You say they are doing me good, but in fact they have been flaunting other people's lives with their own values and trying to kidnap others. However, as a literate person with emotional intelligence in a new era, there is no way to refute it. So all you can do is say what she says, or she will say that you talk back and disobey your elders.
This vicious circle is better to say "do as I say" to you under the guise of being good for you. No matter how many examples they say are wrong, they can find out other bad things about you from your examples.
Some people can't accept people who choose other lifestyles just because they or their children choose a certain lifestyle, and think that other lifestyles are very wrong and can be compared with killing and arson. As everyone knows, just because they only accepted their so-called theory of success in life, they forgot that all roads lead to Rome. I don't understand that there are many kinds of people in this world. On the contrary, it is not necessarily wrong. They can only accept the old values and apply them to everyone, which is irrational. Not to mention sticking to one's own opinions and morally kidnapping the younger generation with this set of values.
Many people who have just entered the ranks of adults still have no freedom of will and are still firmly controlled by their parents' decisions. I have to say that this is a big cancer of China's paternalism. Some things can be accepted by parents with some advice. But what I can't accept is that people other than my parents try to persuade me to accept a set of so-called ideas with the attitude of elders.