Is it really quiet to let him lie at home and not go anywhere? His so-called quiet, just avoid the edge of the contradiction between you, find a more suitable way for you to get along. Just tell you to be quiet, not that you have to study 12 hours every day like a monk in a temple, right? Although many poisoned chicken soups will tell you that a man who finds reasons to ignore you and doesn't take care of your feelings shows that he doesn't love your performance, I have seen some poisoned chicken soups before, which are biased and misleading.
So the point is, how should women respond when men ask for silence? We already know that he wants to be quiet. First of all, let me talk about some wrong ways. Let me help you avoid some pits first. Maybe some people will take a more extreme approach, that is, deal with it in a cold way, that is, if you ignore me, I will ignore you and see who can hold on. Then when this man came to contact you, you brought a little sad manners, just to let the man know through these behaviors that you said you broke my heart.
But I personally don't agree with this practice, because if you don't want to break up, you just want a man to understand that he is wrong through your indifference. This method is too passive. Assuming this method is effective, then men will understand that you are a woman who will be cold when angry and ask for help with indifference. Then at this time, you are using indifference to attract his attention, so his response is to show your concern; Retreat, you can play dumb until then. It is more likely that the other person simply thinks you are looking for trouble. I miss you, I come to you, but you always give me a look. You said I didn't find you, and I have no conscience. Did you find me? So I don't agree with this way. Refrigeration can't solve the problem.
So how to deal with it? It's very simple, don't care too much about this matter, just get along calmly. Let me give you an example. For example, if a man says I want to be quiet, then you just keep doing your own thing, whether it's following a play, dancing in the square dance, shopping with your girlfriends, drinking afternoon tea and so on. Ignore him. Some people may say, isn't this the cold war? No, actually, I'm telling you, this is the most comfortable thing a man can do, because when you are immersed in your own affairs, men will take the initiative to make excuses and find opportunities to participate.
When you can do your own thing without a man, he will really think that you are an independent, charming and considerate woman, and he will not feel that he is always responsible for your emotions, so he feels free and relaxed with you, in which case he will stick to you more and love you more. In other words, if you can give him full respect, freedom and space when he needs to be alone, his time alone will be faster. We used to talk about a word called cave period, so after it, he will come to you on his own initiative, and your feelings will heat up.