Not only that, there are even people who take care of their children. Nowadays, many old people think it is a pleasant and grateful thing to help their children, but now many dual-income families have no grandchildren and are unwilling to help. So some people will compare children with in-laws. Some grandmothers said that I brought the children when they were born. His grandmother is actually very free and dances square dance every day. There is a reason why children should take their surnames. She has to take care of it. That's what I did. Daughter, I don't know her either. An old woman said, I took my grandson. I can't take it anymore. Yes, his grandmother will enjoy her old age. The old couple traveled all over the country. In the future, I will spend a year and let her spend a year. Of course, it is really rich to compare who is filial to his children and who is more filial to his grandson. But this comparison is harmless, and the biggest harm is their children.
Comparison is like a poisonous snake wrapped around my heart. The lighter is the imbalance in the heart, and the heavier is jealousy and hatred. If you can't control the poisonous snake in your heart, read Hemingway's Real Nobleness. He said to be superior, not noble, but truly noble should be better than in the past. Yourself. The comparison between in-laws is the most incredible. As the saying goes, why not wet your shoes when walking by the river? If you can't control your heart, at least control your words and deeds. In-laws should have less contact, less contact, less comparison, and naturally reduce contradictions.
Let me tell a story about my aunt. She is sixty years old. She is a retired teacher with a monthly pension of more than 7000 yuan. She has only one son, and she is very promising. After graduating from a key university, she stayed in the big city. After her grandson was born, she took care of her children for three years, not only taking care of them, but also doing housework and subsidizing living expenses. In the past three years, my aunt has not only subsidized the pension every month. She really doesn't have much money in her hand. Last year, my aunt and in-laws died unexpectedly and took her for the New Year.
At first, my aunt and in-laws only met several times when my son got married, and both left a good impression on each other. But because of the Chinese New Year, just a few days, customs and habits are different, and both of them are not satisfied. What makes my aunt feel even worse is that she only gives her grandson lucky money, but her mother-in-law gives her grandson lucky money, which suddenly compares her with her. But aunt's money usually belongs to her son. After the New Year, my aunt felt very uncomfortable. She said, I really shouldn't spend the New Year with my in-laws. If we hadn't spent time together, things wouldn't have become like this. Who hates strangers? There is no love for no reason, and there is no hate for no reason. You don't need love or hate to get along with your in-laws. As long as there is no contradiction, it will not affect your children. Life is beautiful. The best way is to avoid contact.