Mother is stronger and more optimistic than I thought

After my father's death, I thought my mother would have a hard time adapting for a long time, spending time in loneliness, isolation, regret and pain, but in fact, not, my mother is far stronger and more optimistic than I imagined.

My father left on the fifth day of the year.

After the funeral, the day before returning to Guangzhou, I took her to the bank to transfer the fixed deposit in my father's name to my mother's name. In the bank, the mother basically do not know anything, confused passbook, deposit slip, on all kinds of formalities, fortunately, I was in, so the formalities smoothly done. The new depository receipts were handed over to her, her eyes red, mouth a grin on the cry out: before these things are people (father) to do, and now I realize that I do not know anything, all still have to rely on people ah!

I also a burst of heartache. The first thing I'd like to say is that I don't know what to do, but I'd like to know what to do. The first thing I'd like to say is that I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do this.

The rules of our white house are quite peculiar, the spouse can't go to the grave within five weeks after the person is buried. So mom never got a chance to cry. On the weekend after May 7, I called back, and my mom was on the phone, crying in pain.

In this life, mom paid a lot to her father, he was weak and sick, she took good care of him, never give up, she also took the place of her father to hold up the home, is the backbone of the family, inside and outside, a person difficult to manage, is a strong woman undoubtedly.

I think that the mother felt that the only thing owed to the father, on the one hand, is always look at his eyes, the mouth is not forgiving, to give him a hard time, on the other hand, is in front of the children complaining about the accusations, so that the children also followed the hate him, so that the father to death can not be close to their children, the life of the gap is very deep, leaving a deep regret.

I don't know what's left at the end of the day.

I thought my mother would keep sinking, and I was vaguely worried. Watching the epidemic ease, I asked her if she wanted to come to Guangzhou for a break.

I thought she would like to come, but I didn't expect her to want to come at all. She also lived by herself in the yard of her old house, saying that she gave the doctor a tune-up, and didn't have nightmares anymore. Every day the neighbors various women come over to chat and talk, and at night dancing square dance, life is very full.

The father is gone, there are really a lot less things, a lot less gas, I feel that the mother has adapted, has begun to enjoy the relative ease of life without the father.

Grateful for all this!