Praise is like a mountain climber's sense of direction, can find new tracks in the lost direction, and the lack of praise will lack of self-confidence, the future has a lot of uncertainty. As the saying goes, a good word warms in winter and a bad word hurts in June. Adults and children love to hear encouragement and praise, because praise and encouragement are recognition and expectation.
Especially when they encounter some difficulties or do something bad, encouragement and praise will help a lot, but criticism will make things worse and make things more nasty. Many parents often complain that their children behave badly everywhere. This is actually a form of criticism attack. Why do schoolboys get better and better and schoolboys get worse and worse? This is also because praise is the ladder of progress and criticism is the slide of regression.
That is to say, to educate a child well, parents must have the ability to praise the child, but praising the child needs more skills. We can recall several ways of praising children in our daily lives, such as "you're great", "you've done a good job", "or" try harder next time " and so on.
These methods of praise sound fine, but the positive motivation involved is rather vague. Especially children who often listen to these praises will find empty talk uninteresting, and will either be arrogant or unresponsive to what they are used to hearing. This is a time when parents need to know how to be flexible when it comes to praising their children.
How to praise the excitement? I personally believe that praise to praise the main achievements, praise the details and the essence of the praise to be targeted, such as the following eight ways to praise:
1. Praise the details of the child's work, glory
Careful praise is not only in the smallest things, but also in the child's consideration of the problem of the careful effect of the glory of the child, consider the problem from multiple perspectives. If your child goes out to ask for a glass of water, then parents must remember to praise the child's excellence. Tell your child, "Honey, you remembered to bring a water cup when you went out. That's great. Daddy (Mommy) didn't think of that. You'll have to remind us more when you're our teacher in the future!"
2. Praise your child's sense of cooperation
The strength of a team cannot be ignored in anything at any time. Developing your child's sense of teamwork is equivalent to improving their social skills. If your child is having trouble playing with toys or doing something, don't forget to praise them when you know how to invite others to participate and tell your child "You and your buddies are working well together. If you can keep it up, I'm sure the biggest difficulties in the future will be solved".
3. Praise your child's creativity in seeing things
Everyone has different ideas and creativity about everything. The younger the child, the stranger the creativity. In fact, a child's whimsicality is precisely the accumulation of usual thinking and creativity. It is also possible that the child's brain opens up after a lot of delusion. At this point, parents will praise the child "really smart". It would be better to praise the child, "That was a really creative idea you had. This kind of praise, which is just needed, is just right and more for the child.
4. Praise kids for their honesty
Everyone, including kids, has a hard time being completely sober. More often than not, they are self-conscious under the supervision of others. If they want their children to keep their credit lines up all the time, then parents should praise them when they are honest and trustworthy. For example, we make it a rule for our children to watch TV for only half an hour, set the alarm and then do their own thing. If the alarm goes off and the child can be the first to turn off the TV, it shows that the child is honest and trustworthy, and the parent is the first to praise them.
5. Praise your child's enthusiasm for helping others
Everyone has a period of enthusiasm for helping others. We can recall when our children were in kindergarten, did they always want to help their parents do some chores, such as sweeping the floor, wiping the table or washing the dishes? This is because the child has learned a lot of good habits in kindergarten and just wants to apply them at home. If we praise our children when they help with chores, instead of saying "grow up and do it," then their enthusiasm for helping others will continue in the praise of recognition.
6. Praise your child's bravery in doing things.
Courage is like the morning star in the darkness, illuminating the footprints to be walked before and after. Just because children are brave now doesn't mean they can be brave all the time. If parents scold their children when they are eager to be praised, or even criticize them for not doing well, then they are not brave enough when their self-confidence is exploited. They don't feel confident in themselves, so they are afraid to try and unwilling to try.
So, when the child is positive and brave to do things, not afraid of difficulties, parents must positively praise the child in the language is not stingy, timely encouragement to the child, so that the child is confident and strong. When faced with difficulties, they will not be timid or afraid. Courage is the turning point for us to move to a new stage. As long as we break through the current difficulties and usher in a new turning point, it is a bright future.
7. Praise your child's leadership in management
Some children are born with strong leadership skills. For example, when they were young, they loved to stand in the conspicuous C position when they saw a square dance. Combined with cute moves and adorable facial expressions, they're just the right kind of "little star". However, some parents may be more cautious, and they don't trust their children on noisy streets. Overprotection deprives them of the opportunity to stand as a C leader and can gradually affect their child's social and verbal output.
That is to say, when a child is particularly motivated by something he or she is facing or volunteering for, parents should not frustrate the child's motivation and enthusiasm, but guide and encourage the child to do a job as well as possible. This is management and a reflection of the child's leadership skills and experience overlay.
8. Praise the child's perseverance without fear of failure
In the way of praise, parents should not only praise the child in time in the above episodes, but also neglect to praise the child's perseverance without fear of failure. For example, when the child walks too fast and falls down without crying, we have to say to the child in time: "Baby, look how good you are, fall down without crying. It would have been worse if you could have stood up strongly." .
It is important to note that when parents praise their children's bravery, it is best to encourage them to break through difficulties. In the new difficulties, the equivalent of improving their practice, courage and positive abilities. In fact, praise the child is generally praise something, than "you are great" this monotonous praise is more likely to attract children, but also through more communication to understand the child, to realize the real flow of education!