It can be for a long career,
It can be for a pair of worrying parents,
It can be for a pure relationship,
or it can be for a better self.
And not for people who don't like you
Because no matter how good you are, there will always be people who don't like you
You can't control others, you can only control yourself.
A few days ago, I received a call from my classmate Xiaoli,
who cried about what happened to her.
She and her boyfriend, Xiaowei, have a stable relationship.
Some days ago, we went to the other side of the house,
but Xiaowei's mother did not like her,
reason is that she can not cook,
look competent and strong,
not a good wife and mother.
In order to win the heart of the future mother-in-law,
Xiaoli enrolled in cooking classes, flower arrangement classes, tea classes ......
also often ask friends baking knowledge,
find ways to cultivate the ability of a good wife and mother.
But no matter how hard she tried,
Xiaowei's family still did not recognize.
In fact, in our eyes,
Xiaoli has been very good.
She grew up with a good academic record,
She successfully entered a famous university,
After graduation, she easily got the Fortune 500 offer.
Now she has a high salary,
She lives in a high-rise,
She has lived a long time in the world, and she has been living in the world's most ideal world.
She is a good person, she is a good person, she is a good person, she is a good person.
However, all the good and hard work she has put in,
is not appreciated by the other family.
1,000 readers have 1,000 Hamlets,
1,000 people have 1,000 yous,
everyone's interpretation of you is very different.
You've gotten better,
but there are still people who don't like you,
not because they have bad intentions,
but because they don't share the same values.
The difference in values
leads to a different perspective on others.
Often heard around some friends said
Everyone praised the small Y, small Z their excellent
character is good, business ability is strong ......
But I just do not like her / his voice
, walking look, raised eyebrows expression ......
Another example is Xiaoli's future mother-in-law,
She wants her daughter-in-law to look like,
a mother-in-law,
perhaps only need to be able to get down to the kitchen,
no need to get out of the hall.
All of Xiaoli's excellence has come to her,
and it seems to be worthless,
It doesn't make any sense.
It's not that this mother-in-law is bad,
but it's impossible to demand that people whose values are not at the same level should intersect.
The first thing I'd like to say is that I'm not sure if I'd like to see you in the same way as I do.
In fact, sometimes wanting people who don't like you to like you
is like expecting the air to lay eggs.
Wang Xiaobo once said,
All human suffering,
comes from anger at one's own incompetence.
When you become better,
there will be people who dislike you more,
possibly because of jealousy,
more likely to hate their own incompetence.
Graduate student W,
After graduation, he became a teacher at a vocational college in a certain city,
He was very diligent in his work,
and often stayed up late to write his lesson plans, work on his projects, and research papers.
Through his efforts,
he became the best among the same group of lecturers,
the leadership of the hospital is very recognized,
he will be the end of the year as a candidate for outstanding lecturers.
But some time ago,
W called and complained,
saying that his colleague, G, was badmouthing him,
targeting him at every turn,
and treating himself as an imaginary enemy.
W thinks he treats G humbly and kindly,
and often recommends his own publication channels to him,
and when we work on projects together,
he also takes the initiative to share the burden,
so he can't understand why G is slandering him.
It was a little hard to bear,
and I was depressed for a long time.
In fact,
G has been in this school for many years,
and has not been recognized as an outstanding lecturer,
I have not been able to publish a few papers,
I have not been able to declare a high level of the project,
and I have no idea what to do if I want to be recognized as a professor.
I am not sure what to do if I want to be recognized as a lecturer.
My classmate W's excellence,
has made G have a sense of crisis,
become nervous and anxious.
In fact, when a person becomes good, it will always cause some pressure on the people around him, and he will be the "enemy" of the people around him. This is something you can't change.
You are not a RMB,
There is no guarantee that anyone will like you.
To build a strong heart,
even if someone does not like,
do not give up the ability to try to become good.
Zhao Liying,
grew up in the countryside,
her father was a police officer in the police station,
her mother was a department store saleswoman.
After graduating from junior high school,
she had the good fortune to start out in a talent show with 8-minute clips,
and entered the acting world.
She is not from the class,
She is a serious runner,
She played a supporting role for 7 years,
A maid, daughter, granddaughter,......
During this period,
She worked hard to push, think, study acting,
She never gave up on her dream of being an actress.
She never gave up her dream of becoming an actress,
and in the end, with her own strength,
she broke the curse of a round face not being able to play the female lead,
she fought for the chance to be the first female lead,
"Legend of the Luk Ching," "Flowering Bones" "Battle of Shushan"......
One by one, her classic image has been y rooted in people's minds,
and she is now the only actress in the world who can play the lead role.
She won the Golden Eagle Goddess trophy with her one-hit wonder acting skills,
and
became the queen of the ratings.
Her inspirational story,
was even written into textbooks.
But she is so good and inspiring,
but some people still question her acting,
question her plastic surgery,
question her education.
On plastic surgery,
Zhao Liying said everyone loves a melon face,
but I just want to save my round face;
On learning,
Zhao Liying said as long as she is good at acting,
it doesn't matter where she graduated from.
On acting,
Zhao Liying made a guest appearance on the Jin Xing Show,
giving her opinion on her acting skills.
Giving her acting skills a confident 8 out of 10.
She has always stuck to her original dream of trying to be a responsible actress, and has never been deterred by any unattractive voices.
Everyone's evaluation of excellence is different,
We in life,
the excellence of hard work may be worthless in the eyes of others,
or perhaps in the eyes of others easily.
Huo Zhongxi was born with an empire of wealth,
Prince George was born with a great country,
There are times when we can't compare.
A poem titled "Short" once wrote:
A day is short,
Short enough to embrace the morning,
and already hold the dusk;
A year is short,
Short enough to savor the red sinus green of the early spring,
and to order a little bit of autumn frost;
A life is short,
A year is short,
and a life is very short,
The first time to enjoy the good things,
The first time to enjoy the good things,
The second time to enjoy the good things is the first time to enjoy the good things. p> Short enough to enjoy the good years,
already in the twilight.
In a short and limited life,
the only thing we can control is the pace of forever.
You don't have to shine,
but never stop shining.
No matter how hard one tries,
it is never possible to please everyone,
but as long as you follow the right path,
and have no shame,
what others say,
no need to pay attention to it,
because your ultimate goal is to meet a better you!