Most mothers-in-law have said to their daughters-in-law, "I will treat you as my own daughter's heartache." In fact, the mother-in-law this sentence is just talk, may say when she herself will feel particularly false. As for the daughter-in-law, who will take the mother-in-law's words of honor to heart, called her a "mother" and in the restaurant called a "waiter" emotional color is not much difference.
If one day, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law really like mother-daughter general, then the name is really in line with the mother-daughter relationship. Only, almost all daughters-in-law are not so lucky, mother-in-law is always just mother-in-law, mother-in-law is never mom.
In the eyes of the mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law and a non-expensive nanny is almost the same, to take care of the family, but also to pass on the family. The saddest thing is that the daughter-in-law not only can't get a penny of salary, but also may be subsidized.
Obviously, the results of the subsidy is not satisfied with the mother-in-law, so it will make waves, make a big fuss over nothing, picking bones in the egg, until the son and daughter-in-law divorce before giving up. This result, really is the mothers-in-law want to see?
Husband is WANXI's first love, she once once felt that she was lucky to be married in the first relationship. Many of her friends around her envy WANXI's happiness, and who wouldn't envy the feeling of loving only one person for a lifetime.
After she got married, WANXI lived with her mother-in-law and sister-in-law. As long as she could be with her husband, she didn't mind, instead she felt that having more people in the family was a kind of hustle and bustle. WANXI and her sister-in-law are of similar age, and they get along especially well, just like sisters. On the contrary, the mother-in-law feels that her daughter-in-law is a problem everywhere, even if they are all faults.
The mother-in-law is completely double standard when it comes to her daughter-in-law and her daughter. When the daughter is snacking, it's okay to eat anything, anytime, but not the daughter-in-law. So, when Wancy wants chips or milk tea, she either eats outside and comes home afterward, or hides in her sister-in-law's room and the two of them eat together.
When it comes to housework, her mother-in-law always instructs her daughter-in-law to do it, so her son and daughter can sit on the sofa and watch TV and play games. Wan Xi must brush the dishes, scrub the floor and do the laundry after eating.
One time the daughter just couldn't stand it anymore and said to her mother, "Mom, if I ever meet a mother-in-law like you, do you think I should fight back?" The mother's reply was, "What do you know about being a child."
Wanxie is in love with her husband and is in harmony with her sister-in-law, so she doesn't care about her mother-in-law's occasional difficulties. Unexpectedly, the mother-in-law is intensified. The first thing that came to her mind was to "kidnap" her daughter-in-law's paycheck, which she did on her own.
They say they are saving up for the two of them, fearing that they will spend money frivolously, but in fact the mother-in-law wants to save up for her daughter's dowry. WANXI did not agree, the mother-in-law made a few days at home.
Not long after, her mother-in-law forced WANXI to have a child, and it had to be a boy. WANXI said, "Mom, when I was promoted, I promised the leadership that I couldn't get pregnant within two years."
The mother-in-law's voice rose several degrees, "What did you say? Two years don't want to have a child, have you thought about my feelings? Did you ask for my permission? If you delay another two years after two years, can our family name continue?" This time Wansi could not bear it any longer, she packed up her things and went back to her mother's home.
But two days later, WANXI heard that her mother-in-law had been hospitalized for high blood pressure. WANXI discussed with her husband and sister-in-law, wondering how to solve the dilemma in front of her, and in the end it was her sister-in-law's brilliant idea that was adopted.
When her sister-in-law went to the hospital to take care of her mother, she said, "Daughter, you go to work and let your sister-in-law quit her job to serve me. That way she can have a baby sooner after I'm discharged from the hospital."
The youngest sister-in-law said, "Mom, my brother left, our good days are over." When her mother heard this, she immediately sat up from the hospital bed, "What, why didn't you tell me about such a big thing as a divorce? Alas, it's all my fault, nothing to pretend why sick ah. Daughter ah, quickly give me to do hospital procedures, they can not divorce ah." The younger sister-in-law is not in a hurry at all, "Divorce is fine, you can't see my sister-in-law anyway, just let my brother find a new sister-in-law."
Mother said, "What do you know, Wansi is so nice, she cleans up the house so well, she's good to your brother, she's good to you, she's good to you, and she doesn't complain to me, so where can I find such a daughter-in-law?" Once the youngest aunt heard her mother say this, she knew that she wouldn't have any more difficulties with her sister-in-law in the future. And this result was exactly what they wanted.
I think: it is said that we know how to cherish only when we have lost, and it turns out that this principle is equally applicable between mother-in-laws and daughters-in-law. In fact, most of the mothers-in-law are like a mirror in their hearts, know that their daughter-in-law is good, also know that sometimes they are just windless, but they just enjoy this feeling. It seems that this kind of mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship is more interesting, the later years of life is more fun.
If one day, the son and daughter-in-law divorced, the mother-in-law in the moment of loss will realize that their previous behavior is too much. So, most likely, she will try to do everything to get her daughter-in-law back.
If the mother-in-law had known that her behavior would bring her son's marriage, she might have stopped a long time ago.
Mother-in-laws have to go through this experience before they can learn to "stand by". After the son's marriage, the mother-in-law will have to learn to take a back seat, and let the young couple live their own lives.
As for the mother-in-law, she is fine with square dancing and playing mahjong, and her little life is not much easier. As a mother who wants to make her son's marriage happy, the most basic principle is to get less involved in her son's marriage and keep a distance from her daughter-in-law.