Tu Lei once said, men are animals who get an inch, most of them are not so consciously, if the woman to take the policy of free-range, a few men with high IQ will think that it is forgiveness, but most men will take it for granted, and even those men with high IQ will be habitually self-centered if they go on for a long time.
A family, if there is such a man, there is love outside of marriage, will still look justified in front of his wife, not to put his wife in the eyes. For the sake of the home and children, perhaps the wife will tolerate, but the heart is there? The wife may be able to tolerate the situation, but there is a lump in her heart. s, the couple will slowly become strangers to each other, to the old age, the days must be bad.
60-year-old Zhou Dabo is so, this age only know repentance: young owes his wife too much, old age will be very miserable.
No matter how loving the couple is, the passion between the two will be diluted by the triviality of life, and gradually feel the loss of love.
Some men will feel, all day long with the side of the wife to stay together without enthusiasm, and even feel a little boring.
Both men and women want to be passionate and charming. However, the reality tells us that life has sweet and sour, sadness and sorrow, can not afford to pursue their own spontaneous yearning. Into the marriage, we must be responsible, responsible, support the family, otherwise, happiness will be destroyed in their own hands.
Auntie Li married with Zhou Dabo, home on the main pillar. Because Uncle Zhou has a job, Auntie Li is the one who has to bear the burden of the family, including the vegetable garden.
As the saying goes, when you marry a man, you get to wear the clothes and eat the food. Auntie Li, who was born in the 60s, could realize the meaning of this saying. She didn't ask for too much, she had food and clothes, and her life was simple and happy.
At that time, a woman in the countryside being able to marry a man with a job was seen as a beautiful marriage. At that time, Auntie Li was also particularly fortunate, and naturally, she was very loving to Zhou Dabo. Good food was left to him, the family listened to him, the size of the work did not need his hands, sometimes late home from work, despite their own tiredness, but also busy with Uncle Zhou to get food and drink. If you're slow, you'll be able to get your hands on a lot of money, and you'll be able to get your hands on a lot of money.
People can't be spoiled, some people will be spoiled more and more bad, the more blame the more arrogant, the more spoiled the more inches, and even worse. After a long time, the habitual, often emboldened, and habitual people, but bruises.
There is a saying that habit becomes nature, nature becomes a matter of course, that is, they will take what they do as something to do.
Between husband and wife, if the woman does not control the man, then the man will feel no constraints, and can not do self-discipline, do what you want, may be able to do things to hurt the woman.
Auntie Li is a capable woman, busy after the vegetable garden busy housework, but also with children. Perhaps some couples, in addition to their feelings fade with time, will be busy and neglect emotional care.
Auntie Li is really busy, and she rarely asks about the fact that Uncle Zhou is late from work every day, and occasionally spends the night out. As time goes by, Uncle Zhou becomes more and more self-indulgent.
Behavior began to indulge the man as if the broken line of the hydrogen balloon, more and more high, more and more far.
Until one day, Auntie Li learned that Zhou Dabo has a woman outside, suddenly remembered that there is no husband and wife for a long time that thing, the heart is extremely sad.
That night, Auntie Li specially waited for Zhou Dabo to go home, and then asked him bluntly, Zhou Dabo did not deny it, but also said a whole lot of detrimental to Auntie Li words, Auntie Li broke her heart.
Auntie Li is in love with Zhou Dabo, but after this incident, she can hardly tolerate. Thinking of marriage, they have too much tolerance and forbearance to Zhou Dabo, this time resolutely do not endure, and filed for divorce.
Zhou Dabo did not agree to divorce, because he is selfish, lack of commitment, outside just want to seek excitement, not want to abandon the family. I have to say, with such a man who only loves himself, can not enjoy the warmth and happiness.
Zhou Dabo in front of Auntie Li is to make amends and swear, Auntie Li thought of the children and the family, on the surface of the forgiveness of Zhou Dabo.
Between husband and wife, if one party cheated, the other party chose to forgive, then, bring only more suffering. Once derailed, lifelong use. Stop in time to avoid more harm.
Zhou Dabo seems to be quiet, in fact, not at all restive, Auntie Li found that he and outside the woman is still coming and going. For this reason, the couple often quarrel, he took Auntie Li as a soft persimmon, did not even put in the eyes. Although every quarrel has a son and daughter backing, but Zhou Dabo's verbal violence is often the Li auntie angry to the seventh hole in the smoke.
The couple is trying to grow old together, and in the old age, they can take care of each other and go through life together. But if the young do not know how to respect, do not cherish each other, and even hurt each other, this is owed? Debt? , to old age, is to return, at the same time, the heart will follow the bleak.
Auntie Li on Zhou Dabo also cold hearted, Zhou Dabo on Auntie Li has long been no enthusiasm, the appearance of separation of the day to continue.
Remember what the old people said: everything stay a line. But when Zhou Dabo really understand, only to realize that he owes his wife too much when he was young, and did not even think of leaving room for himself.
Zhou Dabo retired, he thought he could get more than 3,000 pensions per month, he can be at home in his old age, he is also too good at thinking.
Since the day of his retirement, Auntie Li said this to him: I served you like a nanny for more than 20 years, and now you don't have to go to work and do your own thing. I'm not divorcing you either. I eat and live separately, so there's no need to sleep in the same bed anymore. I have my own pension, I won't miss your money.
Zhou Dabo did not comply, but this time Auntie Li is not young her, plus her son and daughter are on her side, her attitude is more determined, Zhou Dabo can not help.
Auntie Li gave up the vegetable garden to others, and only planted some of their own food, usually playing mahjong, dancing, and sometimes helping with the grandchildren. As for Zhou Dabo, no matter what, she does not bother. Every day without worry, without attachment, the days are very comfortable.
Zhou Dabo every day to buy their own food cooking and washing clothes, life has never done these things, old how to do is a piece of busy. He wanted to find Auntie Li angry, very much like when he was young to scold. But he persuaded himself, young owed his wife too much, and now old, to repair the good, and now do these as atonement.
When he was young, he was a husband and wife, but when he was old, he became a familiar stranger. Zhou Dabo saw other elderly couples, and then think about now: his wife does not want to see him, his children are not close to him, his friends around him are not warm, back home alone, enjoy the warmth of the heart is particularly miserable.
There is a saying: it's easy to hurt a woman's heart, but it's hard to win her back. To the old only to feel young to do too much, regret, it is too late.
A man's life, around the longest companion is the wife. A woman married to a man, is trying to get a man's love and care, let her life without worry, rather than to hurt.
Raising a family is a man's vocation, to become a wife's lifelong crutch is also incumbent upon the man's responsibility. Treat your wife well, respect your wife, resist the temptations around you, don't wait until you are old and have no one to accompany you, lonely and alone when you feel miserable to regret.
Men please treat their wives, when young, owe their wives too much, is to give their own old heart to add bleak.