First of all, it's very important to learn something about psychology.
The body is not comfortable, you can search for medical knowledge, self-diagnosis of the symptoms, the same psychological discomfort, we must learn to use psychological knowledge to self-analysis, to take countermeasures.
Once exposed to psychology and its rich case, you will find:
1, you are not the only one.
A person's suffering comes largely from his own closedness, thinking that the dilemma he faces is unique and one-of-a-kind, and feeling that he is the most unlucky person under the sky, bearing all the pain that no one else has ever borne. The truth is that many people have had experiences similar to yours, and once you realize that you have a lot of fellow sufferers, the level of pain is immediately alleviated. Because the pain is very often compared to the more specific the more difficult, the more universal the more relieved.
The classic film "Fight Club" begins with a mid-life crisis in which the main character, who suffers from severe insomnia, accidentally attends a group counseling session for terminally ill patients, and releases the long pent-up depression in his chest by talking to each other, soothing him, and crying, and from then on, he becomes addicted. In director Chen Kexin's "Dear", Huang Bo and Hao Lei, who have experienced the pain of losing their children, join a small group of parents who have lost their children, and they all talk to each other, encourage each other, and provide clues to help them find their lost children. Like driving alone on a dark night, the warmth of a kindred spirit will always bring great comfort.
2. You are understandable.
Psychology focuses on attribution, and all status quo occurrences have their own intrinsic motivation. From their own status quo, along the way to find the initial motivation, you will be a long breath, oh - so it is, the reason why I became this way, faced with such a bad situation is a step-by-step development, logical. After the ins and outs are clear, people will not be too panicked, and can be dealt with calmly and rationally slowly.
There is no love or hate in the world without a reason, and there is no illness without a reason, to find out why, in order to jump out of the level of the symptoms of the deep cure.
3, your predicament can be improved through the scientific method.
Many people have had mental problems and self-cured, and some have become experts in the process of self-healing, so-called long illnesses into a good doctor. Although you are having a hard time right now, the situation can be improved, and there are various ways to do so, you can be exposed to different theoretical systems, choose the one that suits you from among them, and feel your way to improvement.
Just like having a supply of common medicines at home to cope with minor ailments such as headaches and fever, we should also have some psychological analyzing and channeling skills in our lives to help us get through difficult times.
There are many books on psychology, some of which are difficult to understand. For entry-level readers, we recommend Wu Zhihong's two books, "Seven Psychological Fables" and "Seven Weapons of the Mind," which are very easy to read and practical. Zhang Defen "meet the unknown self" is a representative work of spiritualism, once very best-selling, you can also look at. Eiko Yamashita's "Disconnect" is ostensibly a book about organizing, but in fact has a simple and profound philosophy of life in it, is also very recommended.
Secondly, physical release can effectively relieve mental stress.
According to research, the human body is prone to secreting a hormone called endorphin during exercise, which can change a person's negative emotions, cheer up and become positive. Choosing a sport you like and making a habit of it consistently can be very beneficial to you.
You can:
1. Running. Running is easy, a pair of running shoes can start, neighborhoods, parks, playgrounds are very convenient. Because it's not a race so you don't have to run too fast, just use your own comfortable pace, you will feel as if you can always just run like this, the whole person becomes more and more relaxed and free. If you find the journey a bit monotonous, you can put on your headphones and listen to your favorite music or songs, preferably something that matches your pace, so that you can run with extra energy.
More and more people are falling in love with running and sticking to it for a long time, and some of them are running at a semi-professional level, so they can take part in some marathon races, which is very cool and fulfilling.
2, dancing. Dancing is very enjoyable, compared with the movement, and the music of the dance is more likely to make people produce physical and mental commitment to the sense of satisfaction, a hearty dance, you will feel like a deer as light and graceful. If you have the conditions, you can get in touch with a relatively systematic dance training, of course, easy and pleasant to dance square dance can not hurt, as long as follow the music to move, happy mood will be diffused.
3, climbing mountains. The process of climbing a mountain is very tiring, but the moment you reach the top is really cool! Will be when the top, a glimpse of the mountains, open natural weather can be cleansing the body and mind, heart stifling time, may wish to climb the mountain, to the top of the open wind, the moment the sweat fades will have a sense of relief. Maybe one day sitting at the top of the mountain watching the sunset, you will have an epiphany!
In addition to the above activities, swimming, playing ball, riding, jumping rope, shuttlecock, etc., anything that can make you sweat can play a good role in relieving mental stress. So, in the heart of the bitter and can not find a solution when, may wish to go out and sweat, detoxification, over time, may not be clear.
Finally, it's a good idea to look at how other people are dealing with the same problem and get a lot of inspiration.
You can:
1. Read. Many questions have answers in books.
2, Go out and talk to people. Maybe, you'll be inspired, maybe, you'll be relieved.
Tried all of the above, if you still can't solve your own problems, you may want to go to a psychiatrist to receive professional guidance and treatment.
It is important to realize that there are some symptoms that are not only purely mental, but also have inherent physiological causes that need to be treated with medication at the same time. In this matter, never avoid medical treatment.
Many people have concerns about counseling, thinking that only the mentally ill will go to a psychiatrist, which is really a misunderstanding. In the United States, it is as common for a person to go to a psychiatrist as it is to go to the market to buy groceries. Jason, the main character in the classic American drama "Growing Pains," is a psychiatrist who happily runs a private practice at home and receives all kinds of ordinary people.
All in all, if you're not feeling well, you don't have to be nervous, you don't have to hide it, and you have to think positively about how to improve it. If you take it lightly and just let it happen, it could be a long way down the road.
The Hong Kong movie always says that being happy is the most important thing! And for mental health, it's important to be mentally and physically consistent! Want A, but doing B, want to give up C, but can not give up the benefits of D, they get themselves tangled up, the table is not the same, over time will brew or big or small psychological problems. In fact, the heart of the smooth, many problems will be solved.