There is a saying that a full house of children and grandchildren, not as good as a halfway house. People are old, to face the life and death is inevitable, especially for the loss of the other half of the elderly, widowhood is a reality they have to face.
But there are many such elderly people, they live alone in their old age, and sons and daughters-in-law live together, some of them can enjoy the joy of heaven and spend their twilight years in peace, and some of them are due to family conflicts or children's filial piety and the heart of the helpless, they will go out to seek some spiritual solace and emotional support.
Some of the elderly will be in a long lonely waiting to change their status quo, take the initiative to look for their second spring talk about the twilight love, although they want to fly self, but do not dare to talk to the children, encountered such a problem, you will do?
My friend Xiaojie called me to talk about her mother-in-law's love affair, and wanted to ask me for an idea. Let's hear what she has to say:
First, the family has a good mother-in-law, the happiness of people envy
My husband and I have been married for 23 years, the relationship is stable, my father-in-law died a few years ago due to illness, we received the mother-in-law to the city and we live together.
My mother-in-law is a kind and diligent person, she doesn't like to talk to people, she is introverted and quiet, so we have a good relationship. My son was brought up by my mother-in-law, honestly, I have a mother-in-law, save me a lot of heart, especially every day home from work to eat a hot meal, the housework is mother-in-law contract, sometimes I can take time out to go to the party with friends, shopping, days not to mention how comfortable.
My colleagues and neighbors said that I was a lucky man to find a husband who cared about his family and could earn money, and my mother-in-law was so kind to me that my son didn't have to worry about going to college, and he had a house and a car, and there were no mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts and many other troubles, and they all envied me that I had found a good family.
I am also very satisfied with the current happy life, but my husband is always out of the construction, I and my mother-in-law two days, although life is monotonous, but we care about each other and hang on to each other, and the pro-mother-daughter like, in our neighborhood, our mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship has been a lot of praise from the neighbors.
Second, the mother-in-law's changes
However, recently, my mother-in-law's behavior has made me a little uneasy, and some of her subtle changes let me find the end of the story.
After this year's outbreak, my mother-in-law, under the influence of her neighbors, has recently learned to dance, and she is not only more energetic, but also has more breath, and she can often see a smile on her face.
In the past, she had a very low self-esteem from the countryside, and did not dare to communicate with her neighbors for fear that they would look down on her. The first time I saw this, I was able to see the whole world, and I was able to see the whole world, and I was able to see the whole world, and I was able to see the whole world. I have advised her to learn to integrate into the lives of the elderly, and to go out with them for walks, chats, and square dances, but my mother-in-law has never been able to take this step.
In the past few days, I found that not only does she love to look at herself in the mirror, but sometimes she even smiles at herself. She always combed and combed her hairstyle, which is obviously very neat, so I was surprised at the change in my mother-in-law's appearance, and it seems that dancing can really change people's moods.
My mother-in-law has a small body, not to mention a little dress, you can see her youthful beauty, just 60 years of rural life makes her skin a little rough, than the city of the same age of the old man.
Now she has her own life, this change makes me happy, but always come back later than before let me wonder. I asked her what happened, she said a little coyly: "Now follow the others to learn to dance, can not keep up with the rhythm, people are gone, I let a 70-year-old male teacher to teach.
I heard, people are gone, let an old man to teach her, which in case of gossip, how difficult to hear ah!
Third, the secret of the mother-in-law's late return
It is not that I am overly concerned, but my husband is always out of the construction is not at home, the child went to college and left, the home is our mother, mother-in-law after all, 66 years old, I have to be responsible for her safety.
A few days in a row so, I was a bit sullen, that night 9:30 pm, I had to go to the nearby park to pick her up.
The weather in August, the night and hot and stuffy, the street is quite a lot of people, along the park to go in, only to see the moonlight mother-in-law and an older man pulling the hand in the learning dance, back and forth into the quite interesting. I don't know how to dance, but I know it's slow three, very suitable for their elderly.
The mother-in-law's body is very good, jumping up very light, two people with good, see them spinning after the mother-in-law fell in his arms, and then the man will be a mother-in-law to the outward a send, the mother-in-law turned to the trend of a turn, and jumped to the same, the two people are very rhythmic, I stood far away from the look of the infatuation.
It was not easy to see them end, just want to go up to pick up the mother-in-law, only to see that the man patted my mother-in-law, mother-in-law even embarrassed to look at him, some of my face I have never found the expression, but also towards the surrounding scanned and lowered his head. This is strange, how I found my mother-in-law like a girl in the beginning of love, some shy.
Pedestrians are going out, the two of them in a corner of the park, do not look closely, it is not easy to find, only to see that the man pulled up the mother-in-law's hand, and the two sat on a chair next to each other very close.
Fourth, the mother-in-law has a twilight love, what to do?
After dancing and resting for a while, there is no excuse, but the more I see the more shocked, the old man even hands on the shoulders of the mother-in-law, the two eyes on the eyes, the mother-in-law head a crooked leaning on his shoulder.
I see bad, mother-in-law this is to twilight love?
I was a little confused, mother-in-law if the old man cheated can do?
It's a good thing that I've been working on this for a while now, but I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do it.
I do not dare to say anything for fear of scaring them, after all, she is my mother-in-law, my husband's own mother, I am just a daughter-in-law, this kind of thing I can not step in to solve, not to mention that the old man does not know what the situation, what are the people at home?
I did not say a word back, afraid of my mother-in-law to see, and so I got home, look at the table is 10:45, and waited for a long time, only to hear "cackle" a door opened.
I sat on the bed, listen carefully to the movement, mother-in-law first in front of my door stalled for a while, and then a very soft voice to the bathroom to wash after the return to the house.
I can not sleep, mother-in-law remarried I do not oppose, but she only learned to dance two months to find a lover, I can not believe that some of the retired old man is also very philandering, and I am afraid that she was deceived. I'm not sure what I'm talking about, but I'm not sure what I'm talking about," he said.
Conclusion:
Seeing that Jie's family is happy, and the relationship with her mother-in-law is so good, I'm also happy for her, after all, her mother-in-law is old, and the changes that have taken place in her body to let her have a wake-up call is also right, which means that Jie's daughter-in-law is delicate, and she cares about her mother-in-law's affairs, which is not a bad daughter-in-law.
I remember a phrase called: "children and grandchildren around the knee instead of twilight love" said a very realistic. The family has a widowed old man, son, daughter-in-law again filial piety, but also not pillow people know cold and hot to feel at ease. Visible, no matter how old people are, how high the status of the late widow is a great misfortune in life, but can have a twilight love and love of people holding hands through the rest of life is not a good thing.
Look at the mother-in-law only learn to dance two months and 70-year-old male teachers have intimate relations, indeed a little fast, after all, do not understand each other's situation, we can not jump to conclusions, but can be inferred one or two.
01 Be careful, be vigilant
Some retired elderly people, under the guise of enjoying their old age, teaching others to dance, specializing in seducing lesbians who are new to dancing. Look at each other smooth eyes want to cheat money and color. We can not say that the mother-in-law must be fooled, but it is right to be vigilant, Xiaojie is not assured of her mother-in-law, saw a scene with her mother-in-law and the male teacher, which shows that she cares about her mother-in-law, and this concern is well-intentioned.
If you are afraid of hurting your mother-in-law's self-esteem, your daughter-in-law can inquire about the other side of the situation for your mother-in-law, or confirm that the other side is indeed single, decent thinking, no style problems, then encourage your mother-in-law to look for the second spring, start a twilight romance.
02 can try to communicate with the mother-in-law
The mother-in-law, after all, from the countryside, kind-hearted, do not understand some of the city set, because the dance let the male teacher has a good feeling about her, may have provoked her teenage complex.
If you are not sure, you can try to communicate with your mother-in-law, if she can talk to you with an open heart, you can also give your mother-in-law ideas, or ask someone to side aspects of the family situation of the male teacher, in the matter is not clear, you can remind your mother-in-law to pay attention to their own safety, do not put too much emotion, so as not to be deceived.
03 said to the husband, let him deal with
After all, the mother-in-law is not a mother, emotional teacher Tu Lei said well, the way between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law: as their own care, respect each other as guests of honor treatment. The first thing you need to do is to get your daughter-in-law to be close to your family, so you can't be as close as you are to your own daughter.
In order to avoid conflicts with your mother-in-law, it is better to discuss with your husband and tell him the real results that you get, after all, your husband is the head of the family, as well as your mother-in-law's own son. Give the initiative to the husband, that you this daughter-in-law a respect for the mother-in-law, do not act blindly; two also respect the husband, to him as the center.
Daughter-in-law will deal with family problems, but also save the husband a lot of heart, I believe your approach will be praised by the husband.
Suggestions:
A good mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship is: you have something, I go all out, you are lonely, I help you to share the difficulties.
For the widowed elderly, we support them to find a new companion, do not oppose, because you do a good job, but also can not compare to know cold and hot pillow close to the heart.
There is a point where the mother-in-law from the countryside, no pension, everything depends on you and your husband pension. 70-year-old male teachers if you really want to pursue the mother-in-law, both sides have to be frank and honest, as long as the other person is good character, both of them have to partner with the idea of life, the mother-in-law has a home, but also your blessing.
If you find that your mother-in-law is really fooled, do not blame and ridicule her, to have a tolerant heart to comfort the elderly, do not let the elderly have the burden of thought, more companionship and care is the best filial piety of the sons and daughters.