Many times, I always hear people complain that XXX is not good and the quality is too poor. In fact, I think each of us should only be strict with ourselves and should not complain too much about others. Because everyone's living environment and living groups are different, it also determines that different people have different qualities.
When taking a bus in Haikou, most people, regardless of age, women and children, will voluntarily give up their seats, which is a sudden change in recent years. I think it can be said that the quality of the whole society is improving and giving up one's seat has become a spreading virtue. This is a phenomenon in the city where I live.
Where a friend of mine lives, it is another phenomenon. She lives in a small county, and she was really not used to it when she first arrived. She said that once she took a bus, an aunt came halfway, and there was no room on the bus. She sat in the back, but no one gave her seat in front. Out of habit, she stood up and gave up her seat, but the aunt refused to sit down. After arguing for a few minutes, she sat down. Then a mother-in-law got on the bus, but she still gave up her seat. The result was the same, and the whole bus looked at her with surprised eyes. The intention is good, but it seems to be a bad thing, which makes my friend very uncomfortable. The third time I came up, an uncle and friend never dared to get up again.
There used to be a lot of controversy about people who wore drag boards and drank tea in the street with bare arms. Most people who don't like these people live in a good environment. Suit and tie. Wear a tie and work in an air-conditioned office. And those people on the street, most of them are laid off, have no job or earn very little, and it is difficult to maintain their family expenses, let alone use air conditioning. On a hot day, they can only sit in a spacious place with bare arms and regard it as a natural air conditioner.
If we switch places between people sitting in the office and people standing in the street, people sitting in the office will also stand in the street for a day or two. Maybe you will be embarrassed to take off your clothes and stand in the street, but after this summer, you have accepted it and are used to going shirtless. And people who are used to going shirtless, if you put them in a comfortable office, others will dress neatly, and I think he will not be ashamed to take off his clothes again.
Therefore, we can't ask others to have the same qualities as us. Of course, I don't mean those people with low bones who are free in any environment. My original intention is just: don't endlessly complain about the low quality of others. If you complain too much, you and he are already on the same level.
The ancients said: "Those who are near the ink are black, and those who are near the ink are black; The sound and harmony are clear, the shape is regular, and the shadow is straight. Therefore, as the saying goes, "He who is near Zhu Zhechi is black".
I quite agree with this view. If red and black are combined, they will become black. Excuse me, has anyone seen the combination of the two turn red?
If one sock on your foot stinks, there is no reason why the other sock doesn't stink. If you are with a few like-minded friends, even if your behavior is not very good, these are only temporary, because under the subtle influence of friends, you will certainly become noble in the near future; If you are with a lot of despicable people, it goes without saying that it won't be long before you will behave like those people. This shows the environment, which can change everything about people.
National staff have always been people we believe can be trusted. But every time a corrupt official is caught, a bunch of corrupt officials like him will be brought out. Why is this? This is near Zhu Zhechi, and it is black near Mexico.
If a boss is a greedy person, there is no doubt that his people must be printed in the same mold.
If the parents in a family are warm and honest people, usually cautious and never offend people, then their children must be polite and lovely.
Therefore, no matter how big the country is or how small the family is, I always think that "pro-Zhu Zhechi people are black".
Environment can cultivate people's quality, and quality is also expressed through the environment. When you exert force on the environment, how your quality is in turn affected by the environment. Sometimes you can choose the environment, sometimes you can't choose the environment, because it varies from person to person. When you are helpless, it depends on your concentration and mastery.
One day in the Dazhong Temple wholesale market, several soldiers with bright epaulettes bought food, and some local ruffians provoked our soldiers to find fault and become hooligans. The rampant jumping of the beam is really unsightly, really irritating, and the onlookers are also upset. In this case, people with high quality are often at a disadvantage. Everyone can see this truth, and it can be seen from the attitude of the audience that they dare to speak frankly. It's really hard for a soldier to encounter such embarrassment. However, if you keep your duty, the loss will not be too great, and there are still commendable ways to be patient. However, one of the soldiers took out the real thing and shouldn't have done it. Probably, he also felt the reversal of people's public opinion tendency, blushing and swearing. I swear by the grass and mud! "When I heard that, I was still a municipality directly under the central government. Really took it out and scolded it happily! But do you think he recovered his disadvantage? Although it is understandable to be forced to that extent, I and the people around me were so impressed with me that I suddenly turned my attention back from the local ruffians. People left thoughtfully and silently, and never said anything again. I've been thinking about it since I got home. I feel sorry and worried about this soldier. I think his qualities have been reflected. After returning home, the headquarters troops will never let go. Even the Central Army in American military uniform has its own discipline. This is an inspection and test of expected quality and unsuitability to the environment. This most difficult scene will fundamentally shake people's quality, and every attempt will be very cool.
High-quality people or conscious soldiers should try to avoid or weaken this environment. A gentleman should stay away from the kitchen, and an eventful place should not stay for a long time. Just keep a low profile and don't struggle. The local ruffians are nothing more than greedy for small profits and playing tricks on the hooligans on the border. Why not give him a small profit? To this end, it hurts the dignity of soldiers, but it is even more commendable. It was even deceived by hooligans. A discerning person can tell at a glance that this is a double set of hooligans. First, it's for small money, and then it's a "test" to make you look bad. It is said that the local ruffian has his own ability, and he is smarter than a "person", otherwise he would have been planted in front of you. Besides, there are both local ruffians and local strongmen, and there must be powerful lumbricus in charge. Say hello later. Will the business management department and the police care if he accidentally becomes a grandson?
While we are gradually strengthening the construction of the legal system, parents' consciousness still occupies a very prominent position among the people. For example, Zhang Fagui mediates the contradiction between the old lady and the local lai, knowing that the other party is unreasonable according to his own defects, and people would rather find reasons to be patient with him. Not quarrelsome, more annoying. The old lady just couldn't bear to be confused for a moment, so you persisted in doing things and insisted that he bow his head and pay back the money to the old lady. He wants to be reasonable. Why do you want to say it directly? You represent justice and truth, he represents irrationality and barbarism, and he also understands that evil does not oppress right. You are determined to suppress unreasonable fallacies and heresies with justice, and you are tit for tat. You put all your eggs in one basket and threw caution to the wind, so you died righteously, and you paid the price of blood with your precious life. Only in this way can you really know that the earth is so bad, how can it be worth it? It is not that such cadres are not good cadres and parents, but that they should not be lost unnecessarily. The arrogance and madness of the other party and the helplessness and injustice of the old lady may be the need to comfort her. There are many ways to solve the problem, rather than rigid "mediation" according to law. Go straight to the point and you can cut through the mess without wasting a lot of spirit. Take out the money in your pocket and return it to the old lady. You'd rather admit that good people suffer and tend to the disadvantaged groups. Extralegal grace, live up to the expectations of good people, the wicked probably push your luck.
That day, I listened to the report of the Indonesian rescue team in Wangfujing. The chief medical officer is Zhang Zhiyuan from the Armed Police General Hospital. When the host invited him to speak, he praised him as "so young!" I see. Two bars and four flashing silver stars are about forty years old, our youngest senior university? I also thought of my classmates and friends, who also have the rank of colonel. Sitting with them, I feel very heroic, very talented, and have extraordinary conversation and quality. There is no clear way to express people's quality accomplishment. At this level, of course, there is no need to go to Dazhong Temple to purchase, but they went to Indonesia, which is more difficult and more difficult. Wearing a dress with a ribbon medal to attend the high society of the song and dance party is a kind of grace, but isn't it more elegant to pretend not to be in the forefront of the battlefield of life and death in training clothes? Environment can make people, and people can change the environment. Quality is not to look good, but to be reflected in the environment.
The national quality needs to be improved. When I watched Pride and Prejudice, I was deeply impressed by the nobility and elegance that pervaded the characters. I really don't know how such morally perfect people as Elizabeth and Darcy were trained. I have been longing for that kind of beautiful person from the depths of my soul. Further, perhaps, a country or a nation should carry forward its own good culture and good manners. South Korea, for example, attaches great importance to China's ancient prose and educates the Four Books and Five Classics from an early age. Trained people are just different. In fact, our nation also has good things, but it has been diluted by many impetuous and philistine things. There is a long way to go to improve the quality of the people.
I suddenly remembered an interesting thing. When I went to Shenzhen to play with my classmates during the Chinese New Year, I accidentally found a strange phenomenon, which is only relative to the city where I live. When we see passing cars waiting for the red light, the distance between the two cars is at least one meter. At first glance, we thought something was wrong, but every intersection is like this, and it is neatly arranged, which means there is no accident. It's admirable to be able to do this. Looking down from the overpass, the word spectacular can be used to describe it. The traffic in all four directions is so neat.
While admiring, I recall the city where I live. Hey, hey, such a scene can't happen there. According to my own driving experience, there is only one way to cross the red light smoothly ―― that is, get as close as possible to the vehicle in front, and speed up the start, so as not to let the next car take advantage and cross the lane. This is no joke. The first time I drove on the road, it was very civilized to make peace, but because it was too civilized, I finally stopped at a big intersection. There is always a car next to you that doesn't start as fast as it does, and it doesn't bully you as hard as him. The car that bullies you is better than his, that is, it forcibly enters from the next lane and grabs the green light time for more than ten seconds. The malice of these people has reached a state of madness. The nearest distance between two cars has been only three centimeters. Only then did I find that if I continued to drive in such a civilized way, I would not cross this intersection for a day, so I had to deal with it in another way-"try to get close to the vehicle in front and speed up the start." Once, a car of the same class tried to get in my way, so I relented, accelerated, regained my position, and then deliberately stopped him and let his car slant in the middle of the road. In this way, my skills have been exercised in such a harsh environment. This is too far from the point. What I actually want to say is that when the cars that can queue up neatly in Shenzhen arrive at my place, they are all out of shape and become as difficult to grab the road and squeeze seats as local cars.
I once read an article about foreigners observing order in foreign countries. When they arrived in China, they no longer obeyed orders, and even behaved more insolently than those who disobeyed them. The reason is that they see that people in China don't obey the order, and they don't think it is necessary for China to obey the order. Even if you see someone waiting in line, pretend you don't know anything. They show different behaviors in different environments. Can this show that they are of high quality? I'm afraid not.
Perhaps this is the role of the environment. In a good environment, people will cooperate with the environment and show their good side. In a bad environment, people will show a bad side. I don't know if this is survival of the fittest or to adapt to changes in the environment. If so, does it mean that as long as a high-quality environment is created, people will show corresponding qualities?
Event 1: Germans come to China to learn Chinese. On their first day in the student dormitory, they only heard the sound of students closing the door and shaking the earth. Germans shook their heads and lamented China's student quality. When he is ready to go downstairs to buy things, he will also close the door. According to German custom, he should take the door gently. I don't know if this door belongs to a donkey. If you don't push hard, it won't close at all In the end, the quality of Germans had to be low. ...
Event 2: An aunt wearing a red armband was patrolling the square. When she saw a person throwing up, she ran to that person and tore up a ticket: 5 yuan! The man took out 10 yuan to look for a job. I just know that my aunt is dumbfounded. This is the first person without quality today! Aunt had a brainwave and said, then you can spit again. ...
Enlightenment: Quality is a quality that a person should possess, but sometimes the environment will greatly affect a person's quality performance.
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