I think it is right. Every family has a difficult to read the scripture, every family has some outsiders do not know the difficult things, but also their own family unique difficulties, anti is a family, have its not satisfactory place, the so-called you have your difficulties, I have my difficulties, everyone has a difficult to sing the song, life is not easy, there is no always the scenery of the people, and there is no always the people who are in the doldrums, so don't laugh at other people so easily.
The family is a small group of people, everyone has a personal knowledge of things, so sometimes there will be a conflict because of the different views of things, the environment of each family is not the same, in different environments under the influence of the people will become different, there will be different ideas, and sometimes there are different conflicts, everyone meets things are not the same, their own ideas may have discrepancies with the parents' ideas, because each person has a different idea, and the parents have a different idea, and the parents have a different idea. The idea of their own ideas may be different from that of their parents, because of the different personalities of each person will make different decisions, but always in mutual understanding and mutual accommodation, harmony, *** with the principle of overcoming to be dealt with, so that is called life.
Every family will not be perfect, worry, find fun, do not lose the peace, busy, pay attention to rest, do not lose health, tired, stop, do not lose the company, everyone is ordinary, in order to life and family and running around, must be a special destiny to make all the way to become a family, so cherish this destiny to cherish family.
My cousin's company, Mr. Wang, the meeting of the powerful, go home and change into home clothes wearing an apron cuffs dancing pots and pans, wiping the stove, brush the toilet, just like a housekeeping mom, simply can not believe their eyes. Do you think he wants to? That was forced.
Wang always do hydraulic system equipment, under the three companies, employees nearly 1,000 people, my cousin is to do business, and Wang's relationship closer, his family has a big thing and small things need to be entertained.
It will come to my store to dig 2 people to his home to help.
There was a time when our store was rebuilding a gas line, and we were on vacation for two days, and the staff went to the Bund, leaving me and my dad at the store, and my cousin let us go to Mr. Wang's house to help.
They have a three-story villa, and when we went there, Mr. Wang said he was in the kitchen making soup, and he came out to pick us up wearing an apron and cuffs, without a trace of the president's arrogance.
After going in, a chubby girl in pajamas came down from the 2nd floor, judging from her age, she was in her 20s. Just listen to Mr. Wang said, Linlin quickly called uncle and aunt good.
Linlin eyes a little dull, I thought it was just woke up confused, she just answered a, oh! And did not call us , sitting on the couch to grab a handful of grapes to the mouth, she ate the way to make me wonder.
Normal people's girls, home guests will be dressed up, this is the most basic etiquette, not to mention that there will be dozens of people to the home as guests.
After sitting down and having a cup of tea, we put on our work clothes and chef's hats and went to the kitchen to prepare for lunch, according to Mr. Wang's instructions!
In the middle of this, Linlin came in from time to time to get a mouthful of food, Mrs. Wang and Grandma Wang just looked at her and told her to eat slowly, don't choke.
At noon that day, all the people invited were company executives, and my cousin accompanied the guests instead of Mr. Wang, who didn't drink a drop of wine, but just poured a cup of tea to thank us for our help.
I went home with all kinds of questions after packing, and the father of the child was equally puzzled.
Later, my cousin brought Mr. Wang to our restaurant to eat grilled fish.
They took out the cellar wine from the trunk, which is supposed to be very expensive, and they drank a bottle of wine, and Mr. Wang said he was not drunk, and asked me to heat up two bottles of yellow wine for him.
The guests dispersed, the two of them in the hall, the staff also cleaned up back to the dormitory lunch break! We sat down and chatted with them as a couple.
He shook his father's hand and said, "I really envy you, my brother, you have two children, you're happy, you're free, you're able to do whatever you want.
I was next to the depressed ah, you are rich, villa several sets, we have this hard to earn a few salary money, there is nothing to envy ah!
I feel he is a bit of a mockery of our meaning.
He said, he actually shed tears.
It turns out that his wife took medication at the beginning of her pregnancy, and everyone advised her not to give birth, but she was so stubborn that she couldn't listen to anyone.
As a result, the child was born to learn to speak when she found that she was slow to respond, originally thought that it was normal to want another one in 2 years, but her wife was determined not to give birth to a child, saying that it would be a shame to her daughter. She just wants to give her a lot of love.
I don't know when a person secretly went to do the ligation surgery.
Mr. Wang's family was relatively poor when he was young, and his father-in-law supported him to have today, while also supporting his brother and brother-in-law, as well as his two sisters.
His family because Mr. Wang married Mrs. Wang only flat on the clouds, the father-in-law's family has deep roots, can not allow him to wild, if he made irrational behavior for their own happiness. It will hurt the whole family.
Mr. Wang lived like a puppet, in fact, he did not have much power of choice, the company's affairs, as small as the style of dress, are Mrs. said.
As if the curtain is listening to the government in general, he is very stifled.
He is so envious of the freedom of ordinary people.
His favorite garlic white meat, from marriage onwards, completely quit, the wife can not smell the garlic, and do not love to go out to eat.
So, except for business trips, he has to come home to make dinner.
In the morning, he serves his daughter and his wife before going to the office.
I asked her why she didn't hire a nanny, and she said her wife wouldn't let her.
I asked her why she didn't hire a nanny, and she said that her wife wouldn't let her. The driver was arranged by her wife, and the secretary was her wife's person.
One time, he felt so frustrated that he went to a sauna with my cousin and went back to be interrogated by his wife's three brothers and a younger brother, and he was beaten up.
He said that he had been greedy for wealth, not to blame others, for the sake of his family's freedom, he could only continue to live a dog's life.
He said that occasionally the owner of the dog would let go of the rope to let it spread joy.
He pointed to the Bentley parked outside the window and said the driver is waiting outside! He said that the driver was waiting outside, and finished his glass of yellow wine.
It was a life of seemingly endless splendor but suffocating breathlessness.
Suddenly, I don't envy the rich at all!
The first time I saw this was when I was in the middle of a movie, and the second time I saw it was when I was in the middle of a movie.
It turns out that all pots and pans are a little bit dark.
God is actually very fair, gave you some, will certainly lose some. The fate of the world has long been marked in the dark price.
You envy others luxury cars and villas, others envy you ordinary full, and that for them unattainable light happiness.
The point is that freedom is priceless.
The key is that freedom is priceless. I'm glad to be able to answer this question, but it's true that every family has its own problems, because that's what life is all about.
Let's just talk about the families that seem to be doing well. I have a friend whose father is the boss of a well-known company in the province, and he's a very powerful person, that is to say, he has money and influence, and he's a typical second-generation rich person.
Outsiders look envious of him, but a few of our good friends are clear, he is not happy, from childhood with his father contact time is very little, the lack of fatherly love, so he is now with his father's relationship is very general, always bickering, according to his words, "the two are strangers do not see each other much", in addition to the money, the love is very difficult to make up for, and the lack of love is very important. The two of them are just strangers who don't see each other much," he said.
There is also a high school classmate, his father is a deputy governor, in the local is also considered a big shot, he studied in general, but the family network is strong, but also went to a good university, graduated from the arrangement of a good job, his father retired, it is really a person away from the tea cooler, the usual network of relations slowly faded, he is accustomed to the care of others, the lack of their own ability, so in the work of the blow is also very much gone! The first thing you need to do is to get a good deal on your own.
Life is actually a play, but also a self-practice, although different origins, different family situations, but can not escape from the old, sick and dying, just a few decades, rich or not, have the right to not have the right to, in the end, it is just two kinds of results, one is that you have been through the trials and tribulations of understanding the meaning of living, and peacefully pass away; the other is that you are spending the day to drink and die in the box of tenderness in a confused.
If you want to understand, the most important thing to leave is the example of life, the spirit of living, not only to leave the wealth of society, but also to leave the children's sails!
It's a very good point.Each person's surface scenery, in fact, every family has a difficult to read the book.
The so-called surface scenery, not exactly, the normal state of life is this, but it is true that every family life will have a lot of unsatisfactory places, is the subject of the difficult to read the scripture.
Let's start with myself.
On the surface, 211 key university graduates, the family gave in Qingdao down payment to buy a house, married last year married a good daughter-in-law, now in a state-owned enterprises have a stable job, every day driving to and from work, daughter-in-law this year, pregnant, next year will be upgraded to become a father.
In fact, to buy a house every month to pay 4600 yuan about the mortgage, car parking and 2300 loans good in October to finish. State-owned enterprises work stable, but the income is very low, especially this year the impact of the epidemic all staff pay cuts, last month sent to hand surprisingly only 2000 dollars, really ...... I don't want to do it, I want to change my job, I found myself in the state-owned enterprises in these years did not learn anything, but before the work ability to debilitate a lot of people, and then into the society are afraid to keep up with the pace, looking at the 30-year-old, are not sure if I can still be like 20 years old so energetic.
The good thing is that the daughter-in-law's work income is more, to the hands of more than 10,000, but the daughter-in-law's company this year is also the impact of the epidemic, disguised ousted a lot of people, the rest of the people began to ask for mandatory 996, Mrs. next week, we will have to add a week of work.
When next year's child Mrs. maternity leave, payroll will be affected by some, plus the child's expenses, basically have to eat the old money.
Dad bought a house in the county this year, the full amount of 600,000, from me here took 130,000, with his boss took 300,000, and every month will be deducted from his salary part of the offset. My mom is still in the rush to earn money, can earn 5.6 thousand dollars a month, life is still hit, but when my daughter-in-law gave birth to a child, my mom will have to come up to see the child.
I'm a little worried about the money.
The office has a colleague sister, the family conditions are very good, she drove her own BMW to work, the age of not too small more than 40 years old, last year just had a child, a son. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products and services in the world, and you'll be able to do it all on your own.
In fact, her father just did a heart bypass surgery last year, the father-in-law this year to check the heart is not good may also have to bypass, often run to the hospital; mother and mother-in-law's health is relatively poor can not help her look at the child, after all, the age of not small almost 70 years old. Her husband is often traveling, and she is responsible for everything at home. She herself said that now she is tired, on the old and the young, some years ago when I was too tired not to have children, light years, and now all return.
Now she directly with the unit asked for a long vacation, go home and focus on home matters to go.
In the village, this phenomenon is countless, several families are poor family can not press a few money, but also bite the bullet to buy a car, insurance is only a strong insurance, the car parked in front of the door every day does not move because of the price of oil.
And listen to the neighborhood neighbors said a story, he drove with a BMW 5 series touched, the neighbor's car only dropped a little paint, BMW's mirror broken, the traffic police came to determine the BMW is fully responsible for the BMW that the owner was almost crying, his car only strong insurance, BMW for a mirror and assembly more than 10,000 yuan. This ....
Recognize the subject's view, indeed.
Like the spring flowers, everyone wants to show their positive image, positive, sunshine, health, happiness, wealth, etc., can become the content of the display, we are often accustomed to "return home", rather than "brocade night", so as to gain acceptance, the "brocade night", the "brocade night", the "brocade night", the "brocade night", the "brocade night", and so on. We are often accustomed to "returning home in fine clothes" rather than "traveling at night in fine clothes", so as to gain recognition, win respect, and satisfy our own spiritual needs. I think this is understandable and cannot be simply defined as "vanity".
As the saying goes, "The best of everything is the best of everything," and I'm afraid that the best of all possible worlds only exists in a fairy tale. Behind the good, there is inevitably this or that regret or handicap. Perhaps for the sake of "love of face", we seldom tell the unpleasant things to others, not good at talking, not good at listening.
The world's most important and most important thing is that we can't afford to lose the chance to be a part of the world's most important and most important thing. In the face of the less-than-ideal, I suggest that we still need to face it with a positive mindset and find ways to solve the problem rather than avoiding it. The adult world, there is no "easy" word, "want to be in front of people, must be the first after the suffering", life will not because of our weakness and mercy, reduce our life on the road to suffering. The only way to overcome it is to rise to the challenge, not to be afraid of setbacks, and to have the hope and possibility of overcoming it.
At the same time, we also need to have an objective knowledge of our own ability, which is through their own efforts can be achieved, which is far beyond the scope of ability, unattainable. Develop a practical life goals, "three days predestined, seven points rely on hard work", but divided into difficult to their own, in front of the task really can not be accomplished, and destiny handshake, with their own reconciliation.
This question is a true reflection of all people! It is really hard to be a human being, especially to be a person who keeps the scenery on the surface at all times. Have worked hard and struggled, and even often fantasized, nothing more than to win more scenery. Don't say that every family has a difficult to read the scripture, for everyone is not it?
Lan Lan, his wife's niece, more than 20 years old, tall, decent features, good temperament, no job, no job, and a 20-year-old developer married her, wearing gold and silver, a brand-name, driving a luxury car, live in the villa, the scenery is infinite, around the neighbors, friends and relatives envious and jealous.
Lanlan's husband, Zhang Bago, suburban vegetable farmers, not much culture, but people straight and good, righteousness, entanglement of a group of social unemployed, forced contracting works, earned the first bucket of gold. With the accelerated construction of urbanization, rapid expansion of the city, housing demand, he seized the opportunity to set up a real estate development company, business as usual, earn a lot of money.
Soon after marriage, Lanlan gave birth to a daughter, Zhang Bago patriarchal thinking is serious, see a daughter, very annoyed, during the month, only to visit, and then there is no trace of Lanlan and the baby all rely on her parents to serve, we can not stand to see, but Lanlan said that her husband is busy with his business, earning money, hard, understandable, she does not care.
Later, I learned that Zhang Bago has two wives, the first wife can not give birth to, but not divorced, and now also in charge of all things home, the second wife (did not apply for a marriage certificate, is a cohabitation relationship) has two daughters, Zhang Bago is not satisfied, to her to buy a villa, a luxury car, and monthly payment of $ 30,000 living expenses, and Lan Lan before the marriage, has been with the second wife to live together.
We asked Lanlan, do you know that Zhang Bago has two wives in front of him, and there are exchanges, close relationship, Lanlan actually know long ago, often eat together, our generation can not accept. Lanlan said that her husband is very good to her, she also love her husband, said the new period, new life, as long as they are good on their own, the other, she does not care, do not care. We are speechless.
Last year, Lanlan gave birth to another, full of thought is a boy, the result is still a daughter. It is said that Zhang Baxiong is eager for his son, did not give birth to a son again disappointed, and now rarely go back to Lanlan's home, it is estimated that outside the womanizing, until the birth of a son to collect, Lanlan dared not say anything, hate hate their own stomach does not compete, did not give birth to a boy.
To be honest, Lanlan's cousin wore gold and silver, driving a luxury car and living in a mansion, the scenery is infinite, but the whole day is terrified, extremely painful, afraid of the day her husband moved away from her mother and daughter swept away, so that she has nothing to lose, after all, she and Buster Zhang did not do the marriage license, belong to the de facto marriage, the rich and the poor are difficult to protect.
In fact, Lanlan loves not Zhang Baxue, she loves Zhang Baxue's money, no labor, glory and wealth, in order to money, no matter how many women Zhang Baxue blatantly looking for, they can tolerate it, sad and pathetic. Of course, Buster Zhang loves not Lan Lan, what he wants is Lan Lan to give him a boy, to pass on the family name and inherit the family business. So, on the surface of the scenery, inside all have a hard to read scripture.
Grain farming second generation, a family of words, do not like do not spray, thank you!
Answer: That's right.
In real life, it's really like this; there are a lot of people who have a lot of surface scenery, but in fact, there are a lot of troubles and sorrows hidden in their hearts. It is said that "every family has a difficult to read scripture" which speaks the heart of many people, their own lives, their own days, they know. Every family has its own life pressure and burden, we are all in pursuit of a more perfect day, the pursuit process will be tired, upset, frustration, trials and tribulations, troubles, etc., "family scripture difficult to read" ah! If you care about your family, you also have to take care of your in-laws and your mother's family, both big and small. If you want to recite the Family Sutra well, you must first deal with the problems of affection, love and friendship. Every day is different, life's "hiccups" occasionally disrupt the mood, but also let a person is very annoying. People with money: there is a certain amount of trouble, people without money: there is more of their own annoying side.
Want to make their own not worry, the home of this scripture read well; also need to work hard to do their own, properly deal with all the things at home. People live itself is tired, in the "little by little" in the pressure of life, try to avoid some unnecessary unpleasant, people can not desire too much, more will increase a lot of trouble and pressure, learn to live simply and happily! Let yourself be happy every day is enough!
I think it's right. I know an aunty who leads a life that looks very glamorous and is greatly envied by onlookers. But her inner suffering is known only to herself. After she told me about it, I realized that every family has a hard time, whether it's rich or poor, only they know the pain and suffering.
Auntie was born into a poor family, and in the early years, because of the lack of money and her husband uprooted, came to the city to work. She worked early in the morning and late at night, working hard day and night, and with their hard-working hands, they finally took root in the city.
Around 1993, the city has not yet developed, a few roads connecting the whole city, not yet walked far, unknowingly out of the city, far away from the fields.
Auntie and her husband discussed the matter and applied for a piece of land in a village not far from the city to build a house. It was sparsely populated back then, and was encouraged to be left behind by those who came from the mainland.
After spending all of Auntie's savings, they were able to build a two-story house, which was casually painted and never decorated again.
Auntie they have their own children, two sons and a daughter.
They had their own children, two sons and a daughter. As time went by, more houses were built next to Auntie's without her realizing it, and all of them were built by people from the mainland, and the place became even more lively, with people coming and going.
The city is also developing, the household population plus the floating population year after year to rise, the village of outsiders is also more and more, just this time to come to the people can not build a house.
The outsiders came into the village to look for extra houses to rent, they all came to work, and they could not afford to rent houses in the neighborhoods that cost 1,500-2,000 yuan, so they came to the village to look for houses that cost two or three hundred yuan.
Auntie's next-door neighbor saw a business opportunity, and saw that the city was growing faster and faster, and the population was getting bigger and bigger. The city buildings were about to encircle the village. So the neighbor started to add houses on top of the building, adding four floors in one ****, reaching six floors in total ****, renting out the extra rooms to working people.
See the next door neighbor after the construction of the building rented out to earn money. Auntie and her husband discussed it, and in order to earn money for their children, they also borrowed a sum of money to add the building to six floors, and also rented out all of them.
As the house rent went up, the aunts quickly paid back the money they borrowed.
At that time, people in the city were looking down on the people in the urban village, thinking that they were just working people with little culture. The living conditions were poor, there were many migrant workers, and it was dirty and messy.
But in 2017, the government suddenly rumored that it would renovate the old city, demolish all the urban villages and give cash compensation. After a short time, the government issued a complete announcement. A demolition office was set up, and went to the aunt's house to measure the area and paint the big 'demolition' word on the wall.
People in urban villages all of a sudden became envious of the demolition households in the eyes of others.
Banks, real estate companies, insurance sellers, car sellers, and so on, roam around the village every day, just to wait for the village people to demolish the house to buy financial management, buy houses, buy insurance, buy cars, and so on.
Auntie and the others became the envy of the world all of a sudden. As soon as the house was demolished, they were richer than the vast majority of people in the city and could live the life they wanted.
From the demolition office, they learned that the aunt and their house should be able to compensate about five million dollars. When they heard this figure, the family was dumbfounded, and the whole family was in a daze for the whole day.
All of a sudden, they don't want to do anything, and they've been working hard all their lives for money. The house will be demolished and everything will be there.
Waiting for the day is long and eager, the demolition office last measurement is completed, aunt they signed the compensation agreement. The people from the demolition office turned to them and said, "You wait for your money!
Soon after, more than five million dollars of compensation to the aunt's account, they stood at the side of the building and took a picture, they packed up and left the house, moved into a modern neighborhood temporary rental housing.
Meanwhile, like Auntie, many of the evicted tenants swarmed into the neighborhood.
The price of housing in the district has risen, from the original 6,000 more than the unit price directly rose more than 2,000 per square meter, into more than 8,000.
Auntie saw the rising prices of the neighborhood, but also can not wait, hurry in the hands of the agency to buy three suites. A set of her and his husband to live, a set of older son to live, a set of younger son to live. She bought 120 square meters for her two sons to get married and 100 square meters for her. And configured furniture and appliances, so that the total **** down spent three million.
But she forgot about her youngest daughter. I asked her, "Why don't you buy a house for your little girl?
She said, "My daughter is going to get married, and we're going to give her a dowry.
But how could the youngest daughter be willing to do so? After discussing with her aunt many times to no avail, she directly took them to court and asked for an equal share of the compensation for the demolition.
Outsiders look at Auntie is very beautiful, but Auntie also has a difficult to read scripture, according to her idea of the era, she felt that the daughter sooner or later to marry out, so do not buy a house can be. But now is what era, equality between men and women, the daughter asked for a share of the money what is wrong.
I asked her what happened, the aunt said the youngest daughter withdrew, they gave her 800,000, the rest of the money left for the son to get married, buy a car, do the wedding with the hands of not much savings.
Since the demolition, they have not worked. People who know them are very envious of them, thinking that they have a lot of money from the demolition of the house, but in fact they don't have much money left.
The two sons have been idle since the demolition, spending a lot of money on food and drink, and according to the aunt, they owe a lot of money, and their daughter doesn't want to be with them anymore.
Some people's appearance looks very beautiful, in fact, the family has a difficult to read the script, only they know how much pain and suffering. If you want an ideal life, you have to keep working hard to create, otherwise even if you have money, you will be sitting in the mountains, the surface of the scenery is not the real scenery, only the inner strong is the real scenery.
Everyone's surface scenery, in fact, most of the bright and shiny behind the back of the unspeakable heartache and pain, people see only the side of the dashing scenery, families have a difficult to read the scripture, there is no perfect family.