Life mom is more dependent on you, how to gently solve?

Believe that in life certainly every family life is different, there are children are more dependent on their parents to help him decide what to do or advice, but there are also families with parents more dependent on their children, then life mom more dependent on you, how to gently solve it? The following is my personal opinion I hope it can help you. In fact, there are many children are more dependent on their parents, because when they were small and large things are parents to help her decide and solve the problem, so over time he is more and more dependent on their parents, so that he has no their own opinion. I don't agree with this kind of behavior, I still want to have their own opinion is better. But my family's situation is the opposite of others, I am very independent and have their own ideas, but I found that the life of my mother is very dependent on me. At first I didn't think so, I thought it was because I was brought up by my mom.

It's possible that as I slowly grew up, I wanted my own personal space, but my mom refused to let me live alone outside, and my mom didn't feel comfortable letting me live independently on my own, probably because she didn't feel comfortable with me. But usually I go out to a supermarket or shopping with a friend or something, mom will ask questions, and finally asked to go out with me together with shopping, etc., mom's dependence on these will make me feel that my own private space are not, then I also endured did not go in front of friends to say that mom's not.

Then I found a time to sit down with my mom and talk? I have grown up now, why mom are not going out to find their own friends or sisters together to go out shopping or drink afternoon tea or what? When I was young, I worked hard to raise me to this point, and now that I'm older it's also time for you to be able to enjoy the happiness of your later years? Mom, however, said that because I was brought up by her, up to now the focus of her mind revolves around me, so much so that she doesn't know what to go for now that she doesn't have anything to do. So on the 2nd day I dragged my mom to the square to accompany those uncles and aunts to dance together, and enrolled her in a senior citizen university to help her enhance her cultivation, so that she now spends her time and energy on her own body do not need to worry about me again.