Marriage experts also said that most men and women in the confirmation of the relationship before, there will be a short period of ambiguity, this time is the two sides of the opportunity to examine each other, the two sides are in the friendship on top of the love is not full of the state of affairs, this state of affairs is derived from the attraction of the **** Ming produced.
***Ming not only reflects the tacit understanding of the two people, but also reflects the two sides of the environment, temperament, personality, style and social role and many other aspects. First of all, the growing environment, a person's way of doing things, treating people and other daily habits, mostly from the family's education, the parents of the subtle and even directly affect the child's character development, mentality and the ability to do things and so on.
On the other hand, the difference between the family's upbringing is too big, which will lead to the two lovers in the process of long-term relationship, exposing the other side difficult to accept the habits of life. Especially the one who has had a major change in the family of origin, it often takes more time to adapt and feel their way in married life.
What we are saying here is that the "****ing" can actually be interpreted as a kind of "****ing", that is to say, the other half of the experience I can relate to. To make an analogy, the two people who grew up in similar childhood environments, the probability of having eaten the same kind of snacks, played similar games, said almost the same nursery rhymes or jingles, for the two just know each other, this is the best *** with the same topic, strangers, there is a topic of conversation to have a better chance to build a bridge of friendship and love.
And will look into the personality differences, then, "emotional **** chirping" will be more seemingly ubiquitous. Some people do things in the wind, some people do things in a leisurely manner, a superficial look seems to complement each other's personalities are more suitable for cooperation, but the married life is not a factory assembly line, not just mechanized production processing, but also need to be exchanged between the two sides, each other's soul comfort.
Marriage psychologists believe that the "chronic" party does not seem to be "quick-tempered" party tit-for-tat, but it is silently carrying the emotional friction between the two sides, and in the long run there will always be pressure to break out of the moment. The flexible and shrewd party also tends to be over time, can not stand the stubbornness of the mute, slow party.
Imagine, in the face of the child's school problems, mute and stubborn party insisted on the idea of strict teachers, forcing the child to choose a militarized management of the class school, flexible and smart party is how helpless and difficult. Perhaps the minutiae of ordinary life can be eliminated, but in the face of the fate of the child, the family career and other important choices, the two to the left of the character may provoke irreconcilable disputes.
But in fact, life in the minutiae of personal habits, not because of the two sides get along with time growth and gradually eliminate, some time, even because of the day and night of the accumulation of quantitative changes in the nature of the change. After all, the most basic things in people's lives, the most basic things are not beneficial to food, clothing, housing and transportation, these every moment will happen, will have the opportunity to create friction every moment.
When you have dinner one day, just want to nestle in the sofa to watch the variety show, play with the phone, suddenly found the door of the shoe cabinet piled up countless dirty socks, that for a person who likes to be clean, that will be how a kind of what kind of touch.
Prefer clean two people together, will undoubtedly make their lives more polished, unconventional people lovers get along with each other, but also do not have to friction in the problem of cleaning, that is to say, two people with similar habits living together, will produce more sense of identity, will not be regular friction due to the details of the problem. Although life spoons inevitably touch over the edge of the child, but frequent friction is certainly difficult to play the feeling of emotional friction agent.
Emotion experts laugh, in fact, take a look at the grandparents generation of life can be found, most families are in a kind of man outside the woman in the family structure, the woman is always on the man to listen to, daily only responsible for cooking chores, in the family on the lack of major issues, are by a person to take the idea.
This is the neglect of arranged marriages between people **** Ming caused by the gap, but also the background of the times caused by the family environment, some of the old couple did not even life **** the same language, every day's exchanges are only firewood, rice, oil and salt, the old man hated the old lady dancing square dance noisy, the old lady abandoned the old man to play chess boring.
It can be said that the **** Ming is the glue that holds the two sides together, but also the lubricant of married life, to a small extent because **** Ming exists to make the connection between people other than blood, to a large extent **** the same beliefs and national sentiments, only to make a group united. The interpretation of love, originally contains tolerance and understanding, and tolerance and understanding is derived from the unspoken between you and ta.