Face life with a smile: it is an optimistic and positive attitude towards life, who sees through the disputes and fame and fortune in the world and is indifferent to leisure.
For example, Su Dongpo, one of the eight masters in Tang and Song Dynasties, was once called an hopeless optimist by Lin Yutang.
Su Dongpo's career path is extremely bumpy. In his 42-year career, 1/3 of the time was spent in "decentralization". At the age of 42, he was slandered by a villain for "Wutai Poetry Case" and was exiled to Huangzhou by Song Shenzong. Instead of giving up on himself and being bohemian, he turned his sadness into the driving force of literary creation.
"When I was in exile, I was in a hurry and my heart was high." Su Dongpo is bored, but he is not doing nothing. But do everything, and then develop a hobby of farming and cooking. During his work, his mood also improved. So he successfully changed his mentality of "being a gentleman of Yao and Shun" into that of "talking about creation", which inspired his unique creativity.
In stress psychology, there is a theory that the problem lies not in stress itself, but in the attitude towards stress. In other words, if you look at setbacks with an optimistic attitude, your thinking will become more flexible. More importantly, if one road is blocked, optimists will not "hit the wall and never look back", but turn to other jobs. They hope to succeed, and if one thing is not done well, it will stimulate their creativity in another job.
Su Dongpo was 62 years old when he was exiled to Danzhou for the last time. According to historical records, Su Dongpo was carrying a coffin at that time, fearing that he would not come back alive if he stayed in the local area for too long. However, his optimism has created tenacious vitality and prompted him to survive in a harsh environment.
Su Dongpo's famous sentences can give us a good reference.
"The moon is full of rain or shine, and people are doomed to misfortune. This is an old and difficult thing. " The famous sentence in When is the Bright Moon reminds us to realize that life is not perfect and not to expect too much from people and things. Only in this way can we bear the changes of life, give ourselves more hope and confidence and be happier.
"There are few flowers blowing on the branches, and there are many fragrant grass in the end of the world." La Seelos, a famous American stress psychologist, believes that people's stress effect does not depend on the magnitude of stress, but on the evaluation of stress. Generally speaking, the size of frustration is not the key, but how people look at it. Here, Su Dongpo's words give us a good inspiration. In the face of setbacks, we should always keep a normal mind and look at the problem from a positive perspective, not too pessimistic.
This poem tells us to cultivate a sense of humor consciously. My friend Chen Jichang is often scolded by his wife, which reminds Su Dongpo of the way Sakyamuni growled at the lion. In addition, Chen Jichang's wife is from Hedong County, so there is a joke of "animal roars at the lion". From this story, we can see the humorous side of the poet. Learning more humor can not only solve the embarrassment, but also make yourself happy.