Whether it's reassuring to take care of your own child, or if you're distressed about your mother-in-law, it's definitely best to take care of your own child and play with him or her every day if all the conditions allow it.
Not only can you avoid all kinds of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts, avoid the wrong view of parenting delayed children, and parents accompanied by the growing children will also develop more healthy physically and mentally.
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If the reality does not allow themselves to bring up children, mother-in-law to help bring up children, to be more mutual understanding?
If the family economic pressure, or mom and dad are busy at work, only in-laws to help bring up the child, then ask them to help bring up the child is good, easy to get along with the contradiction, is nothing more than the following aspects, but also can be resolved through communication and understanding.
1. living habits
The older generation grew up in different living environments, living habits will naturally have a lot of different, some of the old man is not so hygienic, and now a lot of new parents are "cleanliness", but also prone to conflict in this area.
The good thing is that "habits can be changed", more communication with the elderly, and gradually help them to correct, and develop good hygiene habits on the good; but the young parents should also be appropriate to reduce the requirements of the elderly, grinding out a mutually comfortable degree on the good.
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2. The concept of bringing up children
Some elderly people are very stubborn and believe that their own point of view is correct, but do not agree with the current scientific point of view of parenting, so it will be due to the concept of different conflicts.
①The use of authority to change the concept of the elderly.
For example, if you buy some parenting books in advance during your pregnancy, or if you take them to listen to some parenting seminars, and if you encounter problems during the process of bringing up your child, you can consult a doctor in time, etc., so that you can gradually correct their unscientific concepts of parenting.
And, usually in the process of bringing up children, found that the old man's method of bringing up children is not right, to communicate with the old man in a timely manner, and more kind reminder, to help them to correct over.
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②The whole family is involved, rejecting the "widowed parenting".
Raising children is the responsibility and obligation of both husband and wife, the elderly can come to help with, but can not rely entirely on the elderly, or dad completely aside, the child's growth needs complete love and companionship, both parents, any one can not be absent.