Recently, when I was picking up my eldest child from school, I noticed a phenomenon that most of the people who went to pick up their children, if they were not young mothers, were grandmothers. At first I felt quite envious, thinking that these mothers are really lucky to live so close to their mother's home, and if they don't have time, their grandmothers can still help pick up their children.
But I didn't expect that, just talked about this with my girlfriends and realized that it's not the case, and they all said that it's too good to be true.
I think it's amazing, isn't it because of the proximity of the grandma helping to teach the kids?
Why is it that a lot of families nowadays are grandmothers helping with the kids and grandmothers? The reason reality is solid.
There is a big difference between the concept of parenting with in-laws, because of this it is easy to conflict.
Because of the differences in the education of the child after the disagreement, the mother-in-law does not want to manage them again. Instead, they let the children's grandma and grandpa help to bring them up, so that even if there is a difference in the concept of education for the children, they can also communicate with each other.
Now there are more grandmothers to help with the baby, there are these reasons:1, to avoid conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
For the family's newborn baby, whether as a mother and father or grandparents, grandmothers and granddaughters are very loving. But but due to the different times, the two generations have a big gap between the concepts of childcare and education, which can easily lead to conflicts.
And the original mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship is a big problem, in the childcare problem conflicts, it is even more difficult to deal with, for the sake of family harmony, it will be given to the grandmother to bring, so that even if the mother and grandma's concept of parenting is different, but also be able to communicate with some good, do not leave any big problems, and make a difference.
2, parents can not bear to see their daughters so hard
Many people for the family, in order to create better conditions for the child, had to return to the workplace immediately after the child was weaned. This is very hard for women to work during the day and come back at night to take care of their children.
And as a parent, seeing the child so tired, will also feel heartbroken, in order to not let the daughter so hard, grandma will take the initiative to help take care of the child, hope that the daughter can be easier.
3, grandmother is not willing to help bring
With the development of the times, people's concepts are also changing. In the past, old people felt that when they were old, taking care of their grandchildren at home and enjoying their grandchildren was enjoying the joy of family life, but now many people may want to have more of their own time and live for themselves.
Some grandmothers feel that after decades of exhaustion, now that they have finally retired, they want to live for themselves, get together with friends, square dance, and travel, and don't want to help out with the kids because they don't want to be tied down by them anymore.
The child is the baby of every family, but as a grandparent, it is not always obliged to help bring up the child, or to distinguish the situation.
If the parents are willing to help with, we should be grateful, in the process of encountering any problems, but also should sit down and discuss, if you do not want to take, should not be forced, after all, this is not the old man must do, should recognize this reality, if the elderly are not willing to help with, do not complain about the people, this is the freedom of their own.