In most people's opinion, after retirement is the time to enjoy happiness. Many people are envious of the retired elderly, think that their day is to go to the park every day to walk, with people nagging, dancing, do not have to work every day busy, life is free and easy. But not every retired elderly life is so happy, an aunt in her fifties is very distressed, thought that after retirement can enjoy life, did not think, this is the beginning of the bitter days, let us take a look at this aunt, after retirement in the end experienced what.
I worked in the laundry of a factory, cleaning the workers' uniforms every day. I've been at this job for decades, and although the work is hard, I figure it's stable, and the benefits are good, and I have a retirement paycheck after I retire, so I can make sure I have security in my old age.
Before I retired, I envisioned how I would spend my old age. I work too hard and I want to treat myself to a good time after retirement, enjoying my happiness and doing what I love. I like square dancing, and I plan to do it with my sisters after retirement. I also like traveling, and with time and a retirement paycheck, I can go out and see the outside world. I planned my retirement life too well, but the reality gave me a slap in the face.
When I was a few months away from retirement, my son suddenly came back and told us that his girlfriend was pregnant and was planning to get married. Although it was a marriage by marriage, everything did not follow the program, but this is after all a happy event, my partner and I are quite happy. After that, my son brought his girlfriend to live in the house, and then choose a good day to get the license, I upgraded to become a mother-in-law in a short period of time.
I am very good to my daughter-in-law, especially she is pregnant again. I think of ways to give her every day to do good food, but also buy her fruit, buy milk, want to let her eat a little nutritious, the fetus good to come. I don't know if it's because of her pregnancy, but my daughter-in-law doesn't want to eat anything and often wastes my good intentions. She's always lazy, either sleeping or playing with her cell phone, doesn't like to chat with me, and never helps with the housework. Because of her pregnancy, I don't care about that either.
When I first retired, my life was still very comfortable. I went to the supermarket every day to shop, made three meals a day, and really didn't have much to do. I played cards and danced every day, and sometimes I went out with my sisters to get together. The first time I saw this was when my daughter-in-law gave birth to a granddaughter, and my happiness in my old age was all gone.
The grandchildren are very difficult to bring up. I have to hold her all day and night, and when I put her down, she cries. I'm so tired of holding her all day that my hands are not my own. Taking care of my granddaughter is already exhausting, but I also have to take care of my daughter-in-law's menstruation, and I still have to do the three meals a day and the housework at home. The pressure on my body has all of a sudden become heavier, and there is no one to help me share the burden. The first thing you need to do is to get a good deal of money from the company.
Originally thought, daughter-in-law out of the month, mainly by her care of children, I can breathe a sigh of relief. I'm not sure what I'm talking about, but I'm not sure what I'm talking about. Although my daughter-in-law also helps to look after the children, most of the time she is only responsible for breastfeeding, the rest is still taken care of by me. My daughter-in-law doesn't like to do housework, and since she got married, I've rarely seen her take the initiative to help with cleaning and cooking. Even so, my daughter-in-law would often cry out that she was tired and that she didn't get enough sleep at night. Then I have even less reason to complain about her anything, for fear of making the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship bad.
I felt from the beginning that my daughter-in-law and I couldn't talk to each other, and we usually got along with each other with superficial politeness. In fact, this feeling is not very good, but the good thing is that there is no conflict. The first thing I'd like to say is that I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do this, but I'm sure I'm going to be able to do it, and I'm sure I'm going to be able to do it. Luckily, we both controlled ourselves appropriately and didn't really fight. I think I'll just work hard for two more years to help my son and daughter-in-law bring their children to kindergarten, and then I'll enjoy my retirement.
However, the plan was never realized. The first time I saw this was when my granddaughter was just a year old, and my daughter-in-law was pregnant again. The daughter-in-law gave birth to a grandson, and as soon as she recovered, she went out and got a new job, which gave her an income, and she didn't have to take care of the child all day long. I was fine with one child, but I couldn't take care of my naughty granddaughter, my new grandson, and the whole family on my own. But so what? No one can appreciate my hard work, they all think these are what I should do.
My life now revolves around my two children, or else I stay in the kitchen. I've forgotten how long it's been since I've been out dancing, let alone traveling with my sisters. Life now really makes me feel exhausted, but there is no place to complain about the pain, I can only bear it silently alone. The first thing I'd like to do is to get my hands on some of the most popular products and services in the world, and I'm sure I'll be able to find a good deal of them.
A woman is a selfless and great person who spends her entire life working for her family and her children. After working hard for most of their lives and raising their children to adulthood, they should really enjoy their own happiness in their old age after retirement. Women want to live after retirement want to live, we must be appropriate ruthless, do the following three points:
First, do not put the household chores. In a family, husband and wife are obliged to pay for the home, including household chores should be a clear division of labor, or the woman's pressure will be great. When you have a daughter-in-law, you can also discuss with your daughter-in-law *** with sharing the housework.
Secondly, don't take all the responsibility of taking care of the children. Elderly people can help take care of the children, but it is not your obligation, and children should be allowed to take on the responsibilities they have as parents.
Third, make room for yourself in your old age. Even though you have to take care of the kids and do housework, you can't spend all your time on it. Make some space for yourself, do what you want to do, and relax so you don't feel so tired.
The quality of life in later life, in addition to the external conditions and factors, with their own actually can not be unrelated. Only if you do a good job of these three points, the later years of life will be guaranteed. If just a compromise, do not know with the family daughter-in-law communication, the establishment of a good family division of labor order, will only make themselves tired, but also aggrieved. So, if you want to live a good life in old age, you must do these three points.