My father-in-law's family is a cultural people, outsiders look at each other to speak politely, but living in this family feels like the same as the ice cellar, festivals go back to the in-laws wi
My father-in-law's family is a cultural people, outsiders look at each other to speak politely, but living in this family feels like the same as the ice cellar, festivals go back to the in-laws will never have a vegetable hair, a mouthful of boiled water, it is my husband to buy home to do a them to eat, I heart surgery, discharged from the hospital to go to see my father-in-law, my father-in-law is very polite to say that he misses me very much, worried about the sleep and food difficult to sleep and eat, but did not go to see me! Once, go back to the same not even a mouth of open water, her daughter to do surgery, my husband to accompany, my father-in-law asked my husband, how is your sister, my husband said anyway, you have nothing to do, you can go and see, my father-in-law said well, and so her girl to raise two months to go home to see him, he has not had the time to go to see, in fact, take the bus without having to reverse to reach, my father-in-law to see my husband, he said that he was very concerned about my son, his only grandchild, but the child grows so much, but the child is very good. The child grew up so big, did not eat him a sugar snap peas, an inch of thread, mother-in-law passed away, the big aunt afraid of his loneliness, let us go back to accompany him in the Spring Festival, we give him to do good food, sleep at night, he said nothing will not let my son on his bed, the son said, grandpa, I have taken a bath, the eunuch said, washed also can not be, I don't like outsiders on my bed, my eunuch is a doctor, or a Leadership, the past take high wages, but the husband siblings when they were young but not even enough to eat, the eunuch lifelong cold violence against his mother-in-law, the mother-in-law died, the eunuch in the cemetery to write remembrance of her mother-in-law, dash wrote a few, a mouth a love wife, the eunuch lifelong family of a penny, and finally pulled out by the crooks of the pennies, and even his cemetery is a child to him to pay out money to see don't pay out of his pocket, then pick the one biggest and most expensive.
My family of origin.
Since I can remember, any time, my mom as long as the opening to talk to my father, my father is a very disgusted, very impatient look, set face even if, the mouth is also unforgiving, and an opening to growl at her. In fact, objectively speaking, at that time I think my mom did not say some very excessive words, just a little bit of small-minded, nagging a little bit. When I grew up, I really understand, when the heart has been disgusted with a person, she does not need to do anything, just appear, you can not endure.
My dad rushed to my mom ranting, my mom did not make a sound, she almost will not talk back, so the situation of the quarrel is also from no, my dad has been my mother to suppress the opening, from beginning to end, are just my dad a person's stage, outside the so cultured and genteel people like a tyrant on my mom in the madness of the ranting. The reason why we three siblings grew up being afraid to make a sound at home was all because of that stance. An evening together as a family might not even have ten words. So the image of a family sitting together in other people's homes, with their children talking about school and their parents smiling and listening, is a luxury we will never get.
When we were young, my dad would smile at the three of us. But I haven't seen him smile at us three siblings since I was eight, since he started getting impatient with my mom. My dad loves us three, no one can deny that. Maybe he was uncomfortable with it, maybe he couldn't finish being mean to my mom on one side and smile at us on the other. How terrible, in this family, my father has automatically put on a mask of not smiling.
But he clearly smiles, and when I see him with his friends, his normally tense face stretches out and he lets out a hearty laugh. This is the kind of dad who laughs, and it feels strange to me; I haven't seen him laugh a few times a year. He was only this happy in front of his friends.
I still remember clearly that year, I was still in the fourth grade, several nights, listening to the hysterical scolding of my father to my mother from their room, I was so sad that I hid inside the quilt to suppress the sound of silent crying. Today, when I think of this scene, my heart still aches for my little self.
I wrote a lot of letters to my dad when I was in junior high school, and once in a letter, I said that I had no expectations for your relationship, and that I didn't want you to respect each other as guests, but only to respect each other as ice, and not to speak on the line. I even wrote that I wanted them to divorce for the sake of their own happiness.
My dad wrote back to me that he would not divorce my mom because we were still young and it was not good for us to grow up. I was a middle schooler at the time and I already knew my dad's hypocrisy. He didn't really want what was best for us, he was just afraid that a divorce would hurt his reputation. The stuffing inside the marriage is already gone, but still have to pretend that the surface is intact.
I have seen the most indifferent family relationship is my neighbor's family. Neighbors are a highly educated college teacher, live next door to us, more than thirty years of age, look and short and ugly, earthy look, his wife is wearing a very earthy, but the right features, more than the husband looks beautiful, I heard that they were in an elementary school as a private teacher, and then came together, and then the reform of the college entrance examination system after the male admitted to the university, and later read the postgraduate study, the male during the school period is the woman in the burden of male living expenses, and then the female, and then the female, and the female, and the female, and the female. During the male's schooling are the woman in the burden of male living expenses, but the man's identity has changed, always suspected that his wife does not look good, not foreign, no culture, in short, is undisguised look down on his wife, at home and outside the home, the man did not even look at the eyes of his wife and children a glance, we were young workers live in two adjacent tower blocks, usually nothing, young parents like to get together in the two buildings between the concrete ping to walk the baby, pulling family life, always Heard from his home (he lives on the first floor, the window to the small pingli) came from the woman's cry, not adults or children, the man's wife and children are not hit that is scolded, and some people went to mediation, but was scolded out of the male, the leadership also stepped in and did the work, but the man who said can not listen to it, but instead of thinking that the woman is talking about what is out there, and then intensify the torment of her ...... Until one day, the man hooked up with a student, directly with the woman filed for divorce, the woman does not agree, the man step by step to force, one day, the poor woman in extreme despair in the bathroom hanging beams to kill themselves ...... At that time, some people also suspected that the man killed, but we have no evidence, then there is no monitoring or something, the most The main thing is that no one in the mother's family, the bystanders, although the injustice, but in the absence of evidence who will not rashly for a poor man who has died and offended a new nobleman who is on the rise, however, this thing has been in my heart there is a hurdle, almost thirty years, I always appear in front of my eyes that the poor woman that pair of terrified and uneasy eyes. Later, the man and the female students married, and gave birth to a little boy, God has no eyes, the man's career is still flourishing, their daughter to live with them, the girl became a family of three of their little nanny, typical of the modern version of Cinderella, often do with the age of the housework is extremely disproportionate to the mother, the stepmother is not even so, the father did not lose their own daughter because of their own parents and half a bit of pity, still, or even more serious abuse of the daughter, but also a little more serious. Still, even more serious abuse of daughters, as if only the son is biological, slightly less than desired to death, when other children of the same age outside laughing and playing, often hear the girl miserable cries, listening to our heart hair tight, although not accustomed to, but this is also a family affair, do not dare to tube, alas, colleagues can only sigh the world has such a cruel man ....... There are two points so far I do not understand, 1, said karma? Why the bad guys have not been punished at all, but instead of the green clouds, and now is the director, and is a professor, but also the title of the honor of a large number of, living in the nourishment of it. 2, a man is how cruel, forced to die to afford their own seven years of school fees of the bad sugar wife, but also to their own flesh and blood regardless of the matter, and even a bystander can not look down on the matter of his heart, but he was at peace with it, remember that the girl only seven or eight years old when often in the winter with cold water to the younger brother to wash clothes, hands are chapped, full of frostbite, a few of us women are gathered around to look at her hands, just as one of the mothers to go home to get frostbite cream to her occasion, the girl far from looking at her father came desperately trying to break away from us to run home ..... Because she was afraid that her father would blame her for what she told us and would not be spared a beating..... Then later, the girl was older, was arranged in the unit as a data clerk, from then on this girl is like no relationship with the family, the family did not have a place for her to stay, every day to sleep in the corner of the data room, a marching bed, in the campus and the occasional encounter with the father, the daughter called dad, do father's look at all do not look at her until the wedding, those of us who watched her grow up in order to give the poor girl to make up for the individual gas, even the most usually not Willing to participate in this kind of activities are to go to meet up to go, but her parents did not appear, nor any expression .... Human indifference to this, before only in the TV movies, books have seen, this person is the only life I have seen with my own eyes, every time I think of him, I think the so-called heaven has eyes is a joke.A female colleague of mine said that her family of origin was particularly indifferent. In order to make it easier, I'm going to tell the story of her family in the first person.
We have six siblings, and since we were young, my mom and dad have always fought. My father was a good-looking, elegant man, and the principal of an elementary school. My mom is a housewife, cooking at home. My mom always suspected that my dad was with someone else. When my dad comes home, she argues with him. It seems that they never have a good conversation. When my dad got tired of not getting any warmth at home, he sometimes went to live at school and didn't come back for ten days at a time. At that time, we were still young and my mom was tired of serving us. She took it out on us. My mom is not the most favorite of my second sister, because of a small matter will beat her. The hardest she ever hit her was when she forgot to feed the pigs. My mom picked up a spindle and threw it at her. My second sister's hand and neck developed a big bulge at that time. The whole thing took more than 10 days to go away.
My mother was not kind to us, either beating us or scolding us. Now my mother is over 80 years old, lying in bed paralyzed. I'm not sure how much I'm going to be able to do this, but I'm sure I'll be able to do it, and I'm sure I'll be able to do it. Alas, there is no way, that is, my mom, or we do not care about her.
The female colleague also said while wiping tears, I know she was born in such a cold family, really very bitter ah.
The old man's pockets were searched for condoms, and the old lady, in order to punish the old man, waited until the old man fell asleep in the middle of the night, and scratched the old man's face to pieces. The first is that the old man's pocket was searched for condoms, and the old man's face was scratched by the old man when he fell asleep. The younger son's divorce is not yet finalized, and he leads his girlfriend to live in the house in front of his daughter-in-law.
An older colleague I met many years ago had a family relationship that really opened my eyes.
The old couple had two sons, both of whom started their own families. The old man and his wife live alone, and they usually take care of each other. The old man runs outside every day, and the old woman never cares about the old man's life, as long as she pays her salary for the month, that's it.
On one occasion, when washing clothes, I found a condom in the old man's pocket, because it was in English, and the old lady didn't recognize it, so she asked the old man, and the old man, in order to get away with it, said that it was a balloon for his grandson, and the old lady took it for granted and gave it to his grandson, and then she led her grandson to play with the balloon, and then was seen by a neighbor. The old lady suspected that the old man was fooling around, and in order to take revenge on the old man, she scratched the old man's face in the middle of the night when the old man was asleep, saying that she wanted to teach the old man a lesson, and the old man did not dare to go out for a few days.
As the saying goes, like father, like son, it's really appropriate to use it in this family.
The oldest son of the family, the day after the day, never put the daughter-in-law on the heart, all day outside the woman. Once found by the daughter-in-law, they have no idea, told the in-laws, the in-laws led the daughter-in-law to the eldest son and junior blocked in the basement, knowing that the two in the basement, but how to call the door is not open, so the three will be outside the night watch. This night, the eldest son wrapped around the little three in the blanket warm and sleep all night, the parents-in-law and daughter-in-law three big winter outside the freezing night.
Smaller son and older son, is all the way goods, just married a year outside to find a lover, small daughter-in-law had no choice, and he wanted to divorce, in the case of not yet done the divorce formalities, the small son even the hallowed lover to the home, in front of his daughter-in-law, the night and the lover had to sleep with the daughter-in-law, no way to small daughter-in-law, but to move back to the mother's house. The only way is to move back to her mother's home to live by herself.
My former neighbor, both families are a cigarette factory workers, there is a daughter. The company's income is good, and they both earn a lot of money. But they were each spending their individual salaries. They have no curtains in their house, and the windows are covered with vellum. Because who does not buy curtains.
Each do their own meals, the daughter took turns with mom and dad to eat. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some of your own clothes, and you'll be able to do that on your own. The daughter also washes her own clothes after she goes to school.
Once I talked to the hostess when she told me about their family laundry, I listened and asked curiously, "What about double bed sheets?" She said men wash. Because there is no washing machine and men are strong.
At that time, the family area for hot water, they also carry their own thermos bottles of water, who hit the water who drink.
I was very incomprehensible, a family has become so, how the husband and wife still live together. At that time, the housing area was small. The couple also had to sleep in a bed. Her daughter was already in middle school, 12 or 13 years old. They were married for more than ten years, and they didn't know how to get through it.
Then I moved, and never saw the neighbor again, and I don't know if they are still living like this.
Then I moved and never saw the neighbor again.
That is, my husband's family, the family sat on the couch watching TV can not say a word a day, the family dinner did not have a person to talk, almost no phone call, and occasionally call to ask if it is good, good, and then hung up. I can't even understand the way their family gets along. The three of us, my mom and dad and I, have a great time joking and messing around at dinner together. Almost every day I call my parents who are not with me, what are we eating today, what's going on in the village, what's missing at home. Hey, people and people get along with a really good variety of modes. The first thing I'd like to say is that I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do this, but I'm sure I'm going to be able to do it, and I'm sure I'm going to be able to do it, and I'm sure I'm going to be able to do it. Thinking about when just transferred over, the two often walk together, a tall and a short feel very disharmonious, but her husband always put his hand on her shoulder to wrap her and feel very harmonious, the picture is very beautiful. We all envy her.
The shoes are suitable or not, only the feet know, others see only this pair of shoes beautiful or not beautiful.
She once lamented that if she could choose again, she would rather marry an old man with a successful career than an ambitious pretty boy. You accompany him to fight, wait until he wants almost all have, then the last thing he wants is you, and what he has is not yours! It sounds heartbreaking, but she says it calmly.
She and her husband have long been separated, each living in a room. Her mother-in-law is retired in her home and lives in the master's room. Suddenly it occurred to me that when I was walking in the square, I often saw her husband, or my mother-in-law, and I hadn't seen her, and I hadn't seen that tall and short pair of figures for even longer!
The mother-in-law and her husband, no matter who cooks only mother and son, no matter how late she is on holidays or off work. The bathrooms each had their own, but there was only one kitchen, and each could not use their own kitchen, but the kitchen utensils and supplies were clearly separated as to whether they were yours or mine.
One day she fainted in the bathroom when she was not feeling well, and when she didn't lose consciousness completely, she thought that if she died like this, she didn't know how long it would take for people to find out because no one would come in to her room, except for her daughter, of course. But her daughter was already away at school and seldom came back.
Then he slowly woke up, and slowly climbed into bed ......
The person who said it was very calm, and the person who heard it wanted to shed tears.
Living under one roof is obviously your husband, your mother-in-law, but the relationship with each other is even worse than the tenants of the shared tenant, the tenants of the shared tenant at least you can always quit, at any time to relieve.
She is only in her 40s, and it can be said that life is just over half over. The more you go, the older you get, and how will you live in the future? I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do that, but I'm going to be able to.
This story begins with two elderly people going to the Civil Affairs Bureau to get a divorce license.Early Monday morning, the two more than sixty elderly people lined up in front of the Civil Affairs Bureau for the divorce certificate, the staff was very surprised, so many years, the first time to see such a big old man for the divorce certificate, are generally young people to do.
The staff asked: "You two are so old, why do you still have a divorce certificate ah?"
The woman said: "In the past, I was concerned about the children, but now the children have grown up, and also have a family, we do not have any concerns, and I thought I would hurry to give the unfinished wish."
The staff then asked: "How did you two meet?"
moncler outlet online said: "I was young when I was a fruit seller, one day to close the stalls early, just passing a jewelry seller, your mother is selling jewelry inside, I went up to pick a gold bracelet, asked your mother, how much is this jewelry a catty? This time, your mother gave a happy, and thought I ran into a tycoon?"
The staff also smiled and said: "You are not quite good? The first thing you need to do is to get divorced."
The lady then said in anger, "What's good about it? If it wasn't for the divorce license today, we wouldn't have contacted each other for more than 30 years."
moncler outlet store also lowered his head and said: "At that time, young and vigorous, blood, there was a period of time we really can not be together, with two children, every day quarrel, looking at each other as if the wrongdoers, the children watched us fight, every time we cried and begged, and then the two of us decided to separate raising, I will raise the son, she to raise the daughter. After a few years I finally got up the courage to go to her mother mother, my daughter actually called me uncle, which is an insult to me, she actually educated the child do not recognize me as a father, to the point that now my daughter married into a family do not recognize me."
The mother heard this came angry, yelled: "I will not let her recognize you, why recognize you, do you know how we have come so many years? My daughter is now graduating from college, have you ever contributed a single point? It's all up to me alone. Besides, my son doesn't call me mom now! I don't care, today this marriage is divorced, we have no meaning together."
The old man also heard the fire: "Divorce on divorce, anyway, so many years have passed, a broken certificate does not mean anything. It is I let my son do not recognize you, every time the child shouted mom when you where? Now that you have grown up and want to recognize, no way!"
The staff to see this situation to fight, rushed to dissuade, and then reported the matter to the higher-ups, the higher-ups let them both go back first, because this belongs to a special divorce case, the Civil Affairs Bureau to analyze the results. Finally, the Civil Affairs Bureau called all the relatives together, a good persuasion, and finally reached an understanding, the son and daughter finally embraced together, ulcers, in fact, the two people have long wanted to recognize each other, in the way of the parents before this relationship, who do not dare to step out of this step.
This family I think is the most indifferent, thirty years of acquaintance do not speak, love not contact, know not recognize, the two separate this thirty years who did not want to find a companion, a heart on the child. Why is it that human beings are the most horrible animals in the world, I counted to see.
The most indifferent family relations in the countryside is mainly the lack of cultural education in the early days, illiterate people do not understand the regulations caused by the low quality and stupid behavior. I have seen a family man is nearly fifty years old, childhood elementary school graduation fees have been about ten years. Although out of the society learned craftsmen work, make money to marry and have children. But full of foul language, his wife is also lying, quarrelsome. This kind of make do day to go to the two children were school junior high school and high school hours, to shield finally aggravated outbursts. The woman was scolded called parents and siblings, the day before the holiday to the man's home, standing scolding the man. So that the woman took away the children, long stay in the grandmother's home. (The mother's family went out, can only return home in the Spring Festival) to look after the house. At present, there have been three years, although the mediation of many people, but the woman insisted that her husband apologize to his parents. The man believes that the woman's parents forcibly broke up his family. For both sides of the reasoning, really speechless. At present, the man's intention is that the woman is so, simply divorce, but to net out. The woman's position we do not know. Suffer is two children, every time the school to pay school uniforms living cultural supplies costs, the parents excuse each other. Due to the female family's involvement, some people in rural areas lack of education, low quality, do not know how to reason, resulting in cold family relations. I think we should vigorously publicize the family code, so that the whole society to popularize the law of family education.