My sister privately felt that the old lady is not decent, afraid that she will bring the child to the wrong, and then gave birth to a son to let my mother to help bring a few years, food and use of their own, four years old to send to the regular kindergarten, never bother the old lady.
Later, when my mother-in-law got older, my daughter did not want to take care of her old lady, and pushed her to say that she was old and not well, and even lied that she had cancer, and my nephew was more simple, and cried, and went home to save more than a decade of tens of thousands of dollars of New Year's Eve money to take out to the great aunt to save her life, and my sister's brother-in-law knew that after the sister's home to ask for proof, and only then did he realize that it was lying, and the money has been given to her son to buy a car, and the result is that my sister has a lot of money, and I have to pay the money. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
Then the old lady moved to follow my sister's family, served for more than ten years, well-fed, more than ninety to die, before he died, pulled my sister said I'm sorry, said a lot of sweet words, but also took off the ring to wear my sister's hand, my sister's family of three touched by the tears, and then after the funeral, only to know that the old lady years of savings and the sale of the house of the money, I don't know when all the time has been given to her daughter, didn't give to the support of her old son, grandchildren stay! The old son and grandson of her old left a penny.
The old man does not help to bring up the child, not necessarily good or bad. It depends on the old man's emotional intelligence and the daughter-in-law's cultivation and the son's ability to status in the home.
The neighbor Jiang is a shrewd person, since the marriage, the family matters are her decision. The two couples worked hard to bring up a son and a daughter, and the children also worked hard and went to college. The son has made a home in the provincial capital, and the daughter-in-law is a colleague of the son. Sister Jiang was well aware that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was not favorable, and she had no intention of going to help with the grandchildren. She slowly revealed her thoughts to her son, then told her daughter-in-law about her health and the fact that the family couldn't do without her, and finally said that despite this, as long as the children were in need, she was duty-bound to go. The daughter-in-law's background environment is the same as their family, also know that she did not lie, in addition to the son to earn more than the daughter-in-law, daughter-in-law also reasonable said that the mother's mother to help, can not afford to hire a nanny. Of course, Jiang sister at home often prepare some souvenirs, to the son's home to send over, the son came back every time the car is stuffed full. Sister Jiang at home do not square dance or play mahjong, daughter-in-law is not good to pick what. The family has been together for a long time, and they have been very happy together.
Now she says she will take care of herself and her husband's health, save up some money, and try not to give her children any trouble in her old age.
This is the first time I've ever seen a woman in the world with a child.
I believe that the law is positive, the elderly do not have the obligation to take care of their grandchildren, they have worked hard for their families and children all their lives, and they should have their own lives in their old age.
Young parents are too hard, they have to go to the society to struggle, to earn money to support children and their own life, go to help them, the old do not help them, when the old can not be moved will be disliked, the days are certainly not good.
My two children are brought up by themselves, although hard, but there is no trouble, there is no mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship, meet one or two times a year, the words do not say, the work is not done. The kids don't like to go back home either.
I know a friend, his family child is their own brought up, did not use the old man to help bring children.
After his child was born, his parents very, very much want to help with the baby, but the couple disagreed, they think their own children, want to start from a young age on their own training, their own children, at that time, also made the parents super unhappy.
Then it was the woman who was the main outside, his daughter-in-law worked outside to earn money, he was the main inside, at home with the child cooking, as a full-time baby daddy. The couple did everything for the child, and life was a little difficult at first because only one person was working.
But his daughter-in-law works very hard, career belongs to a step forward, and he took the child shuttle in a variety of training courses, husband and wife, a clear division of labor, basically nothing contradictory.
Two years ago, his child took the college entrance exam and got into a 985 university, and he was also liberated. Later he opened a restaurant in his neighborhood, his daughter-in-law also made it to the company executive, all the moments of his children they did not miss. Although his parents at first complained about not being allowed to see their children, and later figured out that the old couple also have time to go out and travel around the world, life is tasty.
I think the parents have been tired all their lives, should not be in the labor, but now the situation of the elderly do not give to see, there is no way, really can not only a full-time, a person to work.
As long as the economy allows, it is recommended to take care of your own children. After all, the concept of the elderly and young people still have some differences. If the elderly live closer, there is an emergency in time to take a hand is the best. If you can't get a hand on your own, you'll have to bite the bullet! Long-term living with the elderly will also be contradictory. The key is to have a husband who can do the job.
The old man is not obliged to bring you a child, this is what everyone says, but the fact is that you do not help him bring a child, may affect the parents, mother-daughter relationship.
The mother-in-law does not help with the baby, I received the parents of the field to a first-tier city to help with, now a family of five happy, no mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts, but also to reunite with parents, the weekend family downstairs to eat a big meal, the long vacation abroad, parents did not dare to think of the desire to be realized, the son-in-law misses the mother-in-law and father-in-law's work, the old man has a great deal of respect for the two old man, simply do not have to live too happy.
The big city mother-in-law looked down on us outsiders, think I climbed her son, but she did not look at their son that dignity, my work is not bad, strong ability, good-looking, with her son more than enough, she also thought with no help to look at the child to pinch me, but did not think that I simply put the parents of the hometown picked up over. Now my parents live in the house of my in-laws, they dry angry but what is the use, their son is not willing to help them speak, who called them to think of difficult me, in fact, also put their son to be difficult it.
For their son, the in-laws know what it's like to give up the countryside property to live in a strange city, with a baby in a few years, never asked him to work and quality of life because of the child's impact, but the in-laws sacrificed the freedom and rest time day and night with his child, the more the child grows up, the more he understands the more beautiful, the more he misses the in-laws. But the in-laws have become a guest of our family, the child on the grandma and grandpa than grandparents pro much, New Year's holidays to my home, looking at my parents to open up the hospitality them, in-laws obviously unhappy, but a play face my husband with them angry, on the only son, and they can not tear their faces, the expression is really laughable.
Later, they are getting older and older, can not do what the demon, some things are not capable of needing a son and daughter-in-law, previously held in the hands of the deposits and real estate is not so tight hand, this time it is their turn to look at my face, but also to give the son of real estate is to give money to curry favor with us, thinking that when they can not be moved when we can make a dependency, or that, just a son, a thousand prevented by a thousand prevented by waiting for death is not a good thing. The first thing I want to do is to make sure that I have a good understanding of what I'm talking about and what I'm talking about.
According to the real story, you have seen this kind of smart daughter-in-law, she is the smartest is to take the husband to hold, as long as the husband is on her side, in-laws can not take her.
This issue should be analyzed from a legal point of view, an urban point of view, and a rural point of view.
①Legally speaking, it is legal for the in-laws not to give their daughter-in-law a child, and it is also legal for the daughter-in-law not to support her in-laws if she was not born to them. The problem is that when the mother-in-law is too old to get out of bed, it is inconvenient for the son to take care of it, and if the daughter-in-law doesn't help anymore, it will be tolerated or embarrassing. We should carry forward the fine tradition of mutual help.
② The city also has colleagues, the elderly do not give to see their grandchildren, the old can not move, daughter-in-law is still filial, the family spends money in the hospital to take care of the elderly, is rarely go back to visit the old man, the two sides are less affectionate are not guilty.
③ rural areas, I know of several families, the elderly do not give to see the child, a bunch of reasons, the old daughter-in-law to the old man to drive other places to live, so that the whole village said the daughter-in-law is not filial piety.
Fortunately, the vast majority of the elderly under the sky are heartbroken children. The human heart is meat long, good to the daughter-in-law, daughter-in-law to their own good, bad to the daughter-in-law, most of the daughter-in-law will hold a grudge and other old people can not move to see the old man joke