Okay, let's get down to business.
People's thoughts are divided into consciousness and subconscious. The former is something we can feel, and the latter is something we can't feel.
It is in this unconscious layer that we don't feel a terrible power, which is the key to our use. It has a name I like very much, called "unconscious self-destruction".
We just have to dig it out, and the rest will be easy.
Freud said, "In addition to intentional suicide, there is also semi-intentional self-destruction, which skillfully uses some kind of danger and covers it up in an unexpected way."
Is it complicated? Then let's give an example to illustrate.
A couple, the husband is jealous.
They went to the dance. At the ball, my wife danced very well and shined brilliantly, winning everyone's appreciation and applause.
But the husband was very unhappy and whispered to her, "You shameless slut (sucking blood) is going to be a bitch (sucking blood) again!"
My wife is very sad. Early the next morning, she will travel by carriage. She chose a fierce horse in the stable. As a result, she broke her leg.
This is obviously not true, it was an accident. Her self-destruction was completed in one day and one night, and her subconscious hinted that she would break her leg so that she would stop dancing. Finally led to her "accident"
We often see such a plot on TV: a man loses his job and then has an accident; A woman was lovelorn and cut herself while cooking. This is what we often hear "it never rains but it pours".
The second thing is actually a kind of "self-punishment".
I think there must have been times in your life when you knew something would hurt you, but you did it anyway.
Yes, this is an "unconscious self-destruction", which everyone has. Usually it will appear in unexpected forms.
There is a difference between "unconscious self-destruction" and suicide.
Suicide is very aware of their own behavior, and will do internal struggle within a few months, and then consider the time and place of suicide. Which way, hang yourself, jump off a cliff or take sleeping pills?
In a word, he knows what he is doing.
But "unconscious self-destruction" is not.
It will appear in an instant, such as crossing the road and suddenly wanting to crash; When I went upstairs, I stepped on the air unconsciously, and then fell down. This is because the subconscious senses the conditions of destruction and then instantly overcomes your consciousness. This is not an accident, but an unconscious suicide.
Then how can we control his subconscious mind at the moment and even let others achieve "self-destruction"?
This is the key to the problem, and the answer is: let him lose his subconscious self-control!
Next, we consider how to make him "lose the subconscious self-control". I will achieve this goal from three aspects.
1. Cognitive bias:
For example, some people can't understand themselves correctly, like to compare their weaknesses with others' strengths, blindly fall into inferiority and self-pity, ignore their own lives and dignity, and even regard them as a means to counter society.
2. Extreme emotions:
The twists and turns in life, such as career and emotional failure and the death of relatives, will lead to emotional instability, which will lead people to extremes and fall into pessimism and despair. If you are impulsive enough, it will lead to suicide.
3. Weak will:
Some people are weak-willed, and some small twists and turns in their lives are all "disasters" in their eyes. This kind of person. Have a strong tendency to self-destruction. But here, I think everyone's will is very weak. Roh Moo-hyun can be the president of the largest country in the universe, and he is naturally resistant to pressure, but he can commit suicide, let alone others.
Below, I will give specific methods according to each item, and the rest is up to you to think about. After all, I'm not familiar with your enemy, and I don't know what his weakness is.
1. Cognitive bias: To do this, you must first understand each other's weaknesses, and then let them fully expose their shortcomings and infinitely amplify their inferiority.
But in general, people will hide their weaknesses. I'll teach you a method that will be very effective, that is, challenge.
Maybe you will say that this method is old-fashioned and won't work. But remember, everyone has shortcomings, but most people don't want to admit it. On the contrary, they always want to prove themselves, which provides us with an opportunity.
As long as you grasp it, you can make him lose face!
For example, your enemy is enthusiastic about doing things, but he doesn't have a long term. You can say to him intentionally or unintentionally, "I know a promising opportunity ... but forget it ..." He asks, and you say, "You don't have a long term, so you can't do it."
At this time, he will definitely fight for this opportunity.
When he gets this opportunity, the only thing you have to do is to hinder the success of his work and distract his attention. You can ask him out to play and distract him. Play a little conspiracy behind your back ... wait, everything you can do.
Is it difficult for a person who is not good at doing something to fail?
2. Extreme emotions: I will take feelings as an example in this respect.
The importance of love to a person need not be said. First, see if he has a girlfriend. If not, then bring him into contact with some excellent women (note that these women can't like him at all) and make him feel inferior and lost.
In fact, I like this situation very much, because without a heterosexual partner, he has one less person to talk to, and it is easier to go to extremes.
It would be much easier to have a girlfriend. You can invite them to dinner, be sure to go to high-end places (not too many times, two or three times is enough), and give your girlfriend some expensive gifts in front of them. If you don't have a girlfriend, pretend to want to chase a girl and ask her what girls like best. Of course it's still expensive.
In short, let his girlfriend know how you will treat your woman.
Remember, there is no woman who is not vain in this world!
When his relationship with his girlfriend broke down. 3. Weak will: What do you think a person needs when his career and feelings are not satisfactory? Friend!
All you have to do is find his best friend, stall him and minimize the possibility of contact between them.
Do you think he will vent?
No, always remember, there are still family ties in the world!
But will a person, especially a man, share his career and emotional failures with his parents?
Yes, but rarely, and I won't tell my parents all my problems.
At the same time, you should hint that these things should not be told to your parents, because they are not only meaningless, but worry them.
This is very important, that is, let him have no exit and bear it himself.
Now think about his situation, his work is not smooth, his feelings fail, his friends rarely contact him, and he can't tell his family ... he will feel that he is simply an unnecessary person in this world!
What is more gratifying is that we are in China, a country without religious beliefs. )
So far, the plan has been completed 90%.
Finally, you can buy him a drink (in this case, as long as he is not depressed, he will definitely accept the invitation). It's important in a place, such as cliffs, seaside, downtown ... you should know what that means.
It's best to say a few words at dusk, which will make him feel hopeless in life.
Then go to drink, he won't drink less even if he doesn't drink too much.
The time to leave the bar should be around 9 o'clock. This is because there are few people on the road and the car is fast. Many people who ate dinner were drunk, and those who didn't eat were anxious to go home for dinner.
Don't let him go out to take a taxi.
You insisted on sending him home, but he insisted on not using it. Well, I won't say much about the rest. ...
Many things are easier said than done, because many details need to be grasped and some places need to be considered by themselves. It's not that simple, but as long as you are calm, persistent, pay attention to observation, find weaknesses, be targeted, and know what the key is, it will be very threatening.
Wish us success!