Many people have reflected a same problem: unknowingly the other half of the cheating, and so want to stop the time, the other two people have long been established feelings! If you are not able to do so, you will not be able to get a good deal of money from the company. If you don't endure, your lover will be someone else's immediately. Many people are anxious, dilemma, lost the goal of struggle.
So, how did the affair happen? No matter how it happens, if you are careful, you can find the other half of the "wrong". I have seen a lot of extramarital affairs, this article through 3 cases to let you see the general "process" of extramarital affairs and the harm. Sometimes it's better to choose prevention than anything else.
The first case: there was a Ms. Wang from the countryside told his story, not a "regret" can be said.
Mrs. Wang and her husband have always had a good relationship, and after 13 years of marriage, the family went to the city to work. The man drove for others and the woman, who had some tailoring skills, made clothes in a factory. Although they went to the city together, due to different management methods in different factories, Ms. Wang and her husband could only see each other 1 time a week at most, and sometimes even less than 1 time a month!
There has always been an "iron law" in marriage that couples who live a stable life and see each other less often are prone to extramarital affairs! When each other to a lot of things are light when, as long as someone appropriate "guide", want to not cheating are difficult. They may know this truth, but in order to live can only be separated. The two in the city working more than 1 month, Ms. Wang was a handsome young man attracted! That young man was a full 13 years younger than Ms. Wang!
Despite the age difference, Ms. Wang seems to have fallen in love with this "brother-sister" feeling. The two of them are together every day, and even live together. Ms. Wang confessed that she liked that feeling, and did not think of betraying her husband, always think that as long as her husband does not know, she can always be so developed. As it turned out, she thought wrong, and after a few months of dating that young man, got pregnant! When she panicked and went to the lad to deal with it, the other lad had already quit his job!
When Ms. Wang's husband found out, he had a big fight and almost got divorced. In the end her husband compromised and forgave her. Because the pregnancy was in the wrong position, she spent all the money from her part-time job and almost lost her life! Today, although the marriage still exists, the relationship between the two is gone, surviving only for the sake of the children in the family.
This case tells us one thing: the longer a couple is married, the more likely they are to have an affair, the more likely they are to live apart, and the more likely they are to be selfish. If you want to avoid it, stay together and don't live apart!
The second case: the groom to be married before the "lively and lovely" girlfriend hat, but still insisted on getting married, and finally married a month, his wife and ex-boyfriend left!
There was once a 28-year-old boy Zhang sent a message, he and his girlfriend on the university (should be college) when they met, 3 years, the two have been separated from each other. After graduation, they had been in a relationship for more than 5 years, and were also on and off. Zhang has always wanted to get married, but his girlfriend can not let go of her ex-boyfriend, has been so dragged.
Later, Zhang's mother was angry, forcing Zhang to get married, the big deal is to find again. In front of the choice, Zhang's girlfriend agreed to the marriage, the two engaged to get a license, Zhang's family gave the woman 120,000 bride price. However, when Xiao Zhang is longing for the groom dream time, the bride-to-be actually cheated on her ex-boyfriend! At that time, Xiao Zhang did not know, although his wife wanted to withdraw from the marriage, but Xiao Zhang did not think about it! In the end, when the marriage was just a month old, the wife filed for divorce. By this time Xiao Zhang realized that she was pregnant, not his! And the man had to keep the child!
In the end, Zhang not only did not get married, but also became a second marriage, was wearing a hat! The money for the bride price was only 60,000 yuan back in the end, and Xiao Zhang had a hard time.
This case also tells us a truth: some people do not deserve to let you love, some people can not marry, some people can not marry! If you don't listen to the old man's words, you will suffer!
The third case: a woman once sent a large paragraph, from the text can be seen, she should be a middle-aged woman married for many years, because of square dancing and involved in an extramarital affair.
Her affair was different. She was attracted to a divorced man when she was square dancing, and the two of them were dancing partners. The man's flowery language, left a sister right a sister, very good at coaxing people, and soon took over the lady's heart!
Generally speaking, the IQ of a person in love is about equal to 0, while the IQ of a person in an extramarital affair may be negative! This was the case with this lady, who was with the man every day, buying him clothes, buying him a purse, buying him a watch. In half a year's time, she spent tens of thousands of dollars! In the end her husband knew about it and held back his anger and forgave her for the sake of the family.
Like the first case, although the men chose to forgive, but the relationship is basically impossible to recover.
This case also tells us that many seemingly simple group activities can lead to extramarital affairs, and that no one else is to blame for their negligence.
These three cases are clear and logical and illustrate the point that it is impossible to live a good life with just one person. When couples are self-centered, the probability of extramarital affairs skyrockets! Whether you are doing well or not, if you want to go further, you have to look at the marriage from the perspective of your lover.