A psychologist once wrote that a mature relationship must go through four stages, that is:
* * * Storage (Interdependence)
Anti-dependence
Independence (independence)
* * * Students (interdependent)
The time required for the transition between stages is not necessarily different from person to person.
The first stage: * * save.
This is a period of passionate love. Whenever and wherever, lovers always want to be bored with each other.
The second stage: anti-dependence.
After emotional stability, at least one party will want to have more time to do what they want to do.
Then the other person will feel left out.
The third stage: independence.
This is a continuation of the second stage and requires more independent time.
The fourth stage: * * *.
At this time, a new way of getting along has taken shape, and you (your) he (she) has become your (your) closest person.
You support each other and create your own life together. You will grow up together, not hand in hand.
But unfortunately, most people can't pass the second or third stage and choose to break up.
A lot of things just need to be communicated well. Don't play with personality, think too much. Trust each other, so that the second and third stages will.
Shorten. It is not easy to meet and fall in love with the person you love. Don't give up easily.
Two people get together because of fate, and know each other because of intention. We really should cherish this blessing. Don't say that breaking up is not without reason. I hope to see the above four.
At this stage, we can really give you some enlightenment and understanding, cherish the fate, and we will gradually become the people we love.
You have nothing in common with him, you don't look alike, and your personality is completely opposite. Once you fall in love, you will be surprised at your eyes as you get older.
His eyes are a bit like his, and his smile is a bit like yours. You walk a little bit like that, and your tone of voice is getting more and more like that.
For example. He has a mole on his neck. One day, you find a mole on your neck. It turns out that we will be the people we love.
You like a down-to-earth person, but he is always frivolous.
But you fell in love, and he became an honest man before you knew it.
This change, even he didn't notice it.
He used to like lively girls, but later he fell in love with you.
You are getting more and more lively these days, and you can hardly recognize yourself.
We will gradually become each other's ideal people, and this change is definitely not intentional.
The longer two people love each other, the closer their temperament is.
You used to think he wasn't your dream girl,
However, one day, you are surprised to find that he has become your favorite type.
You don't have to look everywhere, he is the one you are looking for.
When you love someone deeply, you will really lose yourself bit by bit.
Why still feel happy?
Probably because when you lose it, you also win it.
You won back his temperament and smile.
Happiness is very simple, so people who want to be simple can easily get it. ......
I am a young man who has experienced many ups and downs in life. I want to express my views on life and love here, although it takes a long time. I hope you can read it carefully. I hope you can live a happy life!
In the following article, I hope you can find your ideal answer and get rid of your current troubles!
☆ Green Dance Flying ☆ "Life" ☆ Green Dance Flying ☆ QQ: 543845623
Why do people have to come into this world all their lives?
One word "love"
This is a sentence in "The Road to Human Growth": "The road is long and Xiu Yuan is awkward, and all of them are passers-by."
Come and go in a hurry, what did you get and what did you lose?
The most important thing is not what you got or lost, but what you met on the road!
Life is the process of finding love. Everyone has to find four people in his life.
oneself
2. The person you love most
3. The person who loves you the most
4. A person who can accompany you for a lifetime.
First you meet the person you love the most, and then you feel the feeling of love.
Because you know the feeling of love, you can find the person who loves you the most.
When you have experienced love and being loved and learned to love, you will know what you want.
Only in this way can you find the most suitable person to spend your life with.
Sadly, in real life, these three people are often not the same person.
So you think life is not perfect.
You feel happy and troubled.
Meeting different people at different times will have different results.
Meeting the right person at the right time is a lifelong happiness.
It is heartbreaking to meet the wrong person at the right time.
It is absurd to meet the wrong person at the wrong time.
Meeting the right person at the wrong time is a sigh.
What you love most often won't choose you;
What loves you most is often not what you love most;
And the longest is neither your favorite nor your favorite.
Just the one who showed up at the right time.
Don't be sad about anything, you will be easier said than done!
Use time to prove all this!
☆ Blue Dance Flying ☆ "Love" ☆ Blue Dance Flying ☆ QQ: 543845623
In life, many people ask what love is because they are confused.
Everyone has worldly desires, and love is just one of them.
Everyone came together because of loneliness. Maybe you came together with him because you like each other and both live in loneliness.
First love is like, then there is love, then there is affection. This is the simple explanation of love.
Love and liking are different, depending on whether you like it or love it.
Love is hard to find.
When you love someone, you will give everything for him. This is love.
Love is happiness, love is pain, love is happiness, love is sadness, love is helplessness!
Light love is like, deep love is love!
What I like is love, and what I like is affection!
Love is later love!
Love is when he is around, he is the only one in his eyes; Everything has his shadow when he is away.
I like reading in the middle of the night and suddenly think of him. I imagine what he is doing now, and I feel a faint warmth in my heart, but I never take the initiative to call him. After a few minutes, the attention was attracted by the plot in the book again!
Love is on a lonely night, when thoughts pour in and you can't see the book in your hand. I wonder if he is still working overtime, whether he has already had dinner, and whether he is thinking about himself as much as he is thinking about him.
Love is arguing with him and sticking to him like a hedgehog, but in my heart I have secretly admired his insight and talent.
Love wants him to keep pace with himself and connect with his heart. A joke he accidentally said can make him depressed and even burst into tears in an instant. In front of him, he is never defenseless.
I like to send him short messages when I go out, telling him that the weather here is fine, then turning off my cell phone, playing alone in a strange place for a week, and suddenly appearing in front of him to scare him after being tanned.
Love is wanting to be with him wherever you go. You can call him at the seaside and let him listen to the sound of the waves; You can also stay where you are for a long time because you see a figure exactly like him on the street in a foreign land.
Love is that he simply said "bon voyage" before going on a business trip. Looking at the back of his departure, he felt a little reluctant, but he didn't say anything, just silently waiting for the news of his return.
Love is telling him before going on a business trip, stuffing clothes and food into his backpack and not leaving until the train arrives at the station. And in the days after he left, he was uneasy every day, praying over and over again that he could return safely.
Love is when you are hurt, you don't want him to see your fragile side, quietly wipe away your tears in front of him, and turn your head and still look happy and strong.
Love is crawling on his chest and crying when he is wronged, telling him all his troubles without hiding or worrying, eager to get comfort from his arms.
I like to eat KFC with him when he is tired of shopping on weekends. Is to grab a cup of hot coffee with him in the cold winter; Is to walk side by side with him in the street, always separated by half a meter; I played games with him in front of the computer, and they laughed like children.
Love is cooking a few good dishes for half a day at the weekend and watching him eat contentedly; It is in the cold winter that the water is continuously heated for his coffee cup; Is to walk with him in the street and let him hold his hand tightly; I sat quietly beside him and watched him concentrate on his work in front of the computer happily.
What I like is to listen to his funny stories when I was a child, and then laugh, which makes me feel inexplicably moved.
Love is listening to him tell interesting stories about his childhood, and then smiling, showing more pity for this once naughty man.
I like to meet him in the corridor, greet him happily, and then exchange a few simple greetings. When I passed by, I saw the bright sunshine outside the window, and my mood was inexplicably better.
Love is seeing him in the corridor, pretending not to care about his face, but feeling the trembling air around you carefully when passing by, so I can't help looking back.
I like to see him walking hand in hand with another girl. My heart hurts a little, but I will soon raise my smiling face again in Chaoyang.
Love is a game that you can't afford to lose without love. What you left behind may just be a scar engraved in your heart.
If you like a person, you want him to be your own, so you can like many people and hope many people are your own.
Love is obviously inseparable from him, but I want to give him up, because he wants happiness, maybe I can't give it. Dare not possess him, I hope to see him find happiness, even if that happiness is not shared with me.
I like it. When I am lonely, bored or sad, I hope I can talk to someone.
Love is that you want to share with him at any time, and even want to give him all the happiness when you are happy.
I like to hear from him when I haven't contacted him for a long time, and then listen to him with a smile.
Love is to call him in a hurry after a few days of no contact, and then hold back tears and smile.
Yes, only when we are together will we think of each other.
Love, even when we are together, misses him every second.
If you like someone, most of your friends will feel happy.
Loving one person is a world of two people, and one more person will feel uncomfortable.
It is sweet to like someone. Love a person, is bitter or sweet.
If you like someone, you will be very happy when you are together.
Love a person, together, will be inexplicably lost.
If you like someone, you won't think about the future.
If you love someone, you often look forward to tomorrow together.
If you like someone, you will always be happy together.
If you love someone, you will often cry.
Like a person, when I haven't seen him for a long time, I will suddenly think of him.
Love someone, when you haven't seen him for a long time, you will think of him every day.
If you like someone, you will smile when you think of him.
Love a person, when you think of him, you will look at the sky blankly.
If you like a person, you will think that if he has children, you will like it very much.
Love someone, and one day, you suddenly think: What will our children be like in the future?
To like someone is to hope everyone is happy.
Love a person and hope he is happier.
If you like someone, all you want is today.
Love a person, what you expect is forever.
To like a person is to look at his merits.
To love someone is to tolerate his shortcomings.
When you stand in front of the person you love, your heart will beat faster.
But when you stand in front of the person you like, you will only feel happy.
When you meet someone you love, you will be shy.
But when you look at the person you like, you just smile.
When you talk to someone you love, you will feel embarrassed.
But if you talk to someone you like, you can speak freely.
When the person you love cries, you will cry with her.
But when the person you like cries, you will comfort her skillfully.
When you don't want to love someone anymore, you should close your eyes and hold back your tears.
When you don't want to like someone anymore, you just have to cover your ears!
Like, is a kind of mood love, is an emotion.
Like, is an intuitive love, is a feeling.
If you like, you can stop loving, there is no end.
Like a person, especially naturally love a person, especially calm.
Like a person, sometimes I hope to be with him, love a person, and sometimes I am afraid to be with him.
Like someone and argue with him constantly.
Love a person and always pay for him.
Like a person, I hope he can find himself at any time
Love someone and hope to find him at any time.
Like a person, always smile for him, love a person and always cry for him.
Like, is persistent love, worth it.
Like is like, very simple love is love, very complicated.
I like you, but I don't necessarily love you. If I love you, I must like you very much.
In fact, like and love are only one step away.
However, this step is up to you.
I like to take this step
Still love to take this step
Love is love,
Love is followed by love.
This is love!
Whether you like it or love it, you should see clearly whether your choice is what you really want or because of loneliness.
☆ Blue Dance Flying ☆ "Love" ☆ Blue Dance Flying ☆ QQ: 543845623
As long as there is affection in one's life, there will be love. Only when we like each other and love each other can we be called love.
The more people in love love, the more stupid they look. Nothing is like this. He can feel it. Since you are in love, you should cherish it and don't ask for anything easily. Love is not having each other, but tolerating each other. Love his strengths and his weaknesses. People in love like to change each other's things to get the results they want, and don't deliberately change each other's things. Maybe you love him now. If you change, you may not love him. Maybe your behavior made him stop loving you.
Love is equal, love needs no reason, love is love, don't expect too much!
☆ Green Dance Flying ☆ "First Love" ☆ Green Dance Flying ☆ QQ: 543845623
Where there is love, there is first love, a process that managers are born to go through.
Someone once asked me, what is the possibility of first love lasting forever?
People who first love each other will give their most sincere hearts to each other, because they are inexperienced in first love. Generally speaking, there is little chance of success, but don't lose heart. Everything depends on your own efforts. I hope that the first love person will not think too much, feel the happiness now, and take the opportunity and destiny in their own hands!
☆ Blue Dance Flying ☆ "Lost Love" ☆ Blue Dance Flying ☆ QQ: 543845623
Love is bound to be lovelorn, and lovelorn people often recall their past sadly on Baidu. But it's all over, there's no need to think too much.
No one wants to change his mind on purpose. He really loves you when he loves you.
But when he doesn't love you, he really doesn't love you
If he loves you, he can't pretend not to love you.
But when he doesn't love you, he can't pretend to love you.
When a person doesn't love you and wants to leave.
You should also ask yourself if you still love him.
If you don't love him, don't be reluctant to leave because of your poor self-esteem.
If you still love him, you should wish him happiness.
I hope he is with the person he really loves, and don't stop him.
If you stop him from realizing his happiness, you don't love him.
If you don't love him, who are you to accuse him of changing his mind?
Love is not possession.
You like the moon, but you can't take it down and put it in the washbasin.
But the moonlight can still shine into your room.
In other words, if you love someone, you can have it in another way.
Let the person you love become a beautiful memory in your life!