us to learn to say no, kindness and soft-heartedness are boundaries.