Carelessness is a simple word, but it contains many connotations. It refers to what you understand and do. Mistakes caused by carelessness are different from those caused by ignorance and inaction. It is manifested in all aspects of study and life, with various forms of expression. In contrast, "carelessness" is more prominent in learning. For example, in mathematics, some children confuse symbols, such as "+"as "small" and numbers, such as "3" as "8", forget to write answers, copy wrong questions, and copy. In Chinese, the initials and finals of pinyin are unclear, the second and third tones in tone are unclear, the characters are half recognized, and the stroke order is wrong. In English, English D is confused with the pronunciation of Pinyin "D", and D is written as Pinyin "A".
In life, carelessness is also manifested in many aspects: my room is in a mess, I don't tidy up after finishing my homework, I forget to bring my intimate book and communication book to school, my homework is sloppy, I often throw away pencils, erasers, watercolors and even textbooks and dancing shoes, I forget to turn off the tap after washing my hands, and I can't find books when I need them.
Second, three misunderstandings of parents' careless understanding of their children.
How do parents treat their children's carelessness? Experts have done a survey and found that most parents blame their children's carelessness on carelessness, carelessness and lack of sense of responsibility in learning. Here is an example. There is a child, in the second grade of primary school, with average grades. His parents' evaluation of their children is that they are cheerful and lively, love learning and have a strong interest. The problem is that he is too careless in his study and stutters when reading the text. A short essay of more than 100 words takes three minutes to read, and he can't finish it almost once, nor can he copy his homework, and he often misses it. If his parents don't check, the child won't find out himself. Sometimes let the children copy it again, but the children don't want to, making the whole family unhappy. As a result, children began to hate reading texts, especially Chinese. Parents think that children are usually very lively. Why do they stutter when reading the text? Do they have vision problems? Therefore, it is really wrong for children to think that carelessness is the subjective reason of children, or that parents can't reach their conscious learning state.
Myth 1: Children don't work hard subjectively.
In fact, the child mentioned just now is not a vision problem, but an unbalanced development of learning ability. Why can some children repeat the lecture after a class, while others can't remember it at all? This is that the development level of each child's learning ability is inconsistent. Listening sense and visual sense are important components of learning ability, and they are used most in learning activities. Listening perception directly determines the efficiency of children attending classes, while reading and writing homework are inseparable from the development of visual perception. If the development level of children's visual perception is insufficient, even if they have sound visual organs, they can concentrate and face the learning task.
Some parents may say that my children can hear and see, and there is definitely no problem with auditory perception and visual perception. In fact, there is an essential difference between the two. For example, the child mentioned above, after testing, his visual perception ability has not reached the level of his peers, which is characterized by poor visual concentration and easy to add words, subtract words or skip lines; Visual discrimination is underdeveloped and easy to read wrong words; Poor visual memory and understanding lead to poor reading ability; If your visual movement is poor, you will be slow to do your homework. Therefore, parents should not blindly blame their children for their carelessness, but should find the reasons from their learning ability.
The unbalanced development of learning ability refers to normal intelligence, but because of the lack of psychological function to participate in learning or the development can not reach the level of peers, it is impossible to master the learning links of the school, and there are difficulties in listening, speaking, reading, writing, calculating and thinking at a higher level. With the accumulation of problems and the growth of age, children's self-confidence and emotional development are further affected. According to a survey conducted by the Mental Health Research Group of the Institute of Psychology, Chinese Academy of Sciences, the performance rate of unbalanced development of primary school students' learning ability in China is 15.6%, and 8.75% of them have a serious problem of unbalanced development of learning ability. According to this calculation, there are about 62.9 million 14 children with various learning problems in China. Therefore, for some seemingly careless children, they are very wronged, not because they don't work hard, but because their ability has not been achieved. It is the first misunderstanding of some parents in education to attribute carelessness to children's subjective failure to work hard.
Myth 2: One-sided emphasis on study habits, ignoring the order of things.
There was a little girl in the fourth grade. Her mother said that she was going to let her children do some housework. After dinner, she arranged for the little girl to wash the dishes, but before the little girl could, her father washed the dishes first. Before going to bed, grandma put the foot washing water on the little girl before she could speak. Get up in the morning, grandpa is anxious to help the children get dressed. There is also a third-grade boy who took out his Chinese, math and foreign language homework when he came home from school to do his homework. He stopped to do math in the middle of his Chinese homework, but he couldn't do it. He dropped mathematics to do English. Half an hour passed and he didn't finish any of his three homework. His desk is cluttered with textbooks, homework and stationery.
In fact, the habit of studying hard does not exist alone, but is inseparable from living habits. Children who are forgetful, disorganized and lack perseverance are often prone to careless problems in their studies.
Simply looking at the problem of carelessness is the second misunderstanding of some parents in education.
In the process of doing things, children should learn to prioritize, grasp the rhythm, become organized and learn to be independent. More importantly, there is psychological experience, and more psychological experience will naturally become a habit. And good living habits will naturally transfer to study. We can't imagine that an absent-minded child will arrange his studies in a very orderly way. Therefore, we must not deprive children of the right and opportunity to do things. Developing good work habits can promote learning, which often produces a miraculous effect with half the effort.
Myth 3: Excessive monotonous repetition causes psychological fatigue.
In other words, parents adjust their children's carelessness in the wrong way.
There is a first-grade child who can copy typos in his homework. In order to correct his mistake, his mother stipulated that he should be fined 20 times for copying a wrong word. The child made five mistakes at a time and was fined 100 words. Children are slow to write, and when they make mistakes, they erase and rewrite. As a result, the book was also erased. This is because my mother can no longer stand the anger in her heart and was scolded in the storm. The child also talked back to protect her fragile self-esteem, which made her even angrier.
There is also a fifth-grade boy who feels that learning is as tiring as climbing a mountain, especially math. Because of the poor foundation, the speed of oral calculation is only half that of peers, and the error rate is also high. His mother is anxious, seeing that the child will be promoted to junior high school in one year, and time waits for no one. In order to improve the child's computing ability, the mother stipulates that the child should do more than 50 oral arithmetic problems every day, and all of them can go to bed. A month later, the result backfired. Not only has the speed not improved, but the error rate has not decreased. On the contrary, children become numb at the sight of math problems, and they become afraid, so they simply refuse to do them.
Children are not machines, and homework varies from person to person. Like this fifth-grade boy, he lacks attention and visual perception. To reduce carelessness, he must first improve his ability. Through effective training methods, let him eliminate his fear of mathematics and blindly carry out sea tactics, which will only get twice the result with half the effort.
Six reasons for children's carelessness.
Through the above phenomenon and parents' misunderstanding, we will find that there are profound internal reasons behind the simple phenomenon, and carelessness is not accidental. So why is this happening? How did it happen? Let's talk about the third aspect, six reasons for children's carelessness.
(1) inattention.
Carelessness is closely related to attention. Children with poor attention, when visual perception transmits the received information to the brain for analysis, the information will be disturbed, and it is easy to make mistakes, omissions or losses, resulting in carelessness. Physiologically, the cause of inattention can be traced back to the early education of 0-6 years old. Research shows that most children who haven't completely crawled before walking will be inattentive, have poor physical coordination, can't effectively control their movements, can't get useful information from the outside world, and a lot of sensory information can't be transmitted to their brains, thus turning a blind eye and listening without hearing.
(2) The development of visual perception is unbalanced.
Visual perception is not vision, vision refers to the information seen by the eyes, and visual perception is the ability to transmit the information seen by the eyes to the brain and process the information seen.
Why do some children write 69 as 96? Why do some children always add up to ten digits and single digits, and they are not arranged properly? Why do some children get the answer right, but they copy it wrong when they copy it? This is all related to the child's visual perception ability.
Visual perception refers to whether the eyes can track fixed points and moving points (visual concentration), whether they can clearly identify two similar words (visual recognition), whether they can quickly remember the numbers they just saw (visual memory), and whether the hands and eyes are coordinated when writing (visual-motor coordination). Every child's visual perception ability is different. If a child's visual perception ability is not up to the same age level, it is easy to be careless.
(3) Knowledge points are not well mastered, which leads to unclear cognition.
For example, some children don't pay enough attention to learning new knowledge and don't know the key points and difficulties. Watermelon and sesame seeds are confused, eyebrows and beards are grabbed, knowledge points are disordered, and the understanding of methods is half-baked. It is impossible for them to speak out the knowledge points one by one and connect them into a complete knowledge structure. I can understand the words, but I can't understand the details. If you don't consolidate your review in time after class, the scattered knowledge you have learned will soon be forgotten. Therefore, there are bound to be mistakes and loopholes in the homework exam. In addition, in mathematics learning, some children can't clearly and accurately grasp the laws of mathematical concepts because of their poor perception of things and strong abstraction and logic of mathematics. If the attitude towards these mistakes and loopholes is insensitive, laissez-faire and perfunctory, then there will be more and more mistakes and loopholes. This state of knowledge will hinder the study of new knowledge in the future, and the result can be imagined.