Why do you want to narrow your social circle when you get married?

Lately, I often hear my friends say that they have social phobia, but every time when I ask them what kind of manifestation they have, they tend to be vague. One of them said to me, "April, since I got married, I found that I am less and less social, and I don't like to go to places where there are many people, and I don't want to contact my former friends anymore. Do I have social phobia." Every time I hear such a question, I cry and laugh. Isn't it a normal thing that a person prefers to be alone and dislikes crowds at a particular segment of events? Why does a person have to have a psychological problem when he or she changes? Our understanding of psychological problems is really still only in the literal sense of the word. So before answering this question, it is necessary to explain what level of social phobia is considered social phobia. Social phobia is a type of neurosis that is characterized by excessive fear of an objective object or situation that the individual knows is irrational, but has no control over. Fearful episodes are often accompanied by marked anxiety, and the individual deliberately avoids the object or situation that is causing the fear. Social phobia is often accompanied by autonomic symptoms that usually interfere with his normal activities. As a simple example, agoraphobia is a form of social phobia. People with agoraphobia are generally afraid of crowds, and they are more fearful of crowded situations. When they are in such situations, they may experience panic attacks, sweating, frequent urination, and in more severe cases, fainting. They would love to change this, but often feel overwhelmed and out of control. Social phobia is not the same thing as not liking to socialize or being socially inept, and being cheerful or not is not a criterion for determining social phobia. If you are sure that you are indeed social phobia, then try the following methods: 1, systematic desensitization Systematic desensitization method, also known as the interactive inhibition method, that is, in the stimulus that triggers anxiety appears at the same time to allow the patient to make a response to inhibit anxiety, this response can be weak, until eventually cut off the stimulus and the conditioned connection of anxiety. One of my favorite dramas, Meet Wang Li Chuan, uses this method, except that he is not targeting social phobia but bloodsickness. The main female character, Xie Xiaoqiu, has bloodsickness, and Wang Lichuan bought her a red cell phone in order to treat her bloodsickness. That is, give a stimulus - make a response - and finally adapt. 2, psychological counseling If you can't improve by yourself, you may want to go to a professional psychological counseling agency or psychiatry to receive psychological counseling or treatment. The purpose of psychological counseling is to let you recognize the problems encountered, and ultimately guide you to find a solution to the problem. 3, auxiliary drug therapy Phobias are often accompanied by anxiety and other adverse emotions, when the phobia attack may be auxiliary drug therapy. Drugs can not only alleviate the fear brought about by the physical anxiety response, but also reduce the vegetative response. I'm the same way! I've been working full-time with my children for three years! I don't want to talk too much about the pain and suffering! However, I found that when I returned to the society, I seemed to be unable to understand and understand, and then I realized that I might be out of touch with the society. I basically put all my time on my child, and I thought that he was the only one in my world! I was afraid of being derailed. I've done micro-businesses, I've done Taobao stores! As soon as the kids go to bed, I start surfing the web to find out what's going on in the country! But even so, society still seems to be unfriendly to me! The first time I went out alone, I felt like I couldn't even cross the street, looking at the cars shuttling themselves scared to death! The first time I bought something by myself, I forgot how to ask and bargain! In the past three years, my city has opened a subway! The first time I rode it, the ground crew helped me buy a ticket! I y felt that I was backward! I became timid! I became afraid to communicate with people! I summarize, whether you get married or have a baby, for a woman, you are entering another stage of your life! The lifestyle changes, the people around you change! Even the environment changes, so how can you stay the same? I have to suggest that if you still have your job, don't throw it away and move on with your life! The prerequisite for a good marriage should be that you are an individual who is not dependent on others! That way you can switch between lifestyles where you live well on your own and two people aren't bad! If he loves you he'll try to bring you into his social circle, and you love him you'll bring him to meet your friends! That way there are more friends! Sometimes you don't communicate not because of others but because of yourself! You are the only one who can change yourself! You cannot and do not have the power to change the people and things around you! Open your heart and mind to embrace a new life! Go for it! Girl! Be brave! No one else is you nor can you empathize! If you can change, try to change. If you can't, try to accept! Don't lose yourself! How can I break my social phobia? I feel like I'm slowly becoming like this after I got married. I used to be so cheerful. Social phobia is also called social anxiety disorder. It's a type of psychiatric disorder, formerly known as fearful neurosis. Mostly related to environmental events, know that excessive unreasonable, but can not control their own fear of psychology. Fear occurs often accompanied by, restlessness, dry mouth, shortness of breath, rapid heartbeat, blushing, stuttering, cold hands and feet, and so on ...... symptoms! How to treat, the heart disease also rely on the heart disease doctor, first of all, the treatment of psychological shadow area, more and external communication, such as going to the market to buy food, square dancing, conscious to the mall and merchants bargaining. You can also find relatives and friends to gather at home, all of which will enhance your anti-fear of discomfort symptoms. If the fear does not improve you must go to the hospital and take medication! You can also go to a counselor and have a consultation! Get rid of this disease as early as possible before it causes more harm! Thank you! Social phobia how to break, I have a girl here, before the marriage bar is a good girl loved by everyone, kind-hearted and extraordinary appearance. There are a lot of people who like her. But after marriage due to their own culture is limited, can not give the husband to help. And her husband has a successful career, and gradually cold feet and dislike her, that she is just a vase that is not useful. Not as good as a nanny. How to see how bad. She dared not speak loudly in front of her husband. The family also did not give her a good face. Sometimes she stammered. It wasn't long before they divorced. When she came home, her family didn't leave her alone. They encouraged and guided her to participate in social activities and public welfare activities. At first, she was afraid to talk to strangers, and didn't even dare to approach tall gay men when she saw them. Now through the efforts of her family and herself, she regained her confidence and found a supermarket cashier job, the salary is not very high, but she feels very good. When there is a break, she also participated in some public welfare activities! She is very happy, and it is said that a coworker has a crush on her and says he wants to pursue her. A bright future lies ahead! Here's wishing them well! This is an interesting question! If you were socially unstressed before, then it means that your current social disorder is not primary, that is, your personality itself is fine, then it is a stressful social disorder. So, buddy, you may have a problem with your marriage. Let's try to figure out why. First of all, is your wife socially dominant? Is your wife socially dominant, and does she give you a sense of oppression? If so, that's the problem. The solution is to talk to your wife sincerely and get her understanding and support. Secondly, if it's not your wife's problem, there's another possibility: Is your wife's family very strong? Is it giving you a lot of pressure in your life? If so, you can isolate yourself from their interference for a while and lead your own life. Thirdly, you may have had social failures at weddings or at social events before or after that made you feel bad. This love needs to be bolstered by gaining some social success, and you can start looking for good feelings in your interest groups or good friends. Fourth, there is also the possibility that after this marriage you are so stressed out by your living arrangements that your self-confidence has taken a hit and you have developed a social withdrawal mentality . It's called the desire for speed, so put those non-rigid desires down for a while and give yourself a chance to catch your breath. There may be other reasons, I don't know the situation in depth, so I won't pussyfoot around. Brother, this is normal, the quality of life can not keep up with a lot of people will be like this, prove that you are a love of family. Family-centered, wife and kids first, I should have guessed right. Before getting married is very cheerful, what are cheeky, one person full of the whole family, of course, happy. After getting married and having children, slowly the family is stabilized, and the usual days are going to work and coming home from work. Especially when your income is not high, your general social gatherings are rarely go, others called you once or twice when you do not go generally will not call again, slowly and then lost the old friendship, this time the circle of friends will slowly change. Social phobia in fact do not have to how to break, after all, living life are your own a family, remember, live your own day is the best day. Don't ask me why I know! Because I'm the same way [laughs and cries] [laughs and cries] [laughs and cries] [laughs and cries] Do you have any idea why you have a social phobia? Where does the reason for this social phobia of yours come from? If you haven't even figured out some of these reasons, then no one can help you. You said that you got this social phobia after you got married, so your condition should be an acquired one. There is a period of change in the human psyche, and as to why you are like this, it is still the same as the previous sentence, first of all you need to know why you have become like this? Social fear comes from low self-esteem within, and a lack of self-confidence. When a person has doubts about themselves, or has low self-esteem internally, with socializing it is a fear that comes from within. In order to change your mindset, first you need to understand why you have this fear of socializing at a deeper level. Where does this cause come from, what makes you have this mentality, only when you know this, you can change your mindset. I answered pointlessly, but I think you should think about why you have this mentality. In fact, to be honest, I am also Fortunately, I seem to have found some ways No confidence is mostly because you think too much Sometimes you have to come up with a little ignorance of the kind of fearless conceit Nothing touch the wall to accept the lesson on it, but be sure to make yourself confident even if a little bit of conceit There are a number of psychological hints to it first from the beginning of some psychological hints to start self-adjustment to do an auxiliary There is no way to say that frankly, the people's self-confidence are by the The confidence of a person is obtained either by suggestion or external suggestion, for example, the reason why we are confident is mostly because we want to achieve a lot of things, or else it is to give yourself a boost to self-adjustment and! You've got to live hard, you've got to strive for something in life *** 'cause when you get married, it's all about the family, it's all about the kids, it's all about the socialization. Slowly you get out of socializing. It's not a fear, it's a responsibility you have, a family responsibility. The only people who are with you are your family, the people who love you. Socialization is a kind of interest in socializing, if you are doing about socializing industry, it is natural to follow the pace. You can go out with your loved ones to see more of the outside world, or you can go to travel, happy happy to play, then your mood will be liberalized. One way is to climb the mountain, on the top of the mountain to say out loud your heart. If you're afraid, you don't have to socialize, so why make yourself so miserable! No one is forcing you to, right? It's all because of your own inner turmoil. Since you are married, you should live your own life, if someone is close to you, then continue to socialize, if no one is close to you, then live your own life, if you need to concentrate on your life, then live it well, if you have a family or not, how can it be the same? I don't know why I'm thinking about that. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new one, and you'll be able to do that.